BrendaM

Unfortunately, there are often "doctrines" being taught by members that are false. I'm sure through misunderstanding most often. Anything we hear, we ask confirmation on. Heavenly Father will direct us. If we stay close to the Spirit, we will know when a teaching doesn't feel quite right.

I sometimes start to feel guilty as well, when I'm having a good day or when I see a good movie and know all the while the world is getting so bad for so many. But I trust in that feeling and know where It comes from and so I allow myself to feel good. As much; and as long as possible!! I attended the Toronto Film Festival and saw a documentary call the The Central Park 5. It so broke my heart for those 5 children. They will never get their youth/lives back that was stolen from them. And their city will not/refuses to take responsibility. It made me feel ashamed as a human being. I'm so grateful for my testimony and the strength that comes from leaning on my Savior. I know that the prophet is teaching us what the Lord wants us to do/be. ALWAYS.

I don't consider myself prudish. I like to dress nicely and even look sexy at times. But I believe that you can do that and still be modest. They GA counsel us for good reason. However, we cannot be blind followers. We must be obedient to that counsel, because we know it is from the Lord. I wear tankinis to swim, I wear "party" dresses so that my girls are not hanging out all over, and my workwear (ie pantsuits & skirts) are not skin tight. I know when a girl is young and has a great figure, it can be difficult (I'm a "mature" woman now...;)figure not so great) to follow this counsel. But, that is the time to figure out if you will accept the Lords counsel from his prophets on the "small" things as well as the "big". I see many YSA who dress appropriately and many who don't. But that is between them and the Lord. It's not a matter of being prudish. It's a matter of obedience. Just as an aside, I saw a LDS video (utube maybe) where a mature woman was talking about modesty and said- "we cover ourselves because we are just so darn sexy!" I thought that was hillarious.

I too, would like to welcome you to this site. Once my daughter was born, I knew it was my responsibility to teach her the Gospel. I think you feel the same. Repentance is not easy, but you first have to make the decision that you want to. Remember, the Lord is on your side, no matter what. As for working the market....I'm no expert...but I don't consider that gambling (in the sense that the brethren have counselled). But that's just my opinion. Individual and family prayer will help clarify this for you. Good Luck!

To me, it means that you are saying that it is good to simply say what you mean and don't sugar coat it.

I have 5 sisters and 2 brothers, and a 20 year old adult daughter; all have been baptized, all have chosen to be inactive. All drink socially. I love them all so much, sometimes I feel physcially ill when I think about their immortal souls. Because of that love, I pray everyday, that they will choose to return to the gospel. It's ultimately up to each person to be obedient to the Lords commandments. The Word of Wisdom is a commandant, no less then, thou shalt not steal. The missionaries have no "magic" potion. The individual has to be willing to allow the Spirit to help them overcome their natural tendancies to live a temporal life. This comes about by discussing the gospel with them, any time the time is right. I was a smoker for many years before I became active again. It was my choice to return to the fold, my choice to constantly pray to help me overcome the addiction of nicotine. My choice to want to be a better daughter of God. Doesn't make me perfect, but makes it my choice.

This is a really interesting question to me. I like to listen to most kinds of music, depends on the situation/place. I find though, that as I strive to be closer to the Savior, that I question certain choices of music. I really love the Rolling Stones, AC/DC, Led Zeppelin...but have come to realize that perhaps this type of music in not very good for my eternal soul. Then I wonder, well, why was Angus Young given the talent of being such a great guitar player? Mick Jagger's early rock/blues sound is fabulous...again though, I ask myself, is this the type of music that I should be listening to, even though I'm in my car on a great sunny afternoon, driving real fast (well maybe not that fast) and George Thorogood is playing on the radio and I'm feeling free and great! No, I'm starting to choose better music that soothes my soul and draws the Spirit into my life. I try now to listen to more classical music (not the boring stuff tho), good jazz...I know that this is my spiritual self growing and it makes me feel good. The Eagles and Fleetwood Mac I still listen to.

The Temple Recommend questions and attending the Temple are quite clear about how we wear our garments. Yes they can be hot, and yes they may be visible through some material, but it's quite clear, we are not to alter them in any way, and once we go through the Temple we are to wear them, both pieces, intact, 24 hrs a day 7 days a week. There may be exceptions, of course, I'm thinking particularly when bathing, swimming, exercising, participating in sports. But just because you're hot, or don't want them to be seen through your clothes is no reason to not wear your garments. They are a testament to the covenants you make with the Lord in the Temple.

I think most dreams are just our subconscious letting off steam and generally don't mean anything.

I raised my daughter as a single mom...tough but thankfully I had (and still have) the Gospel in my life. She's grown now and as you say...it kind of sucks being alone all the time. I enjoy my own company and do lots on my own, but still...I never was anti-relationship, but understand how you feel.

Like you, I tried a couple of the sites. I guess I thought because it said LDS, there would have been a certain standard adhered to. Not so...I found the IM communication very immature and, what's the word I want to use here, very loose I will say. People implied they were Temple recommend holders, but by their conversations, didn't seem that way to me. I'm sure there have been some success stories, but after 8 months, I too discontinued my subscription.

I hear ya Pam, especially when the single adult men still think they are 30 and can attract a 20something female. Kills me everytime! I'm wondering about those single cruises & trips through the various LDS-geared sites....anyone ever tried those?

I can feel for your dilemma. I am not a "young" single adult, but a single adult none the less. I too would like to know how to meet a worthy priesthood holder. I have tried several of the LDS singles sites and you would not believe the stuff that is said and implied. Definitely not for me! I do attend single adult activities here at my home ward; and when I travel. Whew, what can I say about those.... My patriarchal blessing tells me I will have all the blessings that the Temple offers, but it doesn't say when:rolleyes:....and so here I am.

First, I'd like to say I'm glad you went to the Lord in prayer! I hope that you used some form of birth control; if not, please speak with your doctor as soon as possible. I think it is enough to say you broke the Law of Chasity. Your Bishop may ask you certain questions, or the Spirit may prompt him to have an understanding of how far you actually went. Please know that Heavenly Father loves you; and that His Son atoned for moments such as these. The path to rightousness is difficult, but not impossible. Be strong! Keep yourself from situations that are harmful to you, no matter how much you think you can resist.

Sicily, thanks so much for that Testimony!!!