Fathering Rec's - Daddy to Son

[Dr T]

Let him fail and stand beside him as he does. (This one can be difficult)

[Dr T]

Teach him good hygiene (don't forget flossing counts too :) ).

[Dr T]

Expect changes in your adolescent's behavior and distinguish between normal and abnormal teen behavior. Allow for normal teen behavior.

[Dr T]

Make time to be alone with him. :)

[Dr T]

Meet his girlfriends

[Dr T]

Remember that you are an adult and until they are they are not. Treat them with the proper developmental level.

[Dr T]

Teach him he doesn't have to hit to get his point across

[Dr T]

Promote a sense of wonder in his life :)

Edited July 27, 2009 by Dr T

[Dr T]

Teach him to value time and to be time conscious.

[Dr T]

If he is going to be late for some reason, teach him to contact the person as soon as he figures out that he will be late. Teach him not to make showing up late a habit

[Dr T]

Praise or uplift your son when you can. To do this in front of others has been shown to carry more weight with that behavior (for your son's ego)

[Dr T]

Do not talk down to your son, especially in front of his friends.

[Dr T]

Teach him to compliment a good deed.

[Dr T]

Take him on a walk and introduce him to bugs and ants and animals.

[Dr T]

Teach him what's really important in life.

[Dr T]

Teach him about respecting others and respect for himself.

[Dr T]

Teach him about integrity by keeping your word :)

[Guest]

Teach him when daddy's not home, he will have to trap the bug and throw it outside. Mommys don't do bugs.

[Dr T]

That's a good one Anatess and it's true in my home

[Guest]

Read to them, especially when they're young. They will learn to "open their eyes" and learn about anything with the help of a really good book - fiction stories included.

(For example, I learned about the plight of Jews and Christian people helping out Jews in World War II from the true story book The Hiding Place by Corrie Ten Boom. I learned about good German soldiers from the same book. I learned about the conditions of concentration camps from the same book. And with the same book, I learned about the power of forgiveness.)

[Guest]

Encourage them to build things. So what if they happen to dig up a big hole in the backyard to build their fort, and so what if they used up all the winter firewood plus all the Christmas packing boxes and the entire roll of duct tape. There are just some things worth letting the kids have no matter how much you need them.

[Dr T]

Offer him choices (when you are able).

[Dr T]

Be a good example-be his hero :)

[Dr T]

Teach him things. (Do not assume he knows, ask if he does, show him how and watch him do it)

[Guest]

Teach him not to say "I know" when somebody is saying something he already knows. Instead, teach him to listen attentively even if he already knows because you never know if some little tidbit of info might come up that one can learn from!