Pres. Nelson adds details and clarity over the GLBT child policy changes

[NeuroTypical]

Great devotional!

BYU devotional on the love and laws of God - thechurchnews

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Though we of the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles cannot change the laws of God, we do have the charge to “build up the church, and regulate all the affairs of the same in all nations.” Thus, we can adjust policy when the Lord directs us to do so. You have recently seen such examples. Because the Restoration is ongoing, policy changes will likely and surely continue.

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Perhaps I can illustrate this through policy adjustments regarding those who identify themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT) and their children.  (I realize that other initials could be added to this acronym, but LGBT should suffice for the purposes of my message.)

Consider the policy announced in November 2015 related to the advisability of baptism for the children of LGBT parents.  Our concern then, and one we discussed at length and prayed about fervently over a long period of time, was to find a way to reduce friction between gay or lesbian parents and their children.

Because parents are the primary exemplars for their children, we did not want to put young children in the position of having to choose between beliefs and behavior that they learned at home and what they were taught at Church.  We wanted to facilitate harmony in the home and avoid pitting children and parents against each other. Thus in 2015, the policy was made to assist children and their parents in this circumstance, namely that children being raised by LGBT parents would not automatically be eligible for baptism at age eight.  Exceptions to this policy would require First Presidency approval.

The First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve have continued to seek the Lord’s guidance and to plead with Him in behalf of His children who were affected by the 2015 policy.  We knew that this policy created concern and confusion for some and heartache for others. That grieved us. Whenever the sons and daughters of God weep — for whatever reason — we weep.  So, our supplications to the Lord continued.

We also took note of LGBT parents who sought permission from the First Presidency for their children to be baptized.  In nearly every case where the LGBT parents agreed to teach their children about—and be supportive of—the covenant of baptism, the requested exception was granted.

As a result of our continued supplication, we recently felt directed to adjust the policy such that the baptism of children of LGBT parents may be authorized by bishops without First Presidency approval, if the custodial parents request the baptism and understand that a child will be taught about sacred covenants to be made at baptism.

Church to allow baby blessings, baptisms of children of LGBT parents, no longer defines same-gender marriage by a member as ‘apostasy’

We also determined that LGBT parents may request that a baby be named and blessed by one who worthily holds the Melchizedek Priesthood.  It is important that these parents understand that ward members will contact them periodically, and that when a child who has been blessed reaches eight years of age, local leaders will recommend that the child be baptized.

Finally, we also clarified that homosexual immorality would be treated in the eyes of the Church in the same manner as heterosexual immorality.

Though it may not have looked this way to some, the 2015 and 2019 policy adjustments on this matter were both motivated by love—the love of our Heavenly Father for His children and the love of the Brethren for those whom we serve.

Because we feel the depth of God’s love for His children, we care deeply about every child of God, regardless of age, personal circumstances, gender, sexual orientation, or other unique challenges.

I remember arguing online back in 2015, asking mad people "why on earth do you want these children to have to choose between their parents and the church?  The church isn't in the habit of driving wedges between families..."

 

 

[Traveler]

I have long felt that the primary problem has been among family members that hoped to teach their grandchildren (or other relatives) to be baptized when they were of the age to do so - regardless of the demeanor of the parents.   I believe that children should be baptized based in covenant.  For example, a child should not be baptized that is taught in their home not to pay tithing, live the word or wisdom or honor the oath and covenant of the priesthood.  There is a very misguided thought that baptism is perhaps a social thing and that not being baptized diminishes a child's value in a congregation of Saints.  If any person (child or adult) is obligated to others that are not partakers of divine covenant - they should not be baptized without the permission of those to whom they are obligated - EVER in mortality.  They will have to wait until they have authority to make the covenant to live by the laws, ordinances and covenants of G-d.

And yes - I personally see a detachment from the responsibility of being a parent that has the thought, attitude or belief that it is not necessarily good that their children should respect the example their parents are.  It is not intelligent for parents to knowingly be poor examples.  If parents think they are good examples contrary to divine covenant - why would they want their children baptized in obedience to divine covenant????

 

The Traveler

Edited September 18, 2019 by Traveler