Being sealed to my children

[GoldenT]

My husband and I were in the preparation process of being sealed until I found out the he had been unfaithful. We are attempting to work it out though what hurt the most was not being sealed to my children. Is it possible to be sealed to my children without being sealed to my husband? 

[pam]

Unfortunately children can only be sealed to parents who are married and have been sealed to each other.  

[zil]

32 minutes ago, GoldenT said:

My husband and I were in the preparation process of being sealed until I found out the he had been unfaithful. We are attempting to work it out though what hurt the most was not being sealed to my children. Is it possible to be sealed to my children without being sealed to my husband? 

Welcome, @GoldenT!  I'm so sorry for what you're going through.  As Pam said, children can only be sealed to a couple.  But we also have the promise that no blessing will be denied those who are worthy of it - even if it doesn't get sorted out until the next life.  So whether you and your husband reconcile and are sealed later, or you are sealed to another and your children are sealed to you then, or whether the sealings are done by proxy later, as long as you and your children live worthy of it, you can trust in that promise.

[Vort]

1 hour ago, GoldenT said:

Is it possible to be sealed to my children without being sealed to my husband?

It is not possible. It does not even make sense.

Much of the problem is in how we word things. We talk about "sealing to parents", as if the children are sealed to father and to mother, just as husband and wife are sealed together. This is true -- sort of -- but doesn't account for how things work.

The ideal that God wants to give his children is the blessing of being born within an eternal marriage -- what we call being "born in the covenant". If husband and wife have made that marital covenant with each other in the temple, under the authority of a sealer, then all children born to that woman from that time forward are "born in the covenant" of the mother and her husband. That's the standard. That's what we want. That's the fountain of many blessings now and in eternity.

BUT...

The vast majority of people are not born in the covenant. Even within the Church, many children of record are born outside their parents' covenant, usually because the parents have not made that covenant.

Now, since God loves all his children and wishes to extend his blessings to all, he has provided a way that children not born in the covenant can still gain the exact same status, with all the blessings, as those who are born in the covenant. This is done by "sealing" the child to his/her parents, such that his status becomes exactly the same as the status of those born within the covenant.

But of course, in order to do that, the parents must be sealed to each other. That's how "born in the covenant" works, and it's how the sealing works that is designed to establish the same pattern. So the important element is that the parents are sealed to each other, and then the children are sealed, one by one, to the parents within their marital bond.

If you and your husband are not sealed together, it is meaningless to talk about having your children sealed to you alone. The man is not without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord. Without your husband and the eternal marital contract between the two of you, there is no entity for your children to be sealed within. Children are not sealed to their mother alone, or to their father alone, but to their parents, by being born (or placed) within the parents' eternal marital covenant.

Sorry if that's of little comfort to you. This is not a matter of mere policy; this is at the foundation of what sealings are all about.

Edited August 1, 2018 by Vort

[Sunday21]

@GoldenT I am so sorry that you are going through this trial! You are in my prayers.