15 years post Divorce and battles still pop up

[kathysmike]

15 Long Years post divorce, and ex still needs to try and play that one ups one game.

This past June I took custody of our 14 year old son.

I thought we could avoid all the court drama of custody court by agreeing to reasonable parenting time being available for the non coustotiual Parent.

Things have gone rather smooth however she did total out a car durring one of her trips afterpicking him up.

Bruce recently began seeing a councselor, in thier first sesion It came out the his mothers driving made him very nervous and uncomflrtable. It was suggested that we approach her with this idea, she agreed to have alternative drivers the first weekend of her time.

The folowing week She pops up at the session uninvited insisting to sit in on tje session, Mr. Gutman took her in for about ten minutes told as little as he could under the HIPPA and other privacy laws would allow than sent her on her way home.

Today I got an e-mail from her saying she will be here to pick him up every other friday and drop him off on Sunday before 10, since he refuses to attend her ward. She was not going to take into account Bruce's feelings of discomfort all that matters is she getes "HER TIME" I replied that I need an e-mail by Wednesday of the week she planned on picking him up in as things change.

Recently her calls to talk to Cole durring the weeks have been to confront him over $1.05 charge to her debit card for ITUNES while he was here, he had not even been on the computer that day. She has also called and yelled at him for a bag of Taco Bell he left in her car 10 days ago that now had worms.

Once the divorce order is finalize the years of stupid battles and bickerings start.

I personaly decided early on that she would never make me drink jars of pickle juice.

I started early on praying for those who despitfuly use me, it works, somtimes it takes lots of prayers and patients.

[applepansy]

I've observed that divorce rarely stops the fighting. When there are children involved the fighting just gets worse.

I'm sorry your son is in the middle of this. I would recommend working hard to keep him out if it at least on your side.

[IamMe]

I don't know how to do the fancy quotes, but here goes anyway:

"This past June I took custody of our 14 year old son."

Please, PLEASE do NOT refer to your son as a possession. This irks me beyond belief in custody matters. So many parents do it. Never is a child a possession.

"since he refuses to attend her ward."

More so to your ex, pick your battles. Is he attending A ward? Which ward really shouldn't matter.

Beyond that, your son is 14. Usually by this age, it's no longer what the parents want at all. Assuming there's no extreme safety issues, then children of this age usually start to float to where they want to be. And most courts in my experience, don't interfere.

Applepansy has it right, divorce rarely stops the fighting. When there's kids involved, they seem to be used as pawns, alot. I would reccomend you try to sit down and communicate everything that everyone is feeling, easier said than done, I know.

[pam]

Please, PLEASE do NOT refer to your son as a possession. This irks me beyond belief in custody matters. So many parents do it. Never is a child a possession.

I don't see where he alluded that his son is a possession. He merely used the legal phrase wording that he now has custody of his son.