Haha...so I did! Well, I have a proposal...beginning a sentence with you is a blaming statement...it is accusatory. So instead of using blaming statements, let's all try using "feel" statements, so we won't offend one another (unless, of course, that's the intent!). Instead of saying, "YOU did this or that", say: "I felt [such and such] when you said or did [whatever]. So I'll be the first to try it: "Outshined, I feel hurt, embarassed, falsely accused, misunderstood, demeaned, etc., when you use YOU, or "blaming" statements."