Divorce...

[pushka]

Well said Estump and Amillia...now I wonder if Cal and DisRuptive1 are willing to compromise a little on their definitions in order to resolve this endless circle of arguments, or whether they are as stubborn as mules

[Guest estump]

Cal I am not unhappy being 'poor'. I don't want for anything....well a new car, but that will come w/ time.

PLUS Cal, when you've literally had to bury your own flesh and blood, (in our case, our youngest daughter) you gain perspective. I grew up w/ less than I have now. So did my husband....so we consider it an advancement. We are also BOTH working to change our circumstances. I certainly don't expect HIM to shoulder all of the work to get us where we need to be. It's a team effort. I think it's wrong to blanket women under a general statement of needing and wanting nothing else but money. It just isn't true. You haven't met a lot of women then. You've just met the wrong kind.

MONEY is not everything. Does it help...sure....but I'd rather have my daughter back and so would my husband. The reason we are 'poor' is because we are paying off her medical bills. I'd/We'd do it again and again and again. My husband is the hardest working man I know...the most ingenious man...and the biggest hearted man. I am content, because I LOVE him. I am so sorry you have had crappy marital relations. I am sorry you have met so many woman who care about a $ and selfish gain. It is truly sad.

I really feel sorry for the experiences you have had to make you sound so bitter and cynical. Maybe you aren't....but you do come off that way.

Oh, and a seattle 2....

VERY funny

There you go w/ the assumptions about what I am and where I came from.

You're a few states shy and a whole boat load of numbers short.

[DisRuptive1]

estump, you ain't a 9, that's for sure.

And you're right, that Cal has probably met the wrong women. But it's hard to find the right one when most of the women out there are attracted to you first by your money (or rather attracted to someone uglier and worse in bed, but richer than you).

[Guest estump]

aaaaaaah...that's personal opinion, Disruptive. We all have our varying attractions. What we think are 9 and 10's are very different I am sure. I find that for me...if men are not into redheads...then they simply are not attracted. However, I had enough marriage proposals to know that I was at the VERY least, an 8. Of course the only person's opinion that truly matters is mine and my hubbys.

Again you're meeting the wrong women or live in the wrong state. I don't know. If you're attracted to the extremely perfect 10 hotties out there....then you're going to get what you bargain for. What you get in looks, you SEVERLY lack in a realistic personality, good heart and spirit. There are plenty of good looking women....yes us 8's and above who are perfectly willing to get to know the person. As you get older, you'll see that. My brother had to go through a couple of 11's, 2 broken marriages to realize that an 8 was perfectly acceptable and a MUCH better match for him. He is getting remarried for the 3rd time and we are all optimistic. This girl is cute/pretty....not perfect, nor the Cali 10's of which he was used to dating..smart, kind and has a good head on her shoulders. He's happier than he's ever been. He had to get through his 20's to realize that.

So it just depends, in the end what you put yourself through and what you will settle for.

[Amillia]

Originally posted by DisRuptive1@Feb 21 2005, 04:40 PM

estump, you ain't a 9, that's for sure.

And you're right, that Cal has probably met the wrong women. But it's hard to find the right one when most of the women out there are attracted to you first by your money (or rather attracted to someone uglier and worse in bed, but richer than you).

Dress down and drive a dumpy car when out catting around for a woman.