Older single less-active

[NightSG]

He was a lovely person, but he had a strong negative gravity field around anything connected to marriage, women, or singles.

AFAICT, that's about 95% of midsingles. Most of the remaining 5% are the ones living in mom's basement playing video games all day or similar. The half dozen of us worldwide who don't think we're the special Chosen To Be Alone crowd are pretty much out of luck.

[Zeitgeist]

I've been divorced for a little over 4 years now and have not felt left out in the wards I've been in. I live in Virginia and don't know enough to know if that makes a difference.

Interestingly, my conversion and baptism occurred in Virginia also. I'm glad things have changed. Thanks for your comments...

[dahlia]

Every now and then we get a notice about an event in Chicago (4 -5 hrs away) or some other too-hard-to-get-to place. My ward is full of young marrieds, some older marrieds, and a few singles w/kids. I would love to meet someone at church, but it probably isn't going to happen in my ward.

That said, no one has ever said anything about not being married. It could be because I'm a widow, so it's not like I've never been married. I have a friend who's divorced and has a small child. Apparently people around her keep saying "we've got to find you a husband," but it's not like they've actually set her up on dates or anything (put your money where your mouth is, or shut up).

I might go back to LDS Singles, but it kept matching me with ranchers in Utah. Nothing against ranchers, but I don't see them leaving the ranch to come to me, and I'm not ready to retire to the country quite yet.

It seems that every ward has some issue. Some won't stay out of your business and some don't want to know your name. : )

[pam]

Every now and then we get a notice about an event in Chicago (4 -5 hrs away) or some other too-hard-to-get-to place. My ward is full of young marrieds, some older marrieds, and a few singles w/kids. I would love to meet someone at church, but it probably isn't going to happen in my ward.

That said, no one has ever said anything about not being married. It could be because I'm a widow, so it's not like I've never been married. I have a friend who's divorced and has a small child. Apparently people around her keep saying "we've got to find you a husband," but it's not like they've actually set her up on dates or anything (put your money where your mouth is, or shut up).

I might go back to LDS Singles, but it kept matching me with ranchers in Utah. Nothing against ranchers, but I don't see them leaving the ranch to come to me, and I'm not ready to retire to the country quite yet.

It seems that every ward has some issue. Some won't stay out of your business and some don't want to know your name. : )

Hey I wouldn't mind a rancher in Utah.

[derblitzenator]

Hang in there. You'll most likely find that different family wards are better for including singles and other wards don't know how to handle singles. Individual members are still all over the map in their view of singles. Some members are really empathetic and others are super judgemental. I wouldn't worry about it, because nobody ever says anything to your face.

The good news (or bad news depends on perspective) is that single adults over age 30 is one of the fastest growing demographics in the church, so you're not alone. Mostly men go less active, so the ratio of active women to men at your age is super high. Go to a single adult conference and you'll see 3:1+ ratios. If you're interested in marriage, there is going to be demand particularly if you can get back active for a little while.

[Lakumi]

Hang in there. You'll most likely find that different family wards are better for including singles and other wards don't know how to handle singles. Individual members are still all over the map in their view of singles. Some members are really empathetic and others are super judgemental. I wouldn't worry about it, because nobody ever says anything to your face.

The good news (or bad news depends on perspective) is that single adults over age 30 is one of the fastest growing demographics in the church, so you're not alone. Mostly men go less active, so the ratio of active women to men at your age is super high. Go to a single adult conference and you'll see 3:1+ ratios. If you're interested in marriage, there is going to be demand particularly if you can get back active for a little while.

good to know if I bump my head and have romantic interest in anyone again:lol:

[Yehshen]

I love Dahlia's posts.

I'm 58 and never been married. My marital status is never actively addressed, but's its duly noted. When I say "Oh I was such and such a place on Tuesday" with a friend, and everyone's ears perk right up. And I've been encouraged to go to the 31+ singles get t ogether in the stake.

But I don't feel left out of things, or assigned callings in a different manner than the other women.

The only time I have difficulty is when someone is trying to teach doctrine that says everyone must be married and sealed to get to the highest level....without putting in a politically correct = ahem, in this life or after.

[Lakumi]

I love Dahlia's posts.

I'm 58 and never been married. My marital status is never actively addressed, but's its duly noted. When I say "Oh I was such and such a place on Tuesday" with a friend, and everyone's ears perk right up. And I've been encouraged to go to the 31+ singles get t ogether in the stake.

But I don't feel left out of things, or assigned callings in a different manner than the other women.

The only time I have difficulty is when someone is trying to teach doctrine that says everyone must be married and sealed to get to the highest level....without putting in a politically correct = ahem, in this life or after.

they never told me that, maybe they knew my anti social nature.

some people can read that in a person