With all due respect, I think this is a common misconception of LDS. I know a LOT of former Mormons, and don't know of any who became inactive because of being offended, although I'm sure there are some. Everyone I know is inactive because they stopped believing in the truthfulness of the church, for whatever reason. I think that it's difficult for LDS to believe that so many people can stop going to church, or officially leave, for that reason... hence the excuse. All the ones that leave my ward leave because someone offended them. Maybe it is your area... They told my grandpa that my dad offended them. And I think it isn't a "neat little package".. it is WORSE.