LadyGunnar

I worked in the car industry for five years. It made me sick hearing managers and salesmen talk about selling a bad car to a sucker. I was so careful when buying my cars. My husband and I went to look at getting a van. The salesmen ignored me and would only talk to my husband. I asked a question and he snapped at me and told me to go look at the car and find out myself. I went and looked at the van. I found the original car label. The msrp was 8,000 less than they were trying sell it used with 35,000 miles. I walked up and handed my husband his phone with Bob on it. The can was listed for 13,000 on there. He showed the salesmen and the salesman ran to get the manager. I walked out laughing. They were so pathetic. Trying to rip us off. My bil helped us get our van. His best friend owns a small dealership. We got our van for $500 over cost. It was awesome. I have a huge Seattle Seahawks sticker across the back window. I want an Oregon Ducks O with wings and a infant loss ribbon.

That is how is should be. My Dh would love if our kids went to the University of Utah. That's his school. But he lets them know that they should go where they want to go. My son is wanting to go to the air force academy. It's far from what I thought he would be doing. I will support him in his choice of schools.

Kids were told that BYU was the only school to get into. That there was no point in going to any other college. This is the church's school and the only one worth going to. This is coming from a small town in Oregon. Parents didn't like their kids going to regular colleges. Many of those kids fell away from the church because of the attitudes of their parents.

I had friends crying because they failed to get into BYU. It meant that they failed the family. I heard many of the youth talk about it. The pressure to go to the churches college. It's part of something that made me know that I would never go to BYU. I am so thankful my parents didn't do that to me. They said to go where we felt like we should go.

Byu fans can be so bad. I had a Utah Utes sticker on my car. During church, my first week at a new ward, it was scratched and torn off. I got a new and bigger one and they tried to ruin it as well. Dh said it would get bigger and bigger each time. This was was not in Utah. I have been told that I am wrong for not being a byu fan in church. How it is the Lord's school and not supporting their sports is wrong. I will never be a byu football fan. I'm not a Ute fan either. Just to clear that up.

I have a concealed carry purse that I love. My friend has a leg holster that she wears with skirts. Most people I know carry in the small of the back.

I have never said that it was wrong. I don't believe that it is. I think that there are a lot of good people doing their very best, in situations that are not ideal. Life is full of hardships. You don't know what people are dealing with. You are not them. You can only know what is the right path for you. I stand by saying that I think people need to do what is best for them and their families. Most people are trying their very best to do what is right for while trying to keep their heads above water. Life isn't easy or perfect. Try not to beat the ones that are already down.

my nephew is sealed to his mom and step dad. He was not adopted. His dad gave permission for it to happen.

What I believe is that we don't live in a perfect world. Some men cannot provide for the necessities if life without help from their wives. Some women have to work to support their families. Some families have only one parents. I think that we cannot be rigid in how we live. Life isn't perfect and doesn't always go the way it was planned. So when I say do the best for your family, that is what I mean. I have had friends crying and brokenhearted because of people talking like this. Because their lives are not the 'normal' ones. I am coming from the spot of the underdog. The ones that seem to always be kicked down. Sorry that you cannot or will not see that.

everyone's family is different. I see no difference if a woman works and the man stays home or if the man works and the woman stays home. You need to do what is best for your family. Some men would go crazy at home with the kids and so do some women. I think that there is no reason to draw lines in the sand with what is or isn't same and equal. No one lives the same life. No has the same talents or ideas. That's part of what makes life interesting. Some women have to work to support their families. Some are single or widowed moms, some have husbands that get sick and can't work. I think it's wonderful that they can work and support their families. My grandmother wasn't so lucky. She had an abusive alcoholic husband. He didn't work much and when he did, he drank all the money away. She had a hard time finding work. Because that was a man's job to support the family. She left the loser behind and struggled to become a nurse to support her family. I am thankful we are not in that time period. I am thankful that women can work if they want to or they need to. I will say it again, It all comes down to doing your best for you and your family. There is no cookie cutter answer to what is best for all.

I have male friends that are nurses. They are amazing at their job. My brother and bil are both engineers. They work with women who do their jobs great. My niece is going to college to be an engineer. She will be great at it. I don't think it's a big deal if a man wants to be a nurse or a woman an engineer. Women carry babies, but we can't make a baby without a man. Both are parents. I don't want to live in a time when my daughter is told that she is only good for staying home, barefoot and pregnant. She can do whatever she wants. I am thankful that she will have a choice in it. I stay home with our kids. I worked to put my husband through college. But I support the right of any woman to work or to not work. I don't like when men start in on traditional gender roles. I have had too many men treat me like I am less than them because I am female. I worked in a field where men treated me like I was dumb because I was female. I guess being male made them smarter or something. It brings out the fighting part of me when people start in on it. People need to do what is best for them and their families.

I believe that husband and wife should do what is best for their families. I don't believe that a wife should do all the heavy lifting while the husband sits and watches. I was raised that I can do anything a man can. My dad taught me how to do everything that he taught my brothers. He didn't want his girls having to depend on others to do something. I can shoe a horse, chop wood, work on cars, shoot and clean a gun, slaughter and dress an animal. I can also make amazing wedding cakes, sew, cook and bake. I am teaching all my kids the same things. I don't think one is better than another as long as you do your best. I dislike people acting like women belong in the dark ages. Like when we were human cattle. I will not deny that. I believe that men and women are the same. We are all human and children of God.

In your orginal post you said it is a reality that woman will be 'saddled' with all the work of teaching their child. Sounds to me like you think it's all on the mom while the dad sits and watches over it all like a king.

You said that mother are responsible for teaching the gospel to their children. That fathers are to preside and make sure the kids listen to their moms and that she has all the right materials. That kinda puts it all on the mother to teach their children. My husband and I are equal partners in teaching our children.

expect the fact that my husband is an equal partner in teaching our child. It's not all on me as their mother. My husband and I are equal partners in all that we do with our kids.

My role as a mother is this, I gave them life, I carried them, I care for them, I am teaching them how to great, responsible adults. I teach them the gospel using counsel that we were given when we were sealed and that is found in blessings we have been given. I know that I will be held accountable for how I have raised my kids. I am thinking that you and I see this world in very different lights.

My dad loves his oncologist from the va. She also figured out that his cancer was caused by agent orange. But for most people it isn't the best.

I read the address. I watched it as well. I am coming from the place where I KNOW that without my father I would not be active in the church. I know that my children learn more from their father than they do me. I don't see the address as saying that its on the mom's to do all the teaching of the children. I see it as being prepared to work with their father in this. He and I are one in purpose to help our children find their own testimony.

I would be lost if my father hadn't taught me the gospel. Mom did all the stuff that she was supposed to do. Family prayers, morning and night. She must have prayed 4 times each morning with different kids and dad. Scripture studies each night. Family home evening. My dad taught us in simple ways. He was teaching us without us knowing what he was doing. He is the reason that I have a testimony. I know my sibling feel the same. If my dad hadn't done what he did, none of his kids would be in the church. My mom did all she could, but she didn't have the impact that my dad did. My kids seem to grasp gospel things better when it comes from their dad. I am thankful for the men in my life.

We had a missionary that went to the same high school as my husband, was good friends with his cousin and my fil was his high school principal. It was weird. The missionary that taught my parents, dated my mom's best friend when they were younger. Mom found it out later talking to her friend.

I think that if you have a problem, any problem with a future mate, then you have the right to end it. It doesn't matter what the problem is. Dating is the time to find out if they are the one. Questions should be asked and answered then. I had deal breakers. I had a list of them. I would assume most people do. I would want to know if my spouse had something to do with abortion.

My dh carries most of the time. My father, brothers and bils all do as well. I am small and know that it makes me more of a target. I was trapped in my car by a guy wanting money for drugs. I har my infant son with me. It scared me and made me apply for my concealed carry permit. I won't go to that area anymore. Druggies have taken the area over. It's sad.

I know I couldn't handle it. I got through it with my husband by my side. If he had another wife and family, I would have gone to a dark place and not come out. I know myself. Like I said there is a reason why I was born when I was.

Their marriage is not mine. I know that I could not handle it if my husband had children with another woman. My life and experiences are different from them. I would not have been able to deal with my daughter being stillborn and multiple miscarriages while some other woman had my husband's babies. I know that. Maybe that's why I was born when I was.

I can say as someone who struggled to have babies, It would have drove me insane if dh had another wife having babies right and left. I had a hard enough time dealing with it and feelings like a failure. Another woman having his babies, who have finished me off.