JGarcia
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9 minutes ago, unixknight said:
So you're thinking... what? You'll just keep quiet about it, lie when asked about being current with your obligations, and still expect to be worthy? Not a good plan.
11 hours ago, JGarcia said:It's just that I don't have any current obligations to my son. I do want to be honest but I feel really uncomfortable about it.
11 minutes ago, unixknight said:You're a dad whether you're ready or not, bro. The only choice you have is whether to be a good one or a bad one.
I know kind of but I want to wait a while longer before being a dad as I am not ready.
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3 hours ago, anatess2 said:
Oh, one thing that won't change... you won't have an NFL team.
Although... word on the street is San Antonio is getting one soon.
My mom raised me to be a soccer fan and I can't stand the NFL
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3 hours ago, NeuroTypical said:
You'll find quickly that this church is very principle based. You tell the bishop because it's the right thing to do. Doesn't matter if it makes things complicated or smooth, it's the right thing to do. That's how you resolve it - by sharing this issue with the bishop and counseling with him to get it all taken care of. Just imagine - you sitting there full of peace and comfort, knowing that you resolved this, and it's not a worry anymore.
What I am scared of is if the Bishop tells me I can't go to them temple until I start caring for my son or helping to provide for him in some way, because I'm not ready to yet so it could be a really long time. Do you think he will say something like that to me? I'm not sure whether not caring for your child is a sin, I do know family is really important and central to the gospel
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1 hour ago, Midwest LDS said:
I understand not wanting to think about an earlier period of your life when you weren't living the commandments. But you can't move on from having a son. He always will be yours, no matter how much you try to distance yourself from him. Because of that, you owe him love and support. As @Just_A_Guy states as well, one of the temple reccomend questions is about being current on child support obligations. The Lord expects you to care for him to the best of your ability. You may not be ready to be a dad, but you are one and you need to do the best you can for him. You can do it, most of us aren't fully ready when we have a child ( I have a toddler myself) and it involves a lot of on the job training, but start with what you can do (if you aren't all ready) by sending money, clothing, etc. to your ex to help support your son. Trust me you will be glad you did.
Yeah my ex told me whenever I am ready I can start seeing our son, and then she messaged me a few months ago saying he had been asking for me (not me specifically, he had just been asking for his dad) but I didn't want to go and see him then. I think in a few years I will be ready to begin seeing him and caring for him.
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1 minute ago, pam said:
Do you mind me asking where in Texas you live? I'm getting ready to move there.
I live in Austin. Texas is awesome
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1 hour ago, Just_A_Guy said:
To the extent that there’s a violation of the Law of Chastity in your past—that is “fixable”, from the standpoint of getting a temple recommend. It may take a little longer than you’d like, but it’s do-able.
You should be aware, though, that one of the questions for the TR interview is whether you’re current on any child support obligations; and that’s regardless of whether you actually see the child or not.
I know that I have already repented from breaking the Law of Chastity but I am worried my bishop will think it's bad that I abandoned my son and he won't let me have a temple recommend for that reason
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11 hours ago, Midwest LDS said:
Secondly, do right by your son. You may not have a lot to do with him at the moment, but he's your son. Whether you had him intentionally or not, it's your responsibility to do what you can for him. Maybe all that is right now is phone calls or some money sent for his support, but you need to do everything you can to help him out. God expects us to care for our children, and if you want to show him that you have truly changed you need to do everything you can to take care of and nurture your son. Best of luck on your journey back to Christ brother.
I have a mixed emotions about it because I want to leave it in my past that I have a son and move on from it. But at the same time when I am ready to be a dad I want to be involved in his life.
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10 hours ago, NeuroTypical said:
Hi and welcome JGarcia,
Absolutely you should tell your bishop about this. There's even a part in the interview that is a perfect time to bring up your ex and son, and your concerns. You'll know it when you see it.
Like MidwestLDS said, if you leave something like this un-talked about, you're setting yourself up to have your temple experience be all about the anxiety around whether you lied or hid or sinned or are really worthy to be there, or a thousand other anxieties. Get it out in the open and resolve it with your bishop. That way, going to the temple can be about going to the temple.
Welcome!
I am unsure how to resolve it though. I can't reverse that I have a son and I don't want to tell the bishop that I have a son if it will be a barrier for me going to the temple. I do want to be honest but I am nervous because I don't know a way that I will be forgiven if I tell my bishop.
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6 hours ago, Traveler said:
As a scientist and engineer also a 5th generation member and as we have all learned - currently a newly instituted member of the Elders quorum - I have lots of questions about a great many things. I do not know if any would be for you. Thanks for offering.
The Traveler
Wow so boastful. I meant any question about me or some friendly question. I am not a scientist or engineer so I can't help you with those questions unfortunately.
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My name is James Garcia I am originally from El Salvador but I moved to the USA when I was 9, so i'm kind of an American now. I am 24 and live in Texas. I have been a member of the church since I was 9 but I was inactive for a really long time. I returned to church again late last year. I have 1 full sister who is a missionary right now and I miss her a lot. I don't know what else to say but if you have any questions for me you can ask me .
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I have been a member since I was 9 and I grew up going to church with my mom and step father. I was inactive for a while from when I was 15 - 23 I started going back to church around September last year, and I have been doing good at keeping commandments and attending church. I was meant to have a temple recommend interview on Friday but I panicked and canceled it because I have a son with my ex and I don't see him and I had a feeling that this wouldn't fly with the bishop. Do you think I should tell him I have a son I don't see? I really don't want to tell him because I have heard him speak about how important it is for children to have good fathers and I know how important families are to the gospel. Do you think that I wont be able to get a temple recommend because of it? I feel like it's kind of a sin that I don't help care for my son but I kind of feel like I repented of it, so i'm not sure what to do.
Hi I need some advice for my temple recommend interview, i'm not sure what to tell the Bishop about my past
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My Ex and I agreed that when I am ready to be a father I can come and see our son