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  1. Continuation to above: A woman-friend would tell her crying friend to "go ahead and let it all out". Whereas a man tries to figure out how to make it stop. IMO, the man would do better to learn to say "go ahead and let it all out".
  2. And this was my point - the thing I had been thinking about. Trying to "make it stop" is actually hindering the solution. You're seeing the tears as the problem1 rather than the solution to the (second) problem. The first problem (the thing which still needs solving) is whatever evoked overwhelming emotion. The second problem is the overwhelming emotion, which is solved by venting (whether the venting is tears, physical activity of some sort, raging, sulking in a dark corner, whatever). The venting doesn't need to be solved (unless it's abnormal for some reason), but rather allowed to continue until the emotion is spent and reason can then rise again to address the first problem. 1 Perhaps because "real men don't cry". That said, I doubt most people have given this much consideration. I had no choice as two of my characters were having a prolonged discussion on the matter. (NOTE: This isn't to say I don't think tears are ever unwarranted, insincere, or not helpful. In the above, I'm assuming a genuine or normal response appropriate to the emotions evoked by the first problem.)
  3. Excellent point - tears as a knee-jerk reaction to a guy breaking up with you (assuming you're not married, blah blah blah) probably is over-reaction and evidence that something isn't right with your perspective. Good rest of your post. Never. I had recently been considering this issue of "a woman crying is something that needs to be stopped", and responded to that issue without considering the fact that in the described circumstance, tears weren't warranted in the first place.
  4. Maybe stop thinking of it as a "tactic" and instead as a natural hormonal response which doesn't need solving or defending against? IMO, tears (assuming they're real) in a woman (and probably a male) are generally a release valve for overwhelming emotion. We all have multiple such release valves, and tears are a more common one in females, but that's exactly what they are. They aren't something to be stopped or a problem to be solved - they are, in fact, the solution to the problem (the problem being excess emotion which needs release, relief, or expression). So just let her cry. Maybe give her some Kleenex® brand facial tissue.
  5. (This is what I get for using a stub nib to draw.) (Lamy Al-Star 1.1 stub nib, Diamine Blue Lightning)
  6. Erm, is one of them dead now? Cuz if not... (I'm not gonna guess one way or the other what is or is not revelation, just that in addition to all the other ways in which we misinterpret these things, timing and bumps along the way often make us assume final outcome despite the outcome not being final at all.)
  7. And the guy in white is not mentioned again once Lehi gets into the dark and dreary waste. Did the guy leave him there? Did Lehi get excited to tell the tree part of the vision and forget to finish this guy's story-line? Did Nephi edit the guy out for the Reader's Digest Condensed version? (I noticed this just this morning. Along with more meaningful thoughts, I had to wonder about the guy in white.) </derailment>
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    Modern Secret Combinations

    I see Nancy's cheap-o ballpoints and raise her three fountain pens (which will not be given away):
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    Modern Secret Combinations

    This is how government documents have been signed for decades, if not longer - multiple pens, all given out to various folk after the fact. And the US certainly aren't the only ones who do this. Not sure how this relates to secret combinations - though the sight of all those ballpoints makes me suspicious. That said, anyone who's worked closely enough with the US federal government, and who understands the idea of secret combinations, can't hardly help but believe there are secret combinations therein.
  10. Cushioned folding chairs, of course.
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    Come Follow me 2020!

    Yes. Reading something non-stop allows us to retain more of the whole than if there are breaks between short bursts. I've always found Isaiah easier to understand if I read it for hours straight rather than in short bursts (which yield little more than confusion). This was brought home again last year when I decided to binge-read my favorite novel series - 19 books in 26 days - before the end, I was seeing patterns I'd never noticed before despite having read each of these books multiple times already. My conclusion is that if you want to find patterns and connections, you need to read everything through as fast as you can (possibly faster).
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    What is Command over the Elements?

    Decided it warrants a quote: Be the ship.
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    What is Command over the Elements?

    Please try not to mix the priesthood with concepts from fantasy fiction or games - IMO, the mixing will only harm in the long run. Other than that, I refer you to the hymn "Master, the Tempest Is Raging" (and its linked scriptures) as a starting point. "Elements" in this context would usually mean the weather - as when Jesus calmed the stormy sea. But could also refer to incidents such as when the children of Israel crossed the Red Sea on dry ground (and Joshua with the river Jordan), or those described in Moses 7. A study of scripture will show more than casual cause for such events. IMO, a far greater power would be the power to love God with all your heart and mind, and to then go share that love with those around you. The sooner one figures out how to gain this power, the sooner one will have more than enough power to do everything one could really want.
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    Sixteen Sodium Atoms

    What do you call someone who likes farm equipment? . . . Protractor.