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In my area, women often have to choose between life long celibacy or marrying out. We have about 10 single women per single man. Some feel this is a sign of the times. What do you think is the correct decision? I think that the church would recommend not marrying because if you marry out you are more likely to fall away. But not marrying means no kids. Interestingly my stake pres suggested that I foster a child. I was surprised as many feel that choosing to be a single mom puts a burden on the church. Still it is an option.

I think that most of the time marrying out is difficult because of the many demands that the lds faith puts on us -tithing, callings. Also the prophets recommend that we not marry out so this recommendation is a major clue. However if you are already married when you convert you will have celestial assistance in keeping that marriage together. Paul did not feel that a lack of faith on the part of your partner justified divorce. I do know a couple of professional women who chose to marry out because their primary aim was to find a man who would support them in their careers. They are vey happy in their marriages but they wish that they could convert their spouse. I also know of a convert who joined after marriage whose marriage is very successful but who wishes to convert their spouse, i think most people should not date outside of the church because marrying out is a strain on your life, spiritual development, and your relationship. However many women and especially for those who could not be happy without a career, you need to find someone who will support you in your career. This is not easy. Not that many men will take over the housework when you are coping with exams. Not many will move when you get a promotion in another city. I can understand why career women marry out. Further in many areas, it is a choice to marry out or not marry. What would the prophet recommend? My guess is not to marry out even if that means lifelong celibacy but if you are married when you convert then do everything you can short of losing your faith to keep the marriage together. What do you think?

So true!

I see your point.

I was thinking of Dorothy Parker's book review: this book should not be tossed aside lightly. It should be thrown with great force.

Will stop giving updates in case you want to see

Getting worse!

Wish lds movies came to cinemas here. Only way to watch is to buy or watch on YouTube.

There is also some handholding with young lady by missionary. Inappropriately dressed mormon ladies at lds party.

I wish I had worked harder in high school. Read my scriptures daily as a teenager. I would have made much better life decisions.

To ourselves or others?

When do you discard a book? For me, I allow one "f" word. When they start describing a male character's physical attributes in loving detail. Puke. If a cat is a detective or sends messages If the main character is very selfish or violent Too much violence or violence described in detail I allow one sex scene and that one scene has to be easy to skip over Anything with ancient Scottish people described as sexy or noble - these are my ancestors, they were smelly barbarians. I''ve done my family history. You can't fool me! Incest used as a plot device. Very common in Canada. any Canadian novel with the main character who is a budding author from a small town with mean parents. I've read too many of these. Gross out descriptions. I do not wish to know about anything which happens or should happen in a bathroom. Long descriptions of someone's character. Show me what they are like rather than tell me.

The missionaries ask the young lady to check up on the homeless man throughout the day

If only I could learn to think like this!

Wooow. Started to watch gods army II. I can see why some do not like it. Central characters are missionaries and are completely breaking mission rules. This rule breaking is shown as a good thing. Take a homeless man into their apartment. Give key to their apartment to a young woman. Oh my. Not a Sunday movie

Saw the movie. Awesome. Great story. Great cast

You can find it on youtube

If you could go back in time and give yourself advice, what would you say? People who encourage you to break the law of chastity should be shunned. You do not need to be polite to them. You need to have daily scripture study and prayer even when you are really busy Romantic partners who think they are better than others will eventually decide that they are better than you. Pray before study sessions. Make friends with the married women in the ward when you are a single adult. These ladies have a lot to teach you. Before contemplating a degree look at the job ads to see what type of jobs are on offer and what they pay. University professors have no idea about the job market Stay close to Heavenly Father and discuss your fears with him. Gaining weight can be life threatening and can cause irreparable damage. Be polite to everyone, unless they are trying to lead you astray Most extended warranties are a waste of money Before you buy a house, count up all the little costs. Renting can often be cheaper. Being cool or fashionable is a complete waste of time and money. Try to get out of college/university with a degree that allows you to make money and allows you to move if necessary. It is hard to move if you are a cop or a teacher because you are moving from one union shop to another- at least in Canada. If your bishop asks you to make a major change in your life, pray and get your own confirmation. Go to the temple if you need to make a major decision

Think of the situation like a diet. Don't be alone with a bag of chocolate chip cookies!

You need to spend very little time alone. The strength of youth pamphlet which your bishop can give you or may be available on lds.org has suggestions on how to avoid tempting situations. In general, you two should not be alone together. Call, text, go for walks in public places, talk in coffee shops, library, park bench but spend no time in a situation where you can get it on. No driving together.

Still who knows maybe this is G-ds will. What do I know? Maybe if I was not visiting I would not get better at all.

I am visiting my one sister but it is hard and the effort is not helping my recovery.

How many sisters do you visit teach? Do you go with a companion? Do you visit all of your sisters every month? I am having a health crisis so am not working right now. I asked not to visit teach but apparently the lightest load is one sister. I manage with visits and sometimes phone calls. I go by myself. Before I got sick I visited two sisters by myself. We seem to pair active sisters with an inactive companion so I end up teaching myself. Before I got sick they tried to increase my load to three but I felt that I could not do it. I try to be honest about what I can do so that I am always 100%. How about you?

Has anyone seen God's Army? Is is appropriate to view on Sunday?