Mixed-faith marriage...can it work?

[estradling75]

Does that make better sense now?

It does.... So if you were ask to advise someone that had the choice on which 'big issue' items to add to their marriage. Would you advocate adding more 'big issues' or less 'big issues?'

[Guest]

It does.... So if you were ask to advise someone that had the choice on which 'big issue' items to add to their marriage. Would you advocate adding more 'big issues' or less 'big issues?'

I say, if you can deal with ONE big issue, you are more than capable of dealing with ANY issue... Big or Small.

It's like this... if you already know how to solve multiplication problems, it doesn't matter if you are given 10 problems or 100... you can solve them all.

[estradling75]

I say, if you can deal with ONE big issue, you are more than capable of dealing with ANY issue... Big or Small.

It's like this... if you already know how to solve multiplication problems, it doesn't matter if you are given 10 problems or 100... you can solve them all.

So is that a yes or a no on what you would advise a friend to do if they had a choice?

[Guest]

So is that a yes or a no on what you would advise a friend to do if they had a choice?

What's the choice?

[estradling75]

What's the choice?

Rephrasing the full question

So if you were ask to advise someone considering marriage and therefore had a choice on which 'big issue' items to add to their marriage. Would you advocate adding more 'big issues' or less 'big issues?'

[Guest]

Rephrasing the full question

So if you were ask to advise someone considering marriage and therefore had a choice on which 'big issue' items to add to their marriage. Would you advocate adding more 'big issues' or less 'big issues?'

That's not how I approach marriage at all. You don't get a "choice on big issue versus small issue"....

My stance is - if you can't handle an issue - ANY issue big or small... don't get married.

[estradling75]

That's not how I approach marriage at all. You don't get a "choice on big issue versus small issue"....

My stance is - if you can't handle an issue - ANY issue big or small... don't get married.

So you are binary.... Either you can handle everything or you can't. That is rather extreme view and not matching what many of us have seen in real life. The phrase the Straw that Broke the Camel Back is a very real thing to many of us. So we watch carefully the loads we take on or recommend. And you do get a choice on many (not all) of the big issue in marriage. Don't want to deal with mixed faith then don't marry some one of a different faith

[Guest]

So you are binary.... Either you can handle everything or you can't. That is rather extreme view and not matching what many of us have seen in real life. The phrase the Straw that Broke the Camel Back is a very real thing to many of us. So we watch carefully the loads we take on or recommend. And you do get a choice on many (not all) of the big issue in marriage. Don't want to deal with mixed faith then don't marry some one of a different faith

Yes, it is THAT binary. Because, I am completely in the DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION world. Therefore, in my perspective - you better be sure you can deal with ANYTHING that comes up in your marriage, otherewise, DON'T GET MARRIED! Yes, you get a choice. The choice is MARRY OR NOT.

If you put a limit to what you can handle, then you are acknowledging that you need a way OUT if you hit that limit.

There is NO LIMIT to my marriage. The reason why I can shed the limit is because I knew my husband very well before we got married. I know he is not capable of stuff I can't handle.

For example - you want to put a limit on - can't handle the conflicts that exist in mixed-faith marriages (not counting temple worthiness)... then you shouldn't marry somebody of a different race, you shouldn't marry somebody of a different cultural background, somebody who grew up differently than you, somebody of a different political affiliation, somebody of different educational level or financial status... because if you can't handle one - you can't handle the other either.

Edited May 4, 2011 by anatess

[estradling75]

Yes, it is THAT binary. Because, I am completely in the DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION world. Therefore, in my perspective - you better be sure you can deal with ANYTHING that comes up in your marriage, otherewise, DON'T GET MARRIED! Yes, you get a choice. The choice is MARRY OR NOT.

If you put a limit to what you can handle, then you are acknowledging that you need a way OUT if you hit that limit.

There is NO LIMIT to my marriage. The reason why I can shed the limit is because I knew my husband very well before we got married. I know he is not capable of stuff I can't handle.

Which is the very point of this thread... OP is asking should she get married to what is a mixed faith marriage...

She needs to know if she is up for it... And that is exactly the answer neither side (or anyone on this board for that matter) can give her.

[Guest]

Which is the very point of this thread... OP is asking should she get married to what is a mixed faith marriage...

She needs to know if she is up for it... And that is exactly the answer neither side (or anyone on this board for that matter) can give her.

Yes. And I told her as much. Somewhere on page 1.

Because... mixed marriages can work. But it is predicated by certain qualities that need to be present in the marriage. Qualities that not only mixed-marriages require... but ANY marriage requires but is more prominent in mixed-marriages.