new2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Report Posted January 1, 2010 I am 35 and single in the church. I haven't stressed about it too much and have held the attitude of enjoying life and people. However, I have found that it has become quite lonely spiritually and socially to be over 30 and single in the church. Any suggestions out there? Quote
beefche Posted January 1, 2010 Report Posted January 1, 2010 I'm a single member over 35 in the church. I find a couple of things help my loneliness. One is my activity in church and church callings. I find that when I serve in my callings and in other ways, that I realize that others need so much help and feel just as lonely. There are times when I don't want to serve or do something, but I remind myself it's not all about me. Sometimes I attend activities where I know I'm going to be miserable but also know that if I go and look for someone who needs a friend, then my going is not in vain. The other thing that helps is to live my life as I desire. I mean that I am trying my best to be the person I want to be. I live by integrity and the Lord's commandments to my best ability, repenting as needed. I spend time with my family, spend time in my career, spend time with the friends I have. I keep busy doing the things I love to do--my hobbies and interests. I also realize that loneliness is a natural part of this life for everyone. Whether married or single, individuals experience loneliness. As single members, we have more opportunity to feel this emotion, but it helps me to realize that it is natural and I must learn to deal with it. Quote
Moksha Posted January 1, 2010 Report Posted January 1, 2010 You are both 35 and single?! Chances are you are both mammalian and breath air too. Might you have other things in common? Quote
tubaloth Posted January 2, 2010 Report Posted January 2, 2010 I'm getting there, and with my younger brother getting married this year (it is 2010 now) I would be the last single in the family. I always knew I probably would be last, but it does start to worry me. And not even the next year or two. It worries me that I'm going to be like 50 or 60 and single. I guess the plus side is I won't be a bishop. Quote
RanMan Posted January 3, 2010 Report Posted January 3, 2010 If it helps any, I was single until I was 38 and found a wonderful woman who married me. And I have two good friends that have pretty much the same story. Single until 38 and 39 and they found wives that were ideally suited for them. :) Quote
sulli Posted January 10, 2010 Report Posted January 10, 2010 I hear you. I am 29 and single. The church is just not built for single people. The basic unit of the church is the family. I have yet to go to a family ward that did not want to throw me in the primary. I always felt like I as an older single must have warts or something since they did not want to see me. Isolate the single slightly lonely person even more by removing them from all other adults... SIGH... Quote
Vanhin Posted January 10, 2010 Report Posted January 10, 2010 I'm 35 and married. Which is good cause I turned really ugly when I hit 30. Vanhin Quote
Jbs2763 Posted January 10, 2010 Report Posted January 10, 2010 im 30, single, tattooed an not an RM... Quote
kileyizzle Posted January 10, 2010 Report Posted January 10, 2010 22 , recent convert, voice my opinons frequently and loudly... Being alone builds strength i reckon, there is always an outlet, be it here, or in your own ways :) Regaurdless of being single there will always be love in your life :) Quote
beefche Posted January 10, 2010 Report Posted January 10, 2010 I hear you. I am 29 and single. The church is just not built for single people. The basic unit of the church is the family. I have yet to go to a family ward that did not want to throw me in the primary. I always felt like I as an older single must have warts or something since they did not want to see me. Isolate the single slightly lonely person even more by removing them from all other adults... SIGH...Wow, how do you luck out to be in Primary all the time? I think it would be fantastic to serve there. Kids LOVE their teachers, you have such an influence on them, and you get to play and sing more than if you sit in the boring old Gospel Doctrine and Relief Society. Quote
Dravin Posted January 10, 2010 Report Posted January 10, 2010 I think I'd cry if I got put in Primary. Of course, come to think of it, most likely the kids would as well. :) Quote
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