Fathering Rec's - Daddy to Son

[Dr T]

Teach him to stand up for what is right and to do it respectfully when he does.

[Dr T]

Teach him that intentions are admirable (to a degree) but actions showmore and weigh more than mere words.

[Dr T]

Walk him through your decision making process so he understands how to make decisions of his own.

[Dr T]

Show him by example how to forgive.

[Dr T]

When he's guilty, do not bail him out but give him the opportunity to make amends and ask for forgiveness.

[Dr T]

Encourage self-confidence :)

[Dr T]

Practice with him on whatever he wants to get better at and help him practice correctly.

[Dr T]

Make time to talk to him about appropriate sexuality.

[Dr T]

While talking to him, give him not only directives but also an understanding of what is required. This will help him think and helps with motivation.

[Dr T]

Talk to him often about college. It was always a given in my life that it goes elementary, junior high, high school, college and then whatever. It was just known.

[Dr T]

Teach him that there are many things he can learn from older men (the things that worked and the things that didn't for the person from whom he is learning).

[Dr T]

Show him that you love his mother.

[Dr T]

Teach him to be a man that listens, really listens, to the words and body language of people.

[Dr T]

Do all you can to show him respect. :)

[Dr T]

Support and guide him in experiencing things. Sometimes it's scary to try something new and with your support and assistance with his decisions, he will grow in making smart choices and feel like he has a safety net when needed.

[Dr T]

Teach him to never start a fight.

[Dr T]

When he gets old enough, encourage him to ask out the cute girl that he finds attractive. :)

[Dr T]

No matter what your job is, make your real job the thing that starts when your front wheels hit the driveway. (I don't know if I wrote that one as a rec in this thread before)

[Dr T]

Sit down for a meal together (daily or nightly) as often as possible and make that a high priority.

[Dr T]

It's ok to be alone at times. Teach him the difference between being alone and being lonely. :)

[Dr T]

Young boys lose things that can easily be replaced. When he gets old enough teach him that if he loses something then he'll have to do without unless he can buy another. This will teach him to care for his things.

[Dr T]

Allow him to teach others.

[Dr T]

Teach him to do what is right, because it is right, regardless of who is watching and even when nobody is watching.

[Dr T]

Teach him not to burn bridges.

Edited January 21, 2011 by Dr T

[Dr T]

Make sure he knows what is expected from him.