finding a partener!

[adie_vale]

Hi so for those who are married etc, obviously the ideal situation would be to meet a mormon, i am intending on getting baptised and i intend on meeting someone who is a lds memeber! How!and were is the best way to meet people who are of the same faith and so on. Any help would be great!

[WillowTheWhisp]

Best place to meet LDS members is at LDS socials.

[butongrl]

Hi adie,

Congratulations on your decision to be baptized. I don't know how old you are but there are singles wards in the LDS church for those age 18-30 which is a good place to meet people. If you do attend a singles ward there are many fun activities such as Family Home Evening, dances, parties in the ward. Some places also have singles wards for those age 31-40?. I myself met my spouse on ldssingles.com while chatting. I think the lds chat rooms can also be good ways to find people. Sides its fun chatting! Good luck to you!

[WillowTheWhisp]

Adie is in the UK butongirl so not as likely to find a singles ward but there will be single adult activities, young single adult activities and you'll learn about events that are taking place in your own Ward, or at Stake level or regional level such as dances which you can go to. If you drive you will probably find yourself in demand to help other non-drivers get to such events.

BTW single young eligible Mormon bachelors seem to be in demand round this neck of the woods and it may well be the same where you are. Females always seem to be in the majority.

[Alaskagain]

Whoa! In a hurry, are you? You aren't baptized, yet! Take one thing at a time. If your goal is to be baptized, then focus on that.

I assume, you don't want just a "partner", but a "wife". It is very important for you to have your religious commitment made first. If you don't, you are likely to choose a woman who does not share your level of commitment, even if you find her at an LDS social activity.

[adie_vale]

Adie is in the UK butongirl so not as likely to find a singles ward but there will be single adult activities, young single adult activities and you'll learn about events that are taking place in your own Ward, or at Stake level or regional level such as dances which you can go to. If you drive you will probably find yourself in demand to help other non-drivers get to such events.

BTW single young eligible Mormon bachelors seem to be in demand round this neck of the woods and it may well be the same where you are. Females always seem to be in the majority.

I dont know were you are, but i am in the newcastle under lyme stake, it is the borxdering town to stoke on trent. thanks for any help again.

[skalenfehl]

I think your bishop or branch president should be able to let you know when the regional youth activities take place so that you and others in your situation can meet and make new friends, etc.

[WillowTheWhisp]

I'm in the Chorley Stake, Blackburn Ward. I have a 16 year old daughter who is disappoi ted that she can't get to a dance in Huddersfiekd next Friday as my husband is working and can't take her and I can't drive. She's looking forward to being old enough to drive and being able to take herself. That's when I shall really start worrying until she gets home safely!

[adie_vale]

awww hoipe she will be safe! I suppose it one step at a time i just like to know what i am doing

[miztrniceguy]

i met my wife on ldschat.com

[inthearmsofsleep]

I know it's jumping the gun, but I'd say a good place to start would be attending church regularly and going to YSA (young single adult) activities/meetings. In our area we have stuff all week long, like YSA family night on Mondays, YSA institute class on Wednesdays (scripture study, things like that), Family History class on Thursday, and usually Sports Night on Friday. All of those are a great opportunity to socialize without much pressure, while learning more of the Gospel and being in a good environment.

[adie_vale]

Thanks they do have ysa night on a thursday for people in my age group.

[Hemidakota]

I dont know were you are, but i am in the newcastle under lyme stake, it is the borxdering town to stoke on trent. thanks for any help again.

Are you considering a mission call first; if you are within the age limit? I use to live in Harold Hill, Romford, Essex county.

[adie_vale]

Are you considering a mission call first; if you are within the age limit? I use to live in Harold Hill, Romford, Essex county.

I am considering a missionry call, also i would love emigrate, i missionry call would be good i am 24 so dont know what it entails.

[MorningStar]

I know quite a few people who have met someone on singles sites, but a friend of mine e-mailed me years ago saying that her mom's co-worker met someone that way and when the guy started pushing marriage too early, she broke it off, he asked her to meet with her one more time, and then he roughed her up, raped her, and went back to Canada. He wrote her an e-mail saying, "Don't you dare have your bishop tell my bishop. I already told mine and I've been forgiven."

Anyway, please be very careful about the people you meet online. Two couples in my ward met online and their marriages are falling apart. It seems like there are a lot of things that didn't surface until later and both have had domestic violence issues. With one couple, they were fighting and took it outside, the wife tripped and fell pregnant while holding their son, and when the police showed up, she said her husband pushed her (I'm not so sure of what actually happened), but he went to jail with three counts of abuse due to her being pregnant and holding their child, and he missed the birth of their daughter. Another couple - they are currently not allowed to see each other. He hit her while holding their baby. He and his three kids are with relatives and he is not allowed to see his wife or the baby. They can't even discuss a divorce now because of the no contact order. What a mess. He's looking at 3 years right now and it's going to be a long process while they prepare for the trial. Now she wants to work it out, but she's going to stay with her mom out of state since she can't speak to her husband anyway. Not that online romances all lead to this kind of thing, but I think it's easier to present your "best self" and hide any problems for longer.

I was just talking to some friends about this the other day. I think it makes much more sense for LDS people to meet other LDS people online when they live in an area where Mormons are scarce, but I feel rather suspicious of someone in a place like Provo looking online when there are so many members around them. Maybe I'm wrong! I just think of the nightmarish dates I had in Provo and can think of a couple guys there who I wouldn't be surprised if they have gone looking online for someone.

[adie_vale]

I know quite a few people who have met someone on singles sites, but a friend of mine e-mailed me years ago saying that her mom's co-worker met someone that way and when the guy started pushing marriage too early, she broke it off, he asked her to meet with her one more time, and then he roughed her up, raped her, and went back to Canada. He wrote her an e-mail saying, "Don't you dare have your bishop tell my bishop. I already told mine and I've been forgiven."

Anyway, please be very careful about the people you meet online. Two couples in my ward met online and their marriages are falling apart. It seems like there are a lot of things that didn't surface until later and both have had domestic violence issues. With one couple, they were fighting and took it outside, the wife tripped and fell pregnant while holding their son, and when the police showed up, she said her husband pushed her (I'm not so sure of what actually happened), but he went to jail with three counts of abuse due to her being pregnant and holding their child, and he missed the birth of their daughter. Another couple - they are currently not allowed to see each other. He hit her while holding their baby. He and his three kids are with relatives and he is not allowed to see his wife or the baby. They can't even discuss a divorce now because of the no contact order. What a mess. He's looking at 3 years right now and it's going to be a long process while they prepare for the trial. Now she wants to work it out, but she's going to stay with her mom out of state since she can't speak to her husband anyway. Not that online romances all lead to this kind of thing, but I think it's easier to present your "best self" and hide any problems for longer.

I was just talking to some friends about this the other day. I think it makes much more sense for LDS people to meet other LDS people online when they live in an area where Mormons are scarce, but I feel rather suspicious of someone in a place like Provo looking online when there are so many members around them. Maybe I'm wrong! I just think of the nightmarish dates I had in Provo and can think of a couple guys there who I wouldn't be surprised if they have gone looking online for someone.

thats shocking, i know in any relationship trust andx stuff need to be developed over time! Those situations are horrible though i feel for those people affected.

[WillowTheWhisp]

I don't see any problem in getting to know someone online as long as you make sure you know them well enough in person before committing to a relationship. After all even people who meet in real life can present a false image at first when they are trying to win someone over. You just really need to get to know each other warts and all.

[Hemidakota]

I am considering a missionry call, also i would love emigrate, i missionry call would be good i am 24 so dont know what it entails.

At this point, I would approach Heavenly Father on what should be a priority first and see HE is an agreement. If a mission call is a priority, then go to the Bishop of the ward. He will help you.

I would opt for the latter since it will be a greater blessing in your life and others.