BrendaM

I had something similar to this happen. We work in 2 person teams in my office. I come in one day and theres an email from my team-mate (who sits right across from me). It says "Did you complain to boss about me and my work". I looked at her and responded verbally "so&so if I had a problem with you, I'd tell you, NO, I did not go to the boss." It's been 2 1/2 weeks and she hasn't spoken to me (except where absolutely necessary)! Shesh, some people drive me nuts!

As a few of you may know, I am a middle-aged single mom (never married), with an adult daughter. My "natural man" mind finds the idea of polygamy repulsive on so many levels. However, I don't know what may be asked of me when I'm in the Celestial Kingdom (hopefully I'm there first off). I know that my resurrected mind will be blessed by ALL of Heavenly Fathers commandments. And I will be obedient to them as I know that my agency will never be taken from me. Ever.

All of my non-member friends know the difference between attending and LDS Temple and a chapel. This was beyond naughty for all involved.

I almost feel sorry for them. Just knowing the Lord could see me giving someone not worthy to enter the Temple a Temple Recommend! I'd be afraid lightning would strike me.

I'm thinking if their Bishop knew about this, there should be some kind of disciplinary action?

Oh, BusyB!!!! My heart sings for you! Having the missionaries over is certainly a step in the right direction. I remember when I came back, I had to have the discussions over again. If you know the Bishop, give him a call as well. He will direct the Relief Society to take steps to contact you, if that's what you want. My suggestion is to also start saying prayers with your husband. They can be simple and just letting the Lord know of your gratitude and love for Him and for each other. Keep going girlfriend!!!! He stands waiting to help you.

Just reading this put my stomach in knots. I wonder how common this is too! Wow, really wrong!

This sure is a confusing issue! My mom remarried when I was a teenager. I have thoughts such as yours concerning this. Again, though, they are thoughts not to be dwelled on. Just know, that the Lord knows what he's doing, he loves you and will see to it that your family circle will continue, if that's what you choose.

Many "life-long" members believe in incorrect doctrine. I'm not trying to be disrespectful to your mom. There is no revealed doctrine on this question.

BusyB, I was less-active for many years; repent and return. Your Heavenly Father needs you. Once you are again safe in your faith, knowledge will come. You will see that there are certain questions that are not easily answered. I have come to understand that many of my questions will not be answered until I can speak directly with the Lord, I have also come to understand that my questions should be concerned more with the personal relationship I can and should be developing with my Savior. While speculative questions can be fun to think about and discuss, the underlying reason for a question (I think) should be, will it help me draw closer to Deity?

There is no revealed doctrine concerning your question, that I am aware of. Just speculation and your typical "Mormon myths".

Wow, I 've read pretty much this whole thread. DarkJedi you are certainly suffering, and I am sorry. I have a couple of comments: God doesn't "do" things to you. Unfortunately, his imperfect beings do. He cannot stop them from doing that. As you know. Joseph Smith could have let himself be overcome by the evil forces that surrounded him in the grove before he saw Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ. He made the choice to fight the evil. He made the choice to fight for his faith and salvation. What a great example.

Totally agree with this!

Chrissy - It's hard sometimes being young, it's even harder when you are looking for truth and not sure where to find it. My advice to you is to continue to go to church. There will always be people who will judge you, inside and outside the church; but please, Heavenly Fathers knows his daughters, He knows you Chrissy and sees how hard you are working. He sees that you are living the Word of Wisdom, and will bless you for it, that's a promise He made and He will not break that promise. Go to church for you; to develope your relationship with Heavenly Father and the Savior. Don't go or not go because of the people. Talk to Heavenly Father every day. Let Him know how much you love Him and your Savior. Keep doing this and I can promise you that you will one day feel the love that They have for you! Read your scriptures. The Book of Mormon will help settle your heart and mind. The truth found in those pages will wrap around you and the Holy Ghost will be able to teach you, if you are willing to be taught. That's a promise too! All of Heavenly Fathers commandments are there to protect us. The world (tv, books, magazines, well-intentioned friends) will try to tell you otherwise, but the Lord's laws serve a purpose and should be seen as uplifting not binding. You have witnessed for yourself how the world will change from one "doctrine" to another, but the Lord is constant. When you feel comfortable, talk to your Bishop. Let him help you. That's his calling and he is there to look after you because the Lord cannot be here personally. Don't give up Chrissy, as you mature in life, you will mature in the Gospel of Jesus Christ. You will always have trials and challenges. That's because they help you grow. The Lord needs to know that His people can stand when tested, can get up when knocked down, can follow Him through trying times. You can do it Chrissy! You are a daughter of your Heavenly Father! Be strong. He needs you!

Active, less-active, wouldn't matter to me. I still wouldn't look after the kid!

Ditto.

I'm not sure I understand this newest post? Your orginal said you were a performer. Are you performing now. Because this post seems at odds with the first. To answer the original question, if as an actor your particular "costume" does not allow for wearing your garments properly, then of course you wouldn't. This could be said for anyone whos profession would not allow them to wear their garments in the way we are instructed...ie professional athlete, actor After saying that however, don't misunderstand that I'm saying that on an everyday basis we adjust our garments to fit whatever clothing we "desire" to wear.

I would like to say, don't get caught up in "memorizing" what you need. That will all come in time. Be there in the moment to feel the love of Heavenly Father. The words will come as you attend; each time will get easier and easier. I have been to several temples, and although I feel "nervous" in each because they are new to me, there is always someone there to help me. Know that the brothers and sisters who serve in the temples are so happy to see you there. Know that they love to serve the Lord and thereby serve you, so let them. The Salt Lake City temple is unlike any that I have attended! I love it! It is quite large and the attendance is large (I'm from Toronto and we are lucky to have our rooms of 50 even half full, shame us!). If you get a chance, go.

As a Canadian, let me say that I am in absolute agreement with the American constitution to bear arms. I get in trouble alot from family and friends for that, but so be it. The right to bear arms to me goes beyond just the right to have a gun. I think if I could own a gun, I would want a Glock, I don't want to go to hell!

I absolutely adore Brad Wilcox! I had an opportunity to meet him at Time Out for Women 2 years ago. He took time to chat with me about my daughter (who is less active). I could feel the spirit in his counsel to me concerning her. I then met him a few months later at Education Week, and my goodness he remembered me! His love for the Lord is so inspiring and uplifting! Going on-line now to read his talk.

I work in the criminal justice system...it's horrible what people do to children. And absolutely, they are cognisant choices these perverts make.

Sometimes I'm not as sensitive as I should be.....this guy is your husband and should therefore know that what he is doing is absolutely wrong! You sound like you are making excuses for him. This is infidelty anyway you look at it. He sounds like he doesn't really want to stop what he's doing. I would toss his phone down the toilet and pray for strength to move on...with or without him.

I've consider myself a disciple of Christ for a long time. I worship him, try to emulate him and follow his commandments. I don't think disciple = apostle, but I think an apostle is a disciple.

Ditto to all you stated Andenex! Vort this is a great question. I know that the world will get worse, I fret for my 21 yr old daughter. She has chosen a less-active lifestyle. As a single mom (raised her from birth by myself), I tried my very best to teach her the proper principles. When I feel myself focusing on the evils of the world, I try to remember that there is so much good. That Heavenly Father will never abandon me. And though I might feel at the depths of darkness many times, I am lifted up through my testimony and know that this is but a moment. It's darn hard sometimes, that's for certain; but I refuse to let that darkness overwhelm me! People at work make comments, in the guise of "good natured fun". For the most part I let it slide off my back, but find it contradictory that they can "fun" with the Mormon girl but not with the Jewish, Muslim or Evangelical. I look at it as an opportunity to set their stupid comments strait, but find it interesting that they feel that they can do this. I know that it's probably because they know I can "take" it, but still... I also have hope because our stake just got reconfigured (right term?) and a new stake was created with a new ward within that stake. That shows me that there are people out there looking for the truth, even in these times. I think I'm a pessimist at heart, but strive to be optimistic. Doesn't make sense to me, but there you go. I had a Bishop once who said I was an enigma. I took that as a compliment! LOL

I like the Swiss Rolls myself...plus a can of coke and I'm good to go. Seriously though, I try to limit my soda intake, mostly because of the sugar. But when I do indulge, it's regular coca cola all the way.