iam ex how do i make people like me

[swb25]

i have done all i can at dances church i feel everyone is still not forgiveing of my past:mad: iam ex lds but go church iam trying to fit in iam the only that left a church ball game because of cussing and how the guys were not a brotherhood

Edited April 3, 2011 by swb25

[MormonMama]

What do you mean by "all I have done at dances"?

While you don't have to give the details of your past, it's hard to know what advice to give based on your post. Do you mean you're an ex-Mormon? Have you returned to church? Or do you mean you're an "ex" as in divorced? I just can't tell from that one sentence what you're referring to exactly.

[swb25]

iam coming back to the church

i just not been woclome back by some people maybe it just god show me i do not belong thanks but i am not sure what say

[MormonMama]

If people are being unwelcoming, then it's more likely that they are just jerks. I wouldn't let jerks keep you away from the Gospel and the Church if you believe it's true. Don't let people like that interfere with your eternal destiny.

[bcguy]

I knew a few lds jerks in my time. They dont talk to you, ignore you or stick there noses up at you. Yet, who are they talking to? A Veteran of the armed forces.

[Wingnut]

You can't make people like you, no matter how hard you try.

[pam]

I knew a few lds jerks in my time. They dont talk to you, ignore you or stick there noses up at you. Yet, who are they talking to? A Veteran of the armed forces.

And I've known a few veterans of the armed forces who have the attitude that people should worship them for serving their country. Attitude goes both ways.

[blackknight5k]

Church isn't about the people, it's about you and God. Just go to get closer to our Heavenly Father. My dad had a hard time getting back into church for this same reason, but after fighting through it he and my step-mom were able to get sealed in the temple a few months back. He is happier than I can ever remember him being and that helped push me into activity.

Keep going, don't give up.

[JudoMinja]

If people don't like you, they don't like you. You cannot make another person like you, and it doesn't really matter if they do or not. Other people do not determine your salvation, and being liked is not the most important thing in the world. We all want to feel welcome and have friends, sure, but sometimes this isn't possible. Sometimes the greatest people are rejected and persecuted around every bend.

What matters the most is your place with God and whether or not HE is happy with you. If you are doing everything in your power to make yourself right with Him, don't worry about everyone else.

If you are upset because the "dating" aspect of the church isn't going so well, try doing a little introspection. Would you want to date someone like yourself? Are you happy with yourself the way you are? If so, great. Keep up the good work, and eventually you will find someone who also loves you for who you are. If not, figure out what you need to do to get there and start working on it. Worry about dating AFTER you are that person you really want to be.

[applepansy]

Our perceptions can be faulty.

Sometimes it feels like someone doesn't like us ... But inside they are filled with feelings of doubt themselves.

Sometimes if feels or appears that someone has deliberately snubbed us ... But they are distracted by worries about a sick child/parent/spouse.

Sometimes when if feels that nobody is saying hi or smiling at us ... Its because we aren't saying hi or smiling either.

Sometimes its best to put our negative feelings aside, reach out of our comfort zone, and talk to the people around us. Let them get to know our heart. Ask how we can be of service. Smile. Say hi.

It is Satan who takes our insecurities and blows them up to look like insurmountable odds. Don't fall for it.

Can people be jerks? Yes. Are all people jerks? No!

Never let other people keep you from your Heavenly Father.

[jlf9999]

Consider two things for a moment: #1 Why some folks are hesitant to mix and #2 If we look at them disapprovingly are we not doing what we find objectionable in them? Bonding, which is what we all seek to some degree, is a process not an event. It begins with trust and is dampened by fear. Fear of the unknown and fear of being damaged or compromised. Those are our internal demons and each of us has them.

Maybe the first step is to understand and the next is to be understood. In fact I suggest being understood is the other person's province and we have little we can do about it. It comes with time. So maybe the first thing to do is just show up. Participate as you feel comfortable. Learn how to be the new guy. That means just be patient, open when asked and do your part when called upon. But just relax and look for things to enjoy. Find genuine opportunities for joy and don't see the shortcomings in others. Seek opportunities to feel the Spirit and the disgruntled feelings will go away.

One other thought - reject worldliness first. Worldly thinking compromises everything. That doesn't mean be perfect but begin the process of changing playgrounds, playmates and playthings and replace them with uplifting and spirit-enhancing places and activities. You will be amazed at how quickly those other people will morph into "I guess they aren't' so bad after all". In doing these few things you will learn how to be taught by the Spirit.

Edited April 4, 2011 by jlf9999