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I don't think you hate her, you might be disappointed, scared, frustrated but it isn't hate. I went through the same thing just yesterday but it wasn't with a relative. When I prayed, I told Heavenly Father that I was angry and I didn't know how to pray for them. It was a short time after that I knew that I needed to work on putting myself in a different frame of mind before I could pray for someone.

I think that is a no brainer.

Congrats Bethie, I am so happy for you and knowing I have a new LDS sister. I can't make it, I went to Utah during the summer and so that is all of my Utah money for now. But I will be there in spirit and thought. Hugs!

aren't zombies carnally minded?

The kissy doll, when you squeezed her arms she'd pucker. She was great till my brother broke her arms off and just left a pucker on her face

I remember seeing a GI Joe naked when I was a little girl, they scared me, I thought men looked liked that. *shudder*

It is so awesome that you feel this way about her. I am sure she is just as lucky to have you.

Hi, I am really sorry to hear that your marriage is not doing so well. Has he acted distant to you lately? Maybe he is just overwhelmed with life. I will remember you both in my prayers.

While I was growing up and learning about temple work for the dead. I could not understand how anyone could refuse the Gospel once they were deceased, to me they were out from under Satans' influence. My brother told me that we will still have our free agency and there are those that can decide to accept or reject the Gospel. I don't fully understand this but somethings I can accept to not fully understand right now and know someday I will.

am LDS all my life.

Hi, Welcome to the site and yes there is much out there to discredit the church. We could spend days, weeks, even months arguing over the anti stuff out there but we might never get anything done :). I have heard much of the anti stuff also and have argued with others over it, in the end people will believe what they want either for or against. My best advice to you is........study the scriptures, fast and pray about things. He will give you the answer you seek and He will never lie to you. Then when you have your prayers aswered, be happy and content with it. We can't change peoples opinions except through example and longsuffering, really longsuffering :)

Thank you for your input. I do not bad mouth the other girl, as I know it will drive a wedge between us and I might lose her. The other girl is quite nice and as I said before we were friends, when I was told about their relationship, I was shocked, my daughter had boyfriends in the past so I was not expecting anything like this. The girl has emailed me since then and said she didn't want to lose me as a friend. I did tell her that we could be friends. I said that as long as we could keep our friendship seperate from her and my daughters relationship then things will be fine. I told her I think she is a very good person but the lifestyle was wrong.

So far it hasn't distanced her from me, and when I said those thiings, I meant that I didn't want to hear about their personal life, or how happy they are together. My daughter is living with me now and we get a long great. I don't brood about it or harp about it. I have told her how I felt and I feel that is all I need to say. My own struggles are internal and I keep them to myself or try to find answers on how I can deal with it and not to do any harm to our relationship in the process

Thank you for your input. My nephew is gay and he distanced himself from his whole family. I don't want to alienate my daughter as my children are my lifeline. I had a good friend who was gay and he just died a few years ago from hepatitus C and aids. He knew how I felt but he was a great friend, always there when I needed someone. It just feels different when it is an immediate family member.

Thank you for the clarification. I did only mean the ones acting on their impulses. I know that the temptation isn't wrong but acting on it is. I assumed everyone knew what i meant. Anyway if I offended someone I apologize. Thanks.

Wow Jim, thank you for sharing that, it meant a lot to me. I have invited her to church and she said "Maybe", I hope that she will take me up on it. I know that the Gospel can work miracles, sometimes I just forget that changes happen in the Lords' time. I am so happy that you have found your way back. Thanks again

I did feel betrayed at first, but it was the other girl that told me about them. My daughter was raised by her father and although I stayed in her life all the years, I feel that we didn't really get to build the relationship we could have. We do have heart to heart talks about a lot of things but she is a private person and she doesn't talk much about her feelings when it comes to personal relationships. I think she was afraid to tell me because she knows how much against same sex relationships I am. She did tell me she was afraid I would be disappointed in her. Thanks for the advice and the side tangent

A lot of what you have said makes sense, I guess I just view homosexualtiy as worse than premarital sex. My children have lived with boyfriends and girlfriends and when they have come to visit, I did not let them sleep together. My daughter told me once that she didn't see how they were hurting anyone and I said, "You both are hurting your salvation." I have extended more of an outpouring of love to her. The scripture, "Be still and know that I am God" comes to mind so much and that is comforting but there are times I still wrestle with it. You are right about the other girl, I don't hold her more responsible than I do my daughter, I guess in all honesty. It is easier to write someone off more so than your own child. I know that there is always something to learn from trials even if they are not your own. Thanks for the advice. :)

Hi, Thanks for responding, I have told my daughter that she will always be my daughter and I will always love her unconditionally. I also told her that i couldn't condone or support their relationship because it is a sin. I also told her I couldn't share this relationship with her, meaning that I didn't want to know about their relationship. Thanks for the video links and I will be sxure to watch them.

I had read that article some time ago and had forgotten what it all said. Thank you so much for directing me back to it. It answered my questions. Thank you again, I feel this burden has been lifted some.

I have searched for answers and prayed about this but am at a loss. My daughter, 23 years old is involved with another woman. Before I knew that they were involved, I had a developed a great relationship with the other female. Once I was told they were in love is when the problems started. I didn't even know they were lesbian. My problem lies with total rejection of a gay lifestyle. I can't support or condone their relationship and they know this. I love my daughter and treat her no differently than I ever have. This is something that we don't talk about. I am not sure of how to deal with the other person. If I keep the friendship going, will it be like saying that I think it is ok? I can't figure out how to deal with all this. When I first found out, I was angry, sad, worried, and I cried a lot. How do I accept these girls without accepting their lifestyle? I don't feel that I should shun the other girl as I know she is a good person. I just don't know what to do. If the relationship continues, do I let her come to family get togethers? Maybe someone can shed some light on this.

Thanks guys, that helps alot I was confused by why Alma would bury himself in the water with Helem. You all have cleared it up for me.

I really feel stupid, I meant to ask about Alma and Helam. For some reason John the Baptist and Jesus is what stuck in my mind and when I went back to check it out, well it was Alma and I believe it was Helam. Why did Alma go down into the water with him and then it says he didn't go down again after that? Thanks for answering.

I have been reading the Book of Mormon and I read that when John the Baptist baptised Jesus that they both went down into the water. What does that mean? John was already baptised wasn't he?

Gorillas are my favorite animals, they exhibit more human like behavior than most humans do. :) I didn't read the story because I know it would tear me up. If you have ever watched documentaries on Coco the Gorilla, you would know just how deeply their emotions run.