Eltelepi

It makes me so sad when I hear about things like this. I'm glad you found someone else. I think you should perhaps mention the changes as they occured, and the impact on your family. It's ovious he's not only moved on, but hasn't even cared two bits about his family for a very long time, just by what you've shared with us. It's hard not to be emotional when you've been so hurt, but try to stick to the facts, as has been suggested already, the hurt will be clear to anyone reading it.

I hear a lot of people say we shouldn't use the term "Mormon", but rather that we should use the full name of the church, or LDS. But I've also seen things like mormon.org, and this post. I'm confused. Are people in other places around the world instructed to avoid that too, or just where I live? :?

Is it possible that he wants to hang around you for another reason? Perhaps he's noticed something different about you that he's curious about, but not sure how to ask/start a conversation. Maybe you should start a conversation with him? Probably starting with something really innocent like the weather.

Wow! Has this ever sparked a lot of conversation. I think breastfeeding is important to most mothers, even those who choose not to, because they still need to make an informed descision. I am currently breastfeeding my 3rd (11 months). My personal opinion is that mothers should be able to feed their baby whenever, and wherever baby needs. I have never fed him in the chapel mostly because I'm concerned of what others will think. I have considered feeding small babies in RS because I doubt the other women will mind, most of them are mothers too. I think that maybe in Canada we're even more discreet. I've rarely seen anyone in the mother's lounge not cover up with a blanket. In fact, I once had a mom apologize for not bringing one with her. I never actually saw anything, but could have cared less if I had. I bring the blanket for the comfort of others there, I don't bother to at home. Although I am sure there are people out there who would tell me I shouldn't feed him infront of my 7yr old son. I also wanted to comment on the issues with mother's lounges. I hate it when the room smells of stinky diapers, but I also hate the fact that it's in the bathroom to begin with, the smell travels. We attend church in a stake centre, but the room is still smaller than the smallest classrooms. And it really needs an exhaust fan! Basically I think all moms should do what they feel comfortable with.

There is quite a few things it could be. A learning disorder, dysgraphia, dyslexia or many others. It can also be more than one. Or maybe he needs to be taught differently. I'm currently looking for what my son needs to get help (way different issues, tho). Here in Canada I would say get the opinion of a specialist, but I don't know how the medical system works in the US, if it's really difficult, or really expensive or anything.

I had a baby who breast feed properly, so I was always pumping to make sure he got as much as I could give him. Despite buying a good pump my milk supply dried up after 3 months. I was getting next to no sleep because I would try to feed him, then give him what I had pumped and formula till he was full. Then I had to pump for the next feeding. What no one told me, was that your body produces more milk while your sleeping. With my second I found I had difficulty meeting his needs, and was put on medication to increase my supply. So you may want to talk to your doctor, and you also want to make sure that your getting a good night's sleep. If possible have someone else get up with baby at night, if he/she doesn't need a drink.

I'm new to this forum, and unlike Chouchou, I joined with very different ideas about what posts I would follow. This has intrigued me. I think I can sort of relate to the problem. (I should point out that I have severe bouts of depression which affect me, though) I was not raised LDS, but rather non-descript Christian. Didn't go to any church but was raised with some of the basics like Chastity. I was rather nervous, even scared when I first got married. If this has become a problem for them, it may seem increasingly frightening. I got over it, but still often lack desire (especially when pregnant or after baby). SIL may simply have frightened herself and is completely embarrassed about this. Thus her upset with counseling and lack of desire to continue. If this is even part of the problem, maybe they need to rewind and go back to some of the things they did together before marriage (as was said before I do not think a child will help matters). Try to spend more time just being together and doing what they think feels natural. Your brother might want to try other things that help him feel close until she's ready to try again (I'm thinking more like a couple months, rather than a couple years). I dunno if this is remotely helpful, but that's what I would like in the same position.

I'm eltelepi, and I guess I'm supposed to say Hi.