College Question?

[Chrissy3818]

Okay so I am suppose to be getting my acceptence letters into BYU-I and Ldsbc. I haven't even been accepted yet and I am already looking at approved housing... Getting my hopes up for nothing, most likely. But who knows? Especially with the age change in the missionaries maybe I will get into the track I want.

Anyways everyone or almost everyone tells me girls get married with in their first year of LDS College. My problem is. I don't want to get married young, and I want to get through college and then married. I really don't want to be getting married at 18 or 19. I refuse. Are they right? Guys are only looking for marriage? I don't know what to do...

[pam]

So are you saying you don't have the option of saying no to marriage?

[tubaloth]

So you are worried you are going to get married to soon? Follow the Spirit!

[Backroads]

Plenty of girls make it thorugh LDS college without getting married. I did. Sign up for housing and let your romantic life go where it will.

[Chrissy3818]

Plenty of girls make it thorugh LDS college without getting married. I did. Sign up for housing and let your romantic life go where it will.

As long as it doesn't lead to marriage, okay.

So are you saying you don't have the option of saying no to marriage?

I'm afraid I'll get all giddy in the mind and I won't be able to say no

So you are worried you are going to get married to soon? Follow the Spirit!

I need to focus on more important things than marriage.

[Guest]

Marriage isn't important?

[Chrissy3818]

Marriage isn't important?

Not the most important thing on my list, its second/third

[Just_A_Guy]

IMHO: If you don't want to get married, don't date. It really is that simple.

[SanctitasDeo]

Just remember that you don't have to do anything you don't want to. But also remember that the you of now will invariably be different than the you of now-plus-one-or-two-years. People change.

Guys at LDS schools are quite varied. I have friends who as of yet have no desire to get married. Many guys do want to get married. This does not mean that they are marriage-obsessed robots (although some recent RMs come off that way). But it does mean that they will be dating with an eye to marriage. JAG is right. The best way to avoid marriage really is not to date.

[Backroads]

IMHO: If you don't want to get married, don't date. It really is that simple.

I knew a girl at BYU-I who largely avoided the marriage problem by dating only pre-missionaries.

[Bini]

Okay so I am suppose to be getting my acceptence letters into BYU-I and Ldsbc. I haven't even been accepted yet and I am already looking at approved housing... Getting my hopes up for nothing, most likely. But who knows? Especially with the age change in the missionaries maybe I will get into the track I want.

Anyways everyone or almost everyone tells me girls get married with in their first year of LDS College. My problem is. I don't want to get married young, and I want to get through college and then married. I really don't want to be getting married at 18 or 19. I refuse. Are they right? Guys are only looking for marriage? I don't know what to do...

Follow your gut guided by the Spirit.

If your being feels at peace with focusing on education at this time, and not marriage, so be it. We're not all on the same time frame for courtship and marriage, despite, what others may pressure you into believing. Yes, marriage is important but it won't mean squat if you're not ready and not willing to make things work. It's a big decision that needs to be taken seriously and with certain degrees of caution, as well.

[Chrissy3818]

Thanks guys. Now I just have to wait for my acceptance, which is taking for ever!!