Question about life after mortal life

[autismmum]

Yet another question....

If I get baptised into LDS faith and my young son doesn't and I am buried with LDS church and he isn't what happens after that?

I am going to bring him up as LDS in his lifestyle and beliefs but I don't think he will be baptised because of his autism but also because my ex husband who is his father is catholic and will have no time for this "mormon rubbish".

I know there are things you can do after death ie baptisms etc but he will have none of that either I know it.

Am waffling but I guess what I need to know is if I am buried in a different place and religion to my son does that mean we won't be together in the afterlife?

[annewandering]

You will be together if you do your part. If he is unable to be baptized that is not his fault. Trust God will be fair to you and your son. He will be.

[Vort]

Am waffling but I guess what I need to know is if I am buried in a different place and religion to my son does that mean we won't be together in the afterlife?

No. In fact, if your son never reaches the emotional and functional age of eight, he will probably never be baptized, anyway. Baptism is for those who are capable of repenting and making a covenant. Little children, and those who have the minds of little children, are free from sin and are saved by the blood of Christ. They do not need baptism.

I realize that you did not say your son was mentally stunted or retarded, but autistic. I also realize that many of those with autism are highly intelligent individuals. So I'm not making any assumptions about your son, just saying that if he is in this situation, baptism doesn't apply anyway.

You need not worry about issues like this. God is just and perfect. If and when your son is able to make a clear choice on the matter, he will choose as he finds appropriate, which is his right because of his agency. You can have every reason to suppose he will follow your example and choose life and happiness. And that choice is not necessarily made one time, but many times through many situations.

[autismmum]

Thanks so much . It is something that only came into my head this morning and you would not believe the tearful state I have worked myself up into today! Don't know what's wrong with me at the moment... Couldn't work out why God was pushing me up this path if it meant being parted from my son.

Of course I hadn't considered that as he gets older he may well choose the same path anyway. He is intelligent but in his own way...he is almost 9 but if someone tried to baptise him at the moment he would think they were trying to drown him and would be terrified.

[NeuroTypical]

My wife was telling me a story about a family with an autistic kid the other day. They were an LDS family, and the kid was a teenager who was struggling with religion and faith in very autistically typical ways. To him, scripture reading and prayer were wastes of time, it didn't really matter to him whether God existed or not, lots of resistance to wear sunday clothes and go to church, etc. Then his wise or inspired bishop offered him a calling in maintaining various parts of the building. It became his job to see all the rooms had thermostats set correctly, that the windows were locked and doors closed after church, etc. That fit his brain perfectly, and his behavior and attitude changed overnight. He now gets his family up and ready for church. When someone dinks with the heat or cooling, they answer to him for what they did to his church. A minor miracle showed up that nobody saw coming - he just out of the blue demanded to do scripture study one day. He still struggles with things, but those struggles now have a more productive/learning/debating quality, instead of just rough or violent negative reactions.

I don't know if this story fits or applies in any way to what we're discussing here, but I figured I'd share anyway. Thanks for letting me take a brief tangent.

[Wingnut]

Am waffling but I guess what I need to know is if I am buried in a different place and religion to my son does that mean we won't be together in the afterlife?

Not sure what you mean by this -- there aren't really "Mormon cemeteries." You can be buried wherever you want.

[autismmum]

See I live in the UK... I don't know if the LDS churches have cemeteries here for sure but most churches over here have their own cemeteries and you tend to be buried at the church you attended .

[trubludru]

No, LDS church grounds do not include a church cemetery. Typically, (from my experience) members of the church are usually buried at a local publically or privately owned/run cemetary near where they lived or maybe near where they were born if a lot of their family is buried there. It doesn't affect you or your son's salvation or anything if you end up buried in different cemeteries.

The positive thing to focus on concerning this topic of death is that everyone will live on after this mortal life and will have the oppurtunity to be reunited with their family. And everyone that has been on the earth will be resurrected and gain an immortal body without the problems or sicknesses the mortal ones we have now are subject to.

[dahlia]

You will be together if you do your part. If he is unable to be baptized that is not his fault. Trust God will be fair to you and your son. He will be.

This is what I love about Mormonism. "Trust God will be fair to you and your son." That's actually quite beautiful and very different from what some so-called Christians might say if you don't do everything the way they want you to do it.