In-law relationships make an impact on a couple's marriage

[classylady]

I recently read an article that caught my eye. Here's a quote from it:

"Dr. Terri Orbuch, a professor at University of Michigan's Institute for Social Research told the Wall Street Journal that close relations with in-laws can decrease the chance of divorce for men by 20 percent. Meantime, it can increase the chance of divorce by 20 percent for women with close relations to in-laws.

Family relationships are central to a woman's identity, the study, to be published in an upcoming issue of the journal Family Relations, found. Women are more likely to see their in-laws as meddlers in their marriage and family life.

For men, their identity — and value — is wrapped up in being the breadwinner. In-laws' frequent interactions aren't seen as imposing or meddling.

I found it interesting that it has opposite effects on wives vs. husbands. So, as a mother with married children, I guess I need to be extra careful around my sons and their wives, to make sure my DIL's don't perceive me as meddling. But with my daughters and their husbands, I still don't want to meddle, but there needs to be a close relationship.

Anyone have experience with this? Do you agree with the study's findings?

[annewandering]

My inlaws were dead before we married. I have given thanks for that many times. Yep. I did say that. Of course they were a special circumstance.

I would like a closer relationship with my soninlaws. Closer in that I wish more lived closer. The one that does live close is great and we get along just fine. (Talisyn's husband)

Of course there was the one that threatened my daughter that if she went against him then he would sit kitty corner to our house with a rifle and shot us all. Him we arent so close to. (he is gone now)

Some are worth knowing but others not so much.

[mirkwood]

Meddling inlaws have more of an impact.

[Wingnut]

I have fantastic in-laws. I love to just sit back and smile happily when my friend start complaining about their in-laws.

[Backroads]

I like my MiL, though usually in small doses.

Husband gets along great with my dad, but after last year's drama he and my mother are still unsure of each other--which bothers me, because I want everyone to be buddy-buddy.

Yeah, I think I can agree with these findings.

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