Mormon Nuptuals and Custody

[annewandering]

But wouldn't the kid benefit more for a LDS upbringing.

Sure. By LDS upbringing that would include: believe and live the Gospel.

The bigger question to me is why dont you live that if you already believe its better than the way you live now? It is not out of your reach. It would be a lifestyle good for the child. If its good for the child it would be good for the step/parents too. :)

[BrendaM]

Hey people, This was a serious question. I did not come here to be admonished. I do think an alcohol free environment would be ideal, and I am looking in the best interest of the kid. it's gonna be a challenge to go buy mountain dew

instead of alcohol but will do the best. But wouldn't the kid benefit more for a LDS upbringing.

Any child would absolutely benefit from an LDS upbringing. But that wasn't really your question, was it?

Unless your finace is willing to live the lifestyle required by her Heavenly Father she should not be baptized and make covenants that she may not be able to honor. Consuming alcohol is only one aspect she would have to stop.

You state that "we like to do thing such as drinking.." and yet you state you are LDS. Does that mean that you are not living the LDS lifestyle? If this is the case, then my opinion would be perhaps you should get your ducks in a row per se. And see where your example might help your fiance.

If she thinks becoming a Mormon will "look good" in the eyes of the law, wrong. The law does not care what religion you are. It wouldn't matter if the father was LDS and the mom wasn't. What matters to the courts is where that child will best be taken care of.

I would hope that both you and your fiance would do what's best for the child. And since you are asking, that would be for you both to go talk to your Bishop; honestly and openly. Have the missionaires visit to help you both to come back to the Gospel.

[Backroads]

Hey people, This was a serious question. I did not come here to be admonished. I do think an alcohol free environment would be ideal, and I am looking in the best interest of the kid. it's gonna be a challenge to go buy mountain dew

instead of alcohol but will do the best. But wouldn't the kid benefit more for a LDS upbringing.

Sure, I think an LDS upbringing has many benefits and is wonderful for families.

But we may not be agreeing on an LDS upbringing.

Most of us here think of an LDS upbringing as a spiritual one--attending church, reading the scriptures, prayer, pondering the gospel, etc.

It seems you are defining LDS upbringing as simply: doesn't drink alcohol, do drugs, have a loving home environment.

Plenty of non-LDS upbringings include those marvelous perks.

If you and your fiancee are thinking of providing a great home and life for the child, great, more power to you, I couldn't be more supportive.

But if you aren't willing to actually have a testimony in the LDS Church, why bother taking that step when there are so many other wonderful things you can do to impress the courts?

I don't think anyone wanted to be mean, but we really are confused about why your fiancee wants to be LDS if she doesn't plan on actually believing in any of it (which is the impression we got).

[RMGuy]

She realizes she'll have to give up the alcoholic beverages to join, right?

In all fairness, she would just have to SAY that she was giving them up. I mean if you are in for the deceit anyway, you don't actually have to mean it...

-RM

[Leah]

Hey people, This was a serious question. I did not come here to be admonished. I do think an alcohol free environment would be ideal, and I am looking in the best interest of the kid. it's gonna be a challenge to go buy mountain dew

instead of alcohol but will do the best. But wouldn't the kid benefit more for a LDS upbringing.

You don't have to be LDS to be alcohol free. Just don't drink.

But...oh wait...that doesn't show up on paper, does it? Hard to impress the court with that, eh?

Not that they are going to be fooled by such a sham.

[Backroads]

Alcaster, that might be a prying question, but is there any reason your fiancee is having such difficulty in the custody battle? Bringing in a religion she has no intention of living is a rather desperate move.

[mirkwood]

But wouldn't the kid benefit more for a LDS upbringing.

Only if it is a legitimate upbrining. Lying about one's behavior to "look good" in the eyes of the court is still lying and unethical. Unethical people make poor parents, LDS or not.