It Sounds So Stuck Up?

[Winnie G]

Ok due to my husbands injuries and nerve damage and other reasons the VA has decided that they want to send in cleaners to our home, its part of the VA they provide services like snow removal and house keeping.

I have a torn tendon in my ankle.

So they have come twice, at first it was really wearied and I usually leave the house when there here.

My problem how do you tell people “Oh I have a house keeper” it sounds so stuck up?

Its taken getting use to but talk about a spit shine on the house when you come home.

Any ideas? :)

[pushka]

Well Winnie...if you're in physical difficulties and someone offers to help clean your home, I would feel happy and proud about it, and if the people you explained to, that you had a home help, knew of your circumstances then they ought not to judge you as 'stuck up'.

[USNationalist]

What you do is mold your life style to fit your new servents. Buy your husband a monical and start drinking alot of tea.

[Lindy]

Originally posted by USNationalist@Nov 20 2005, 11:20 PM

What you do is mold your life style to fit your new servents. Buy your husband a monical and start drinking alot of tea.

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ROFL that was great USN

Oh Winnie! WHY would the subject come up in conversation in the fist place? LOL

"Oh, excuse me while I take this call from home....mmm yes, ok....I need to run to 7-11 and grab a slurpee and a newspaper, and I mustn't forget to stop by the hardware store to pick up something that the HOUSEKEEPER needs to clean with tomorrow. and what was it that you needed from McDonalds dear?"

"Sorry about the delay getting to work today, the HOUSEKEEPER had my car blocked in and I had to have it moved before I could leave...you just can't get good help these days."

ROFL Winnie...I wouldn't worry about it...

but sorry about the ankle

[Josie]

Winniw, this is really a normal thing in our world today. When both of you are unable to take care of the house , due to disabling health, it can be provided through your insurance, in this case, VA.

Don't call them your housekeepers, they are just helping you out. If someone asks, that is what you tell them. They are just helping me out right now, with everything that is going on. Don't be a shamed and don't feel like it will or should be a big deal to anyone. Enjoy it, appreciate it, (which I am sure you do, I would with an injured ankle) and let it go. Think of it as just an extra blessing right now...

It really is okay to have alittle help when you need it. It is nice that they were willing to set it up for you. You should not feel bad about it and you can tell who you want and it is no one else's business.

[TXRed]

Winnie,

I understand how you feel . . . . . . people act weird when they find out that you have help (unless you are 80 or 90).

Truth is that most of the time, they make fun and tease simply, because they don't know what else to do or say. (they are uncomfortable) Plus, many of them are jealous that they don't have help. (I speak from experience. . . . . . I'm jealous. . . . . I could sure use some help right now. )

It really is not anyone's business, and you definitely don't have any reason to feel guilty about it. It is a real blessing; so try to enjoy it while you have it. (I know, easier said than done.)

If you find it difficult to deal with, make a joke about it yourself. It's a little bit harder for people to tease or "get your goat" (annoy you) about a situation if you are joking about it and making fun of the situation yourself. It's just no fun at all picking on someone who is poking fun at themselves.

Peace,

TXRed

[Justlooking]

I know lots of people who have housekeepers. Its not a stuck up thing, but sometimes a necesity with both husbands and wives working and huge houses to care for.

Its a very lucrative business. A friend of mine started her own and how has expanded to not only clean homes but offices as well.

So just relax, and use this time to follow your doctors oders to heal your injuries.

By the way, dont look down on the spit shine, you are blessed to have someone who does a thorough job. Not all do.

:)

[john doe]

Winnie,

If you are that worried about how it will look to others, just send the people over to my house, I can come up with plenty of chores, and it won't bother me at all for my neighbors to know they are doing things for me. How would they feel about doing a little traveling and hanging my Christmas lights? I've got a family room that needs to be cleaned too.

[Setheus]

I think this whole thread was an excuse to run in our face that she has a house keeper. Wooopah-dee-doooooooo!

I pick up my dogs' poop...they're awsome too.