Third Hour Forum Rules - Please be familiar with these rules before posting

NeedleinA

Members
 View Profile  See their activity

  • Posts

    3389

  • Joined

  • Last visited

  • Days Won

    50

 Content Type 

Posts posted by NeedleinA

  1. Adult Men: Close friends or Not?

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    I personally wonder why it is that I am content not to have close friends?

    a. growing up in the military moving all the time, friends come and go so frequently, just stopped trying?

    b. I'm lazy?

    c. I don't need that outside bond?

    d. Time is too valuable with my family?

    e. I already have 5 close friends (4 kids & wife), just don't need to juggle a 6th?

     

    Who knows. <_<

    Anyways, I'm teaching HP tomorrow and this is the topic I feel prompted to discuss, so thank you all for your insights thus far!

  3. Adult Men: Close friends or Not?

    in General Discussion

    Posted

    Attempted to unsuccessfully make a poll, so here is the next best thing. Looking for your insight on the following please:

     

    Q #1: As an adult male OR do the adult males you know have real close friends outside of their immediate family?

     

    1. No, immediate family is it.

    2. Yes, but only about one close friend outside of the immediate family.

    3. Yes, several close friends.

     

    Q #2: IF you or the male you know does NOT have close friends outside of the immediate family, how do you/they feel about it?

     

    1. Perfectly content with it, only need(s) the immediate family.

    2. Wonders if this common place for adult men.

    3. Wishes you/he had a close friend outside of the immediate family.

     

    I personally normally answer 1 & 1 to both questions but often wonder if this is common place too among other adult men. If so why do you think it is so??

     

    I saw a quote from Vort recently on another thread which triggered my thoughts. For years I have thought that I was some kind of male anomaly, it appears I am not alone. His comment:

     

    "As an adult man, I have no truly close friends outside my wife and immediate family. One of my close friends is a man I Skype with who lives in Italy and whom I have never met before in the flesh. I consider myself "close" friends with a few men who are or have been members of my ward; but "close" in in quotes because they are not close the way my close friends were when I was twelve. I do occasionally talk about personal and even sensitive things with them, because I trust them. But we are not "best buddies" like I had in my childhood."

     

     

    Thank you in advance for your thoughts!

  8. Dad left church, now I'm completely thrown off and anxious

    in Advice Board

    Posted · Edited by NeedleinA

    Start with Christ and then build on that foundation.  First Christ, then the Book of Mormon and so forth.  

     

    There is a peace in Christ that can be yours if you seek it, I promise. 

     

    LiterateParakeet has shared some wonderful insight that I hope you will take to heart. There are many of us that once walked in your shoes but no longer do, SO there is hope and peace out there. 

     

    I think at the moment you are juggling 1000 items at once. I would best describe it as being in the middle of the hurricane. Pieces of debris flying all around you at 100 miles per hour and you feel trapped in the middle. It is easy to get focused on the pieces of debris everywhere (your father, your own inactivity, your individual doubts, etc.). I would suggest like LP suggested focus on Christ. Stop trying to take ALL of your concerns at once. Stop looking sideways in the hurricane, but rather look up to calm and peace of the eye of the hurricane above you. Let the debris of doubt be in your peripheral vision only for a while and FOCUS on Christ. LP said and I will second it, "There is peace in Christ".

  11. How Am I Different?

    in General Discussion

    Posted · Edited by NeedleinA

    #1: I love my wife with a tenderness and a depth that I can never express to her in words.  

     

    Hats off to you for this! I gave a talk to the Stake Activity Day girls not too long ago about the blessing of being married. While I did mention the children aspect of it all, I focused a lot on the push/pull relationship of a wife and husband carrying each other to the eternal finish line. Not one carrying the other all the time, but both working together to the end. 

     

    I find wonderful wisdom in the great eternal plan to require there be a sealed husband and wife to reach all that the father hath. 

     

    “Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.” -  Aristotle

     

    This single soul has a far greater potential to be strong enough to fight off life's storms and to make it to the end, and I am sure our Father planned this.  

  14. Stop coming to Utah?

    in LDS Gospel Discussion

    Posted

    Simple question that I am having a hard time hunting down right now. Part of our discussion in HP Group on Sunday brought up the idea of building Zion where you live and not all flocking to Utah. I am having a hard time finding the statement that basically let the Saints know that they no longer needed to come to Utah, but rather should stay in their own countries and help build Zion there. I remember reading it years ago, but Google and I aren't friends right now apparently.  :)

     

    Ring a bell to anyone? Looking for the statement and time frame. 

    Thank you in advance!

  17. Last Days

    in LDS Gospel Discussion

    Posted · Edited by NeedleinA

    As of right now the church does not have a presence in 33 countries. 

     

    This has always been a tricky one for me personally. I'm not sure by what measurement "church presence" is gauged by? Formal missionaries with name tags or military service men and women sharing the gospel in countries they serve? Are we officially already in China with the Hong Kong temple? Does a LDS ambassador or oil field worker serving in a country count if they share the gospel while there. Does a general authority participating in a discussion forum at the Vatican count as missionary work for that country?

     

    In early church history, it was easy to say that there was "no church presence" physically in most  countries, however, I would safely suggest that every single country now have LDS members living in them and sharing the gospel one way or another. Have they alone established a "church presence"?

  20. Last Days

    in LDS Gospel Discussion

    Posted · Edited by NeedleinA

    My grandfather (very active, Stake President, etc) was confident he would be alive for it. He passed away 6-7 years ago. Oops. I think it is a subject that generates anxiety for a lot of folks and there have been people for generations thinking they could be around for it. 

     

    Using evil in the world or frequency of natural disasters as a measure of the impending end makes me giggle.

     

    Like others have said. Either way if it comes in my lifetime or not, doesn't really matter to me. I'll never be as prepared as I think I should be, so I'm not going to beat myself up over it.