AirForce Posted July 11, 2011 Report Posted July 11, 2011 Hi this is my first post here. I am in a bad situation and I need help. Last year I repented about some petting I committed with my girlfriend. My dad was the bishop and he was so mad at me it wasnt even funny. He literally hated me for a couple of months. I was told to dump her and I didnt because I thought there was no way Id do it again. But needless to say I did. Now here is my problem. I lied with my melkezidek interviews and I was just sustained last night. I am away for college so I am in a different stake. I know I need to talk to my bishop here at college but I am pooping my pants about it. I cant have my dad find out. He will hate me all over again. Will my bishop here tell my stake president at home or my dad? I seriously cannot have that happen. If I repent here will my sustaining be revoked or something? I know I need to repent before I get the melk. And will my mission be delayed? Quote
AirForce Posted July 11, 2011 Author Report Posted July 11, 2011 The thing is im a multiple so if Im delayed then my brother will be going way before me so my dad would find out. And Im supposed to be ordained in a month. Im planning on repenting this week. I wouldnt mind having my ordination delayed a couple weeks or even months. Quote
Vort Posted July 11, 2011 Report Posted July 11, 2011 Hi this is my first post here. I am in a bad situation and I need help. Last year I repented about some petting I committed with my girlfriend. My dad was the bishop and he was so mad at me it wasnt even funny. He literally hated me for a couple of months. I was told to dump her and I didnt because I thought there was no way Id do it again. But needless to say I did. Now here is my problem. I lied with my melkezidek interviews and I was just sustained last night. I am away for college so I am in a different stake. I know I need to talk to my bishop here at college but I am pooping my pants about it. I cant have my dad find out. He will hate me all over again. Will my bishop here tell my stake president at home or my dad? I seriously cannot have that happen. If I repent here will my sustaining be revoked or something? I know I need to repent before I get the melk. And will my mission be delayed?The thing is im a multiple so if Im delayed then my brother will be going way before me so my dad would find out. And Im supposed to be ordained in a month. Im planning on repenting this week. I wouldnt mind having my ordination delayed a couple weeks or even months.A few things:Your father would not find out. There would be no reason for your stake president to contact your father.As a father, I can state with some confidence that your father did not "hate" you. He may have reacted very badly; if so, shame on him.You can't repent "this week". Repentance is not a scheduled event, like teeth cleaning. Your repentance will take as long as it takes to make you right with God. Depending on the nature and depth of your transgression, it might be as quick as the stake president saying "Don't do that any more" or as long as six months or a year -- or as long as it takes you to be able to reject the sin from your heart and turn to Christ.I think your focus is on the wrong thing. The point is to make yourself right with God and be cleansed of uncleanness. Worrying about how mad Dad might get is irrelevant. Quote
JudoMinja Posted July 11, 2011 Report Posted July 11, 2011 Repenting won't happen quick just because you want it to. Confessing to your bishop does not = repentance. It is an important step to your repentance process, but it is not that easy. Repentance takes time, because it affects a literal change within you so that you no longer desire the sin. I can see why you are fearful of confessing and going through with that process after the experience you had with your father/bishop previously. That was poorly handled on his part. While he should have kept his capacities as your bishop and father separate, we are all human and can have a hard time drawing lines like that when times call for it. His anger as your father stunted his ability to serve as a help in your repentance process as your bishop, so I would say that you never really fully completed your repentance the first time and that is why you are now in this pickle. Your father does not have to know why there is a delay (if there is one). He is not your bishop now, and this sin has no direct affect on him, so there is no need to confess it to him. If your brother ends up going on his mission before you, there could be any number of reasons why a delay would happen, and if you are worried about your father's reaction, you don't have to tell him why. Just tell him that you are still in the process of getting yourself ready for your mission and you will go when both you and the Lord agree that you are ready. Quote
Connie Posted July 11, 2011 Report Posted July 11, 2011 Airforce, Unfortunately, my talents in soothsaying are not sufficient to be able to say with any degree of certainty what a random anonymous bishop would say to a random anonymous guy about his sins. I think you will just have to go talk to him and find out. The point is getting yourself right with your Heavenly Father. How your earthly father reacts to whatever is his problem, not yours. Quote
AirForce Posted July 11, 2011 Author Report Posted July 11, 2011 And another thing. I attend BYU so would I be kicked out due to the honor code? Quote
Vort Posted July 11, 2011 Report Posted July 11, 2011 This is the wrong venue to ask. Talk to your bishop. Quote
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