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I haven't read everyone's replies. But I just want to share this with you. I married my husband, he is a member, has been in the church since birth. And me? Well I was Catholic. When I married him he was Inactive (not going to church at all) even before we were married he wasn't attending church. Needless to say, We wound up having a baby, I was 17 he was 18! It wasn't until I turned 18 that I joined the church, he was still inactive and just recently a few months ago he started to come to church now. I'm 22 and he is 23 now. haha... But look the church may seem strict and you may not like that. But that's ok. I use to think the same thing. But let me tell you that all the things that are tought in the church are true. The guidlines are set by God, they are there to help us be able to return back to heaven and be with him. One of the most amazing things about the church is that we believe in Eternity. Meaning that we can be sealed to our families FOREVER. She will only become a better person because of this. And she will need your support greatly. If you don't judge her, she won't judge or force you to do anything you don't want to do, in regards to the church. We learn alot about the importance of family unity. And i'm sure there will be times when she will ask you to attend church with ther. She'll want you there. But you need to be open with her. Maybe she wants to join the church because of the fact I mentioned above...the "Eternal Families" thing. Especially because you are in Iraq and that your a soldier, maybe she is scared to lose her and this gives her hope that you guys can be sealed for all eternity? Don't be afraid...Know that this is something great for her. Don't see it as a bad thing. And change can sometimes be scary, but this shouldn't because it involves God! I hope that you can see things a little clearer, have your thoughts be a little clearer upon this decision of your wife's. But know that she will still love you regardless. And I just want to thank you for what you are doing in Iraq, I can't imagine what you are going through! You will be in my prayers tonight!

I have a discussion to give on Faith on Sunday. And there is so much I want to say but cant seem to get it all organized. Does anyone have an outline or something I could work with, or ideas? Please let me know!! Gracias!

My husband is the same way. But he has been a member since forever. But a few years back he became inactive. I've been a member for two years now. And even though "logical" makes sense in your head. I feel sometimes that "we" as human being have a greater purpose than to just live and die. And that's it. It just doesn't even make sense in my head. I've always been a spiritual person, once catholic, and when I was catholic things didn't make sense to me. Until I started to really learn about the LDS church. I think everyone at a certain time has doubts. But its your faith that keeps you near our Heavenly Father. Faith is something you can't physically see. But you can feel it. And your faith will grow stronger the more you pray and study. Idk, Its wierd, I can't quite explain, and I'm not going to give you proof because heck I don't have any. But I can tell you that my life, and my daughter's has become a better one since I have joined the church. I see it in myself, in my family. You should try really just meditating and fasting, and just pray about your doubts. Ask Heavenly Father to help you feel secure, and I promise that you will feel something at the given time that you need it the most. Possibly try getting a patriarchal blessing. I always had this thing where I want to be married and sealed in the temple. But I can't do that unless my husband is worthy. Its still my goal. And I feel like I have such a tremendous responsibility, because I'm told to set an example for him. And Its hard for me because I want this so badly but I can't make him want what I want (does that makes sense?) When I got my patriarchal blessing, I felt so connected to my Heavenly Father, I knew right then that He definatley knows me. And I feel like because of it I feel like I understand my purpose of being here a lot better. I understand the importance of having a strong faith in order to keep recieving my blessings and my happiness. Easier said than done. I know. And this might have not helped. But I think that when you feel so doubtful you'll do and try anything to help you feel better about whatever situation. And one thing I did, was really pray, and after I felt comforted I prayed about receiving my patriarchal blessing. You really have to be prepared spiritually to really absorb it's essence. I wish you the best of luck. And my prayers go out to you. Don't give up, and don't be afraid to ask your questions. Set up a meeting with your bishop. You should do anything you can to clear up your doubts. And no question is to silly or to dangerous...you have a right to have them answered. Best wishes, NC

Horray for missionaries!! Woooooooottttttttt!!!!

I think that if its something you really know will make you feel better about yourself you should do it. Sometimes its hard, when you do everything you can, and you still have that stretchy skin. (I would know) If i could afford it I'd get a tummy tuck. But then again...not a very good idea at age 21... But i've always had self esteem issues so whatev. But i really believe that once you do something like this for yourself you and your husband will benifit from it because it will make you feel better about yourself and you will feel more confidant and your husband will notice and this will make him feel good because it makes you feel good. You need to do your research and really feel great about whatever decision you make!

This made me lol

I really like this. I'm going to be working soon. Doing housekeeping stuff. I don't know what hours and stuff yet. But most likely in the morning. And I'm going to have to leave my daughter with my 12 yo sister in law. I'm sad, worried, and stressed. Idk if she'll be ok. And my daughter will be starting pre-k this fall. Which makes me even more sad just thinking about it. It's always been her and I since she was a baby. And it's going to suck being away from her. I planned some fun activities for just the both of us starting Monday. Thx mahone!

Do I look guy-ish in my picture? I hope not. Being sad is not a reacurring thing for me. Sleeping has been a problem bit not eating. I don't work either. I'm a stay at home mom. It could be my cycle. I hadn't even thought about that. I'm zoning in on my cycle due date. And pregnancy is not a possibilty. Just having a tough week But thanks for your response! :]

In most cases, when you meet someone who is such a good person. You keep them around and it motivates you to become so much more than what you are. And I truly believe that Heavenly Father puts these certain people in our paths so that we can make something of that friendship/relationship. If it works out, its meant to be. If its not, then you take ALL the good things from that and make use of it. Don't be hard on yourself. We are all human, we all have our imperfections. If we have the faith that we can change, we will, and we can. I wish you all the best!!

Welcome!!

So, this whole week I've been feeling very down. I don't really know why. Might be stress? I just haven't been happy. I just want to know what everyone else does when they feel down? Like what do you do to make yourself feel better, or happier? Just asking!!

Its a very argumentative topic. Everyone has an opinion. I try to put myself in her shoes. And honestly if I came to realize I was gay, I'd want to be treated the same as everyone else. I'd still want my family to love me the same and to not make me feel like I have a huge Label on my forehead that reads GAY. I did make sure, and I told her that she'll always be loved, no matter what she is gay, straight, bi. Whatever the case. I think most importantly is that she feels like she has that support. Including her family. I think that as members of the LDS church we have to stand up and take charge and full responsibility of our kids. Financially, mentally, emotionally! We are taught to always have compassion for others and understanding. (among other things of course) But I honestly believe that the only person who will have the right to judge is our heavenly father (not saying any of you are being judging at all) But a lot of the time these teens feel like they are wrong for having same sex attraction. She knows how much I love her, and from teaching the girls, I noticed she has a strong testimony. And she is such a strong woman, seriously, she's taken the right steps into figuring herself out. She already tried talking to her parents. And she really wants to figure this out. Its tough (I bet) having this faith, and then having thoughts about possibly being gay. And I can't imagine what she's going through. But at least she knows what she needs to do. At least she knows she needs to be informed and talk to someone who will listen! Thank you everyone. Elphaba for your words! I would just really ask everyone to keep her in your prayers. And hopefully she finds peace, and reassurance that whatever happens she'll still be loved unconditionally!!

Thank you SO SO MUCH for all the comments! She has been reading a book called "A Parent's Guide To Preventing Homosexuality by Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D., & Linda Ames Nicolosi" I think she is more confused than anything. I just hope that if any question arise, that most importantly she'll be able to talk to her parents! She hasn't had any boyfriends. Or anything, she's more like a tomboy, type, she's very smart and goal oriented. She is in ROTC, and wants to go on a mission. I don't know if she has in mind what kind of impact it'll be if she realizes if she's Bi or Lesbian? I'm not one to pry, so I really didn't feel comfortable asking her every detail as to WHY she has been thinking about this. I just answered her questions and really tried to make her feel comfortable and secure that no matter what she will with that unconditional love from her loved ones. But Thank you everyone! I'm sure I'll be looking at this thread if she emails me any more questions!

The man should talk to his wife about it. Maybe she feels unatractive and is worried about her weight. In that case He should be of some support and go work out with her. That way she doesn't feel like its all her fault for the unattractiveness feeling in the relationship. If they work out together it shows her that he wants whats best for her. And he will see that she wants that sexual attraction with him. and its a WIN WIN situation!!

My scriptures. YW Manual. My binder to take notes. Calendar Blank sheets of paper Crayons/markers. Snacks Sippy cup with milk!

I use to be the Mia Maids teacher at my old ward. And I really bonded with the girls. Anyways one of them in particular wrote me an email. She is questioning her sexuality. And I gave her the advice that this is def. a subject that she should talk to her parents about. Sadly, she said that her mom in particular said that this subject was "closed" I told her that she really, really try and get to her parents. She's such a strong girl. And in my eyes, I'd be very alert if my daughter brought this to my attention. I can't imagine what her parents are thinking right now about this. But I told her that they only want whats best for her. And they have this image of what they want her to be. And that they may be in denial right now. But that she really needs to just think this through, and come to a conclusion herself and to really try to talk to her parents because she should have their guidance! I want her to feel comforted, I know that these types of things can be very confusing and sometimes even make you feel lost. If anyone has any other advice that would maybe help me, help her, would be greatly appreciated!! Thnks:)

Your Type is INFJ Introverted Intuitive Feeling Judging Strength of the preferences % I:44 N:38 F:50 J:56 When I read this it was SO me, its crazy, it actually freaked me out. Especially when it talked about being intuitive and when it gave the example of a car accident. A few years ago I had a very very strong feeling that something bad was going to happen to me. Three months later I was hit by a car, I had scratches on my left side, and face. I fractured my left tibia. anyways this was cool, I enjoyed the post!!! :)

take them to go see the movie taken. Its about a young girl who heads off to paris with her friend and gets kidnapped and put in the "prostitution trafficking business" its something that could really happen. After watching this movie I told my husband that if my daughter ever came to us with that type of thing that i'd make her watch that movie.... Anyways not the most realistic thing to do. But the movie does make you think of the most dangerous outcome that could possibly happen. I think that it is something to be concerned about, I think you should volunteer to go along with them!

When I think of love I think of this poem: There is a risk involved in everything. Every time you share a smile, Every time you shed a tear, You are opening yourself up to hurt. Some people tread slowly through life, Avoiding the closeness risk brings, side stepping the things they can't understand. Turning away from those who care too much, those who care too long, Those who hold too tightly. There is never an easy way to love. You cannot approach it cautiously. It will not wait for you to arm yourself. It does not care if you turn away. It is everywhere, it is everything. Love is the greatest of all risks. It is not reliable, it is not cautious, It is unprejudiced and unmerciful. It strikes the strongest of mind. And brings them to their knees in knees in one blow. Even in the best of times, love hurts. It hurts to need, it hurts to belong, It hurts to be the other part of someone else, without either of your consent, But from the moment it overtakes you, it hurts worse to be alone. Author: Unknown Everyone has their own way of knowing what is love! But one thing i can tell you is that if you can't imagine your life without this person. If you see yourself wanting and needing to be with him, and having a life with him. And everything else you want in a relationship then you have your answer. The caution you feel, is logical. Like in the poem, love is scary. It always has been it always will be. But its an adventure we all go through. When I knew I loved my husband. Was when I had gone on vacation to California. It was the first time we had been apart. And I realized that I needed to be with him because he was the only one that made me feel whole. Even though he had imperfections as well as I did. That didn't stop me from having faith that he would be everything I want and more. At that time I wasn't a member of the LDS church. After my conversion, and after receiving my patriarchal blessing, I kind of really got a sense of why I was with him. Heavenly father sent him to me when I needed him the most. And my progression lead to his. Almost like I saved a "lost soul!" I think that the smartest choice for you! Would be to tell him exactly what you told us. That he needs to show you that he is worthy to be with you. And to live up to your standards! And if he is willing and you honestly believe he will change not only for you but for himself. Then maybe its meant to be. But I don't think that you two should start a relationship. Just so that there is no confusion on who he really is changing for! GOOD LUCK!!

OMgosh yes everyone thinks it means North Carolina hahaha But no its not.

Yeah, after some research my husband did, it means "a gift from god" but we can't remember the origin of the name. My mom told me it was hebrew but who knows? :)

I'm just going to jump in. I haven't read everyone's reply. I know the feeling behind your question. I was catholic before converting to the LDS church. And one thing I would say is how can you just know. And of course I heard the whole its just a warm fuzzy feeling etc... I don't think that anyone can truely have SOLID evidence, or at least the evidence that you might be looking for. Something that you can hold in your hands this very moment. Or simply have God open up the heavens and beam down from the sky to tell you that he is real. One thing I can tell you is that during my active years as a catholic, I had my doubts and my questions as everyone does in any religion I think. But for me there came that point where the catholic teachings didn't make sense. Where mass didn't make sense. Where my questions were half answered. Or simply no one had the answer. As I started to learn more about the LDS community I was very intrigued by the beliefs, by the teachings. Once I started to take the lessons from the missionaries it was like taking a History class. I learned about wars that occurred hundred of years ago, about the conflict of different religions. I guess knowing that the bible is basically a history book. It talks about these wars, and the people who experienced them. But in a religious aspect. (I hope this makes sense) So for me, in my head I KNEW that life itself had to be created something much more powerful than Science. All the beautiful things we experience, as well as the bad things. But most importantly I felt that these lessons that I was taking from the missionaries made so much sense to me. Everything fit together. The wars that brought down the church. The apostles that were killed because people were full of anger and didn't believe in a superior being. And again people didn't believe that Jesus Christ was able to cure the ones that were ill. So they ridiculed him. And he died for our sins. And eventually no one was alive to proceed on spreading the Gospel. So a young pure full hearted boy JS had the courage, and the willingness to go forth and pray. And this magical unexplainable experience happened to him. And because of him we have the restored gospel. My proof for me is in the scriptures. I CAN NOT POSSIBLY imagine that an old genius man had the amount of time to right such dated detailed books. To me its not possible. I just can't wrap my mind around it. Not only have I been proven that these things are true in a spiritual warm fuzzy feeling way. But its all there. Some people just choose not to believe. And choose a more LOGICAL way of explaining it. lol ugh i hope it makes sense!

Welcome to the site! I know how you feel about not fitting in. My situation is a little different. I'm 21 and have a daughter who is 3, and will be four in July. So if you haven't done the math I was a teen parent at 17! So when i converted. It was really hard for me to fit in with the kids my own age, but also hard to fit in with the "adults" but really, just take your time. Once you get to know everyone you'll warm up enough that pretty soon they will all feel like family! Just don't lose faith. And take it one step at a time! You'll be great. And will be greatly blessed on this new journey! :)

This is interesting! LOL there isn't much to my name. If anything its really simple. nc are my initials. My first name is Naysel pronounced (nice-cell) about 98.9 percent of people pronounce it wrong. And then 31410 was my lunch number in high school lol, its retarded. IDK why I even remember it still. haha, and my avatar is a picture of me. Nothing special I know. But simple is my middle name!!

I'm so glad you have found your answer! Your life only gets better from here! I wish you the best! -Naysel