What Teens Wish Their Parents Knew When Addressing the Issue of Pornography _ Fight the New Drug

[Guest LiterateParakeet]

@JohnsonJones  I understand that your experience gave you a bad taste for FtND.  However, we'll just have to agree to disagree, because I didn't see the same presentation you did.  What I have seen of FtND, in the video, on their website, on their youtube channel, is all excellent, IMO.   I just don't see any red flags.  

Here's another video.      
 

 

[seashmore]

I like what the psychologist said in that second video, about how porn is used as a coping mechanism for negative emotions. That's something I was thinking about during sacrament meeting today, about how kids are taught that they ought not to express any emotion. This can lead to a self-numbing state in their teens/young adult years, where they get into all sorts of things (drugs, porn self-harm) just because they're looking to feel something.

Not as much of a fan about FTND purposefully normalizing the reaction and behavior. I get what they're saying, and believe their intentions are good, but if we don't also stress the importance of bridling our passions, I think that normalizing the natural reaction does more harm than good.

My favorite porn anecdote is when I was serving in Primary, they did a Sharing Time lesson with Sr. Primary that touched on the topic. I don't remember much about the lesson, but I do remember the leader defining it as "bad pictures of other people," and one of the ten year old boys' instant reaction was to physically recoil about half way through her sentence. To me, that is exactly the reaction we ought to have. As the old saying goes, you can't stop a bird from flying overhead, but you can stop it from building a nest.

[Overwatch]

Wow. A lot of stuff here.

As far as keeping my children away from porn and explaining the b&bs, I just regulate what they watch. We don't have any boys as of right now so we just teach them that their bodies are special and no other person is allowed to look at them naked or touch them. If someone does scream at the top of their lungs, run away, kick punch, escape and come get us. Pretty much it. I encourage my girls to chat, chat it up with Dad and Mom. We have some of the funniest convos and it comes with a price. They often barge in while I am just chillin and start talking my ear off (I'd rather have that than them be afraid to talk to me)

Oh and they don't go to public school. They also attend the Mormon church with my wife.

Hope this helps.