Winnie G Posted May 30, 2006 Report Posted May 30, 2006 Has any one here had a family member Exed? How did you feel and how did they take it, have they ever come back? Quote
shanstress70 Posted May 30, 2006 Report Posted May 30, 2006 Quote <div class='quotemain'>Has any one here had a family member Exed?How did you feel and how did they take it, have they ever come back?My aunt was excommunicated. She felt rather releived, and while she had a bit of a blow up at the time i think she took it okay. She never went back to the church. She joined the list of our family that really wanted nothing to do with it. There's always been a love-hate relationship with the church in our family.Hi SS,I didn't know you had an LDS family background. That's interesting. Quote
shanstress70 Posted May 30, 2006 Report Posted May 30, 2006 Quote My mother's side of the family was LDS, her mother had fallen away from the church, but a few of my aunts were still members. My mother married a catholic, the first the LDS had ever had this close to the family so there were some strained relations. I was raised Catholic and made to feel very uncomfortable by The LDS members of the family. I grew up hating the church, and am doing my very best to get over it for the sake of a few LDS members who i really love.Interesting... thanks for sharing.I don't have any family who are members, except for my father's brother and his family. No one in my family was overly-thrilled when I became LDS around age 28... except for them.I do however have my MIL and FIL, and DH's sister and her family who are LDS. DH's other siblings are no longer active, if they are members at all. We don't argue about religion anymore (since I left and DH stopped believing). But we respect each others religious differences. I know that deep down my MIL is hurt, but there are worse things in the world to have to get over! She just wants us to be happy. I absolutely adore my IL's. Quote
Palerider Posted May 31, 2006 Report Posted May 31, 2006 My oldest daughter was exed a several years ago......from the day the court was held it was about a year and a half before she came home and ask what did she need to do to get rebaptised....I am leaving a bunch of stuff out.....she was rebaptised and has since gotten married and sealed in the Temple has a daughter 10 months old...... Quote
Laureltree Posted May 31, 2006 Report Posted May 31, 2006 Palerider, That is awesome ! I haven't yet had anyone exed, however my love for them wouldn't change. I do believe that we will all one day have the knowledge we need to make better choices, but for now we are all human and what ever our choices are we ( that person) is the one who has to live with the choice made, everyone else just has to watch the consequences, and although it may hurt to just watch ...it is still there choice and god given right to make it. we are just here to mold, love and guide thats it...nothing more.... LaurelTree Quote
Palerider Posted June 1, 2006 Report Posted June 1, 2006 Quote Palerider, That is awesome ! I haven't yet had anyone exed, however my love for them wouldn't change. I do believe that we will all one day have the knowledge we need to make better choices, but for now we are all human and what ever our choices are we ( that person) is the one who has to live with the choice made, everyone else just has to watch the consequences, and although it may hurt to just watch ...it is still there choice and god given right to make it. we are just here to mold, love and guide thats it...nothing more....LaurelTreeHere is another part of the story that did not get told......I was the one who held the court....and yes she is doing great now.....her hubby is a returned missionary and their daughter was born in the covenant. Quote
Lindy Posted June 3, 2006 Report Posted June 3, 2006 Quote Has any one here had a family member Exed?How did you feel and how did they take it, have they ever come back?Winnie G~ since I'm a convert I don't have a lot of famiy who are LDS. I will say this though..... I would look at it as one would look at a child who has a huge obsticle to overcome or adapt to. Like "Mom, I'm pregnant" or "I messed up and I'm at a real down part of life right now.... please don't judge me" Whether it is a child, a brother or sister, aunt, uncle or cousin.... I'm sure they are going through lots of emotions right now... could be fear, unworthiness, hurt, anger or frustration, or like SS said ... relief. Hard for you to know what is going on inside of them unless they say something. And the only way they would come back....is if they want to come back....they have to make that choice for themself. All you can do is be there for them either way. My two cents. Quote
Bob_oz Posted June 10, 2006 Report Posted June 10, 2006 I don't have any LDS family other than myself, wife and children so I can't comment on being that close to the issue. Over many years I have been involved in such "Disciplinary Councils" many times (its not that I am really that bad you understand - poor humour I know!) The Gospel is based on law and sometimes when a we break a law we need to take certian steps to repent. Such a step in some cases is requires this action to help one repent or to maintain the law when one is not repentant. These Councils have as a foundation love and when full love is shared the individule has a far better chance to return. The gospel is love and when we all help each other these difficult times become wonderful opportunities for progress, alas, we humans don't always show love or remember the old saying "that there but for the Grace of God go I" I have friends who sinned and be it pride or lack of loving support have not yet made it back. The gospel plan is so very good, you see again how we all become interdependant and responsible for each other. Palerider, that really was awesome, and we both know that your daughter likely had some hard times and lessons but I'd say she looks back at it as a blessing in her life today, thanks for sharing, I'd say she had a pretty good Bishop too :) Bob Quote
boyando Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Quote Has any one here had a family member Exed?How did you feel and how did they take it, have they ever come back?I have a sister who asked to have her name removed from the records of the Church. I love her very much. Her life is her life and I remember a happy child in there worst of affliction. Now only sadness in her life. That is all I can say. Quote
shanstress70 Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Quote <div class='quotemain'>Has any one here had a family member Exed?How did you feel and how did they take it, have they ever come back?I have a sister who asked to have her name removed from the records of the Church. I love her very much. Her life is her life and I remember a happy child in there worst of affliction. Now only sadness in her life. That is all I can say.That's interesting... the opposite situation was my case. Everyone is different though, I suppose. Quote
tngu Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 I have also known people who left the church who seem a lot happier to me but I have also seen the opposite. I think it's all about living the way God would want you too regardless of your religious affilitation. You can be just as happy being any other religion as you can being LDS. I have a husband who proves that! I have never known anyone exed, but I have a family member who was disfellowshiped once. He is back to full activity now so it all worked out! Quote
shanstress70 Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Quote I have also known people who left the church who seem a lot happier to me but I have also seen the opposite. I think it's all about living the way God would want you too regardless of your religious affilitation. You can be just as happy being any other religion as you can being LDS. I have a husband who proves that!Thank you for acknowledging that, tngu. I know extremely happy people who have left the LDS church, and happy people who are currently LDS. Quote
tngu Posted June 11, 2006 Report Posted June 11, 2006 Quote <div class='quotemain'>I have also known people who left the church who seem a lot happier to me but I have also seen the opposite. I think it's all about living the way God would want you too regardless of your religious affilitation. You can be just as happy being any other religion as you can being LDS. I have a husband who proves that!Thank you for acknowledging that, tngu. I know extremely happy people who have left the LDS church, and happy people who are currently LDS.You're welcome! I guess I know where you are coming from a little because I always get the "You're marriage can't possible be happy because you didn't marry within the church" which I get is a whole other topic. I also know so many people of other faiths who have very happy lives, either that or they are just really good actors!! I have also been having a lot of questions about whether I want to stay LDS myself, I think I might be a little to liberal for this church but having said that I am very happy with the way my life is right now. Not everyone who leaves the church is doing it to go live tawdry lives and sin sin sin. Okay now I am way off topic. Sorry for the hijack!!! Quote
stormy Posted June 12, 2006 Report Posted June 12, 2006 I have a family member that was ex'ed. Our entire life he was the "Spiritual leader" of our family. He was also rather high up in the Church. It was absolutely devastating for him, me and the entire family. It's been many years now and it took some time for him to "straighten things out with the Lord" and he has been in the process of "straightening things out with the Church." It's also sad because he has missed most of his children getting married and he greatly misses his opportunity to do the temple work for our family. What I found most redeemable and hopeful about him was that he was the one that turned himself in. No one would have ever known had he not spoken up and "convicted" himself. I adore him and I can't wait until he is baptized back into the church. When that will be, I do not know. I do know that I will be there to witness that glorious event. Quote
tatermama Posted June 12, 2006 Report Posted June 12, 2006 Quote Has any one here had a family member Exed?How did you feel and how did they take it, have they ever come back?Hello, I'm new here. I actually had my name removed from the records. I have have struggled for the past few months with missing the church. I made it 9 years without these feelings. Because I now have a new life and family, I will never be able to come back. I will say this. It is ok for people to search out problems with the church teachings. It is human nature especially for those who have never been in the church. I truly believe that no matter what they say... If something makes you a better person or family then it is right. I believe that the church teachings are a wonderful thing. I was a better person with the church. I would love to have a chance for my new family to have the same blessings that I once had. I left because of a horrible situation. I am still angry that I had to take such an extreme measure. Quote
Dror Posted June 12, 2006 Report Posted June 12, 2006 Nobody in my family has been exed, but my father had a church court. His transgression had occurred so many years in the past that the Church leaders decided against exing him. Didn't know there was a statute of limitations in the Church! Quote
boyando Posted June 17, 2006 Report Posted June 17, 2006 My first thought is; this is not a very faith promoting subject. My second thought is; When I hear some one talk about how some one they know, came back to Church, I find hope for the lost sheep I know. I think I'll focus on my second thought. Quote
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