Non of my business but I've always wondered

[yorkiebeebs]

My friend is LDS and years ago her husband and father of her 9 kids left her for another woman. They had been sealed in the Temple and he was a leader in the church. From the outside they looked like the perfect family.

Obviously she was devastated when this happened. I've wondered through the years, what happens after they die? They were sealed together. If he were to come back to the church would they still be sealed? They both have remarried but when they die (if he is back in the church) will they be together?

I know these sound like crazy questions but it's hard to understand some of these teachings. It's so nice to be in a friendly environment and be able to ask the questions. Thank you in advance.

[Maureen]

My friend is LDS and years ago her husband and father of her 9 kids left her for another woman. They had been sealed in the Temple and he was a leader in the church. From the outside they looked like the perfect family.

Obviously she was devastated when this happened. I've wondered through the years, what happens after they die? They were sealed together. If he were to come back to the church would they still be sealed? They both have remarried but when they die (if he is back in the church) will they be together?

I know these sound like crazy questions but it's hard to understand some of these teachings. It's so nice to be in a friendly environment and be able to ask the questions. Thank you in advance.

I will try to give a basic answer. If the wife is remarried, there's a possibility that she may have requested a "sealing cancellation" from her first husband; it was granted and she may now be sealed to her present husband; if he is LDS of course.

And believe me, it's not a crazy question.

M.

[crazypotato]

When her husband left her for another woman, was he excommunicated?

And if not, or if he is in the church, he can't be sealed to the new wife without a letter of permission from his ex-wife.

[UrbanFool]

My friend's dad left her mom for another guy and he moved down to San Fran, ditching his wife with 8 kids. I've never understood how he could reconcile that (regardless of his religious affiliation.)

[yorkiebeebs]

When her husband left her for another woman, was he excommunicated?

And if not, or if he is in the church, he can't be sealed to the new wife without a letter of permission from his ex-wife.

He went to the Bishop and confessed and was excommunicated. During the years his friends from the church have approached him to return to the church but so far he has not.

The man my friend married a couple of years later is not LDS but attends church with her.

He was active in the Temple and everything right up to the point that he confessed to the Bishop and this affair had been going on for at least a few months.

I guess it's just something that I've always wondered about but never had anyone to ask the question.

[WmLee]

Something a lot of people never think about . . . when a man and woman are sealed for time and all eternity, when it comes time to “meet” in the next phase of life, if the woman doesn’t feel the man lived up to his covenants (promises made in the temple) she doesn’t have to be with him. She can still have the children and receive all that she is entitled receive.

I know that when we reach that “place” and we have a complete understanding of our lives we will have a different outlook. However, the idea that my wife may not answer me or join me when that time calls makes me work even harder to be worthy of all she expects. I also expect the same from her.

We have and will make mistakes long the way. But if we keep focused on what is to come we can deal with things a lot better.

[Hemidakota]

My friend is LDS and years ago her husband and father of her 9 kids left her for another woman. They had been sealed in the Temple and he was a leader in the church. From the outside they looked like the perfect family.

Obviously she was devastated when this happened. I've wondered through the years, what happens after they die? They were sealed together. If he were to come back to the church would they still be sealed? They both have remarried but when they die (if he is back in the church) will they be together?

I know these sound like crazy questions but it's hard to understand some of these teachings. It's so nice to be in a friendly environment and be able to ask the questions. Thank you in advance.

You don't want to know...ask someone what is like in suffering the torments of hell in mortal life.

[rameumptom]

Their sealing is only good for the wife to receive the blessings of the sealing. If he returns to good standing in the Church, she will not have to be with him for the eternities. She will have a choice of another good LDS man to live with for eternity.

[MichaelCraig]

Is it true that the wife cannot go (to Heaven) until she is called by the husband? If so, what happens to her if the husband decides not to call her? Yorkiebeebs, as you can see you do not hold the monopoly on crazy questions. :) But I do ask honestly and sincerely because I am trying to learn and hearing it explained by the many wonderful and understanding folks here helps me make better sense of things than when I try to read or research the issue using my limited resources.