Lost Boy

I have. But certainly not on this topic.

OK. I don't find it highly subjective at all. Certainly there are numerous theories about things that we are just discovering. But many things have a long history of high repeatability. Basically everything you use throughout the day... cars, lights, electricity, computer, A/C, etc all come from scientific discovery. Discovery that was a process. Discovery that wasn't fully understood at the time. Nevertheless they scientists pursued the understanding. I am sure some were somewhat wrong at first and had to re-evaluate. So what? These are not "philosophies of men" They are theories which have required validation. Some are highly validated, some are not. Some need further understanding. I don't see anything wrong with that.

Don't we all use our real names?? That would be a bit crazy to use your real name and share something like that.

Establishing answers to the unknown is amusing? OK. I don't find it funny. I do find it intellectually stimulating. I find scientific research and study of the divine go hand in hand. The glory of God is intelligence, or, in other words, light and truth. Scientific research is looking for light and truth as well. I fully believe God expects us to search and discover how the Universe works. To me it is divine. So what happens when science and the scriptures don't agree? You pray for additional understanding. And sometimes it comes right away and sometimes it takes a long time. I have not got the understanding about the flood. Science and the scriptures don't meet. What is the truth about the flood? I don't know, but I certainly haven't had confirmation that the bible account is true, but I haven't had confirmation that some kind of flood didn't occur either. And maybe it isn't important to my salvation to know the answer.

I did my internship with them in Japan at their head office. I was helping them with some automation software for their sales team to predict how much equipment a customer would need for warehouse automation. Pretty interesting experience.

Don't feel sorry for me. I neglected her, she neglected me, the results were an ugly situation. But a situation that can be turned around. Honestly I don't really care if she ever apologizes. I am happy and she is happy. Life today if far better than it was 2 years ago. I have completely recommitted to her. I have learned a lot about relationships that I would have never learned had this not happened. We all have challenges in life.. many we create ourselves, but it is how we deal with the challenges that make us who we are.. I feel I am a much better person today than I was 2 years ago. Is it the kick in the pants that you should feel sorry for, or the fact that you needed to be kicked in the pants??

The OP did share more information with me in a private post which he adds more detail. Not enough detail to know the extent of it, but enough to know that it would suck to read the conversations she had with the Bishop. If he wants to go into detail, that is up to him, but I won't repeat. But I will disagree on the relief society president thing. and maybe my choice of words was not adequate. I am talking about messages such as "When will I get to see you again?" or sending hug emojis or other things showing affection. I have never seen that type of relationship between a bishop and a RS president.

I did an internship at an industrial automation company called Daifuku. That was over 25 years ago. I am still in engineering, but mostly do automotive product design. I agree with your take on intelligence. The more I know, the more I know I know that I really don't know that much. We find it so easy to just pass judgement by viewing something from one angle. This is why I no longer associate with a political party. I hate having others have a single point of view... a point of view that is often incomplete.

My wife to this day has never apologized for the emotional affair she had. I doubt that she ever will. She would have been fine divorcing at the time. She knew me and figured I wouldn't change. And if I didn't change, why should she... The only way forward is to base your actions not on what she did or does, but on what you need to do to accomplish your goals. If your goal is to forgive her and mend the relationship, you can't just wait for her to do something. Your love for her needs to be unconditional and that means the forgiveness must also be unconditional. In our world of where we want everything to be fair.... love is not fair. Fair implies something is balanced... but how can you balance unconditional love? You can't. Moving forward is still emotionally painful, but you have to consider the end goal.... is it worth it? When you are in love, would your run through a raging fire to save your spouse? Of course you would. Well this is a raging fire, except you don't see the flames, but they are just as painful. Do you have the love to go through the pain? In my mind, that was the only option for me. Sometimes life sucks... take a step or two back and figure out from an objective standpoint what to do. Let the man upstairs guide you.

An emotional affair does not necessarily mean that she desires him (at least consciously). What it does mean is that she was investing emotional effort into a man that was not her husband. And yes, we all put some emotional effort into those of the opposite sex that are not our spouses, but when it becomes a repeat thing, then that is where the issue lies. My wife was being nicer to her messaging BF than she was to me. Sent him cutesy messages and what not, where she never did that for me, nor does that for me. She had fun with him. Whereas she wasn't having fun with me. In her mind she had no intentions of having a physical relationship with the guy other than an occasional hug at work. Reading what she wrote, even though there was nothing sexual about it, hurt to the core. Knowing she had feelings for another man. You don't want to experience this ever. I was near non-functional for at least 2 months.

Would it be more appropriate to say learning truth is the evidence of intelligence? I know plenty that learn wrong things.... lots of wrong things and it is difficult to call them intelligent.

I have found that when things don't matter I often get conflicting feelings. I won't call them promptings because they aren't. They are feelings. When things really matter, they are promptings. I don't get a lot of promptings. maybe I don't listen for them often enough. Generally when it is not a prompting for me, I get a ton of back and forth. Consider this. why would you be prompted to let you know your mother is dead when there was nothing you could have done about it? I don't know if the spirit usually gives us information about someones death unless he wants us to act on something. And even then, I would imagine that you would get the prompting to do something, not a date. Perhaps you pray and ask if your mother is dead.. What would the purpose be in the spirit answering that question? I find myself asking if I am being prompted or not. More often it is just me mulling things out in me noggin.

How do you like the new format of discussions in priesthood /relief society? My experience has been pretty positive. Today I had to lead. I ended up preparing 5-6 questions. And that took 40 minutes of time with the members bearing testimony of past experiences and what not. I do kind of feel a little weird just standing up there not talking, but I don't mind that much.

My brother-in-law's sister is a gorgeous woman, smart and successful. She didn't get married till she was in her early thirties. I figure she was a bit intimidating for most guys. She finally met mr. right and they are are happily married. And honestly, I would completely ignore those two "prophecies." I tend to think they weren't prophecies. Focus on enjoying life. Have fun. Have fun dates.. Keep up the good attitude, smile... you'll find a good man.

Yeah. men and women both have difficulty changing. It takes a concerted effort to do so. And often it takes the help of loved ones as well. There are many good fish in the sea. In time you will go fishing again and catch a better fish.... Or he'll catch you...

Gotta wonder if this poster is going through with the wedding or not. Seems to me like a foolhardy thing to do, but it is their lives, not mine. But one post and done and I don't think we will see this person again.

To me it is simple. You pay tithing on your money. She pays tithing on her money. Your gross income is not your money. A portion of it is yours. A portion of it is your soon to be ex's.

I had heard that you had been wearing a speedo to church. Yes, that would have a negative impact on those around you... But really, I think most people have had a negative impact on others at some point in time. If you know what you are doing, then you can certainly fix what you are doing. Some past actions you just can't undo. And that is where the atonement comes in. You do what you can but ultimately rely on the lord for forgiveness. Life moves on. Move forward with a positive attitude that you can and will do better.

I don't see Mormons as any more narcissistic than anyone else. In fact I see a lot of people who want to help others. Are there narcissistic people in the church? Certainly and you will see more, if that is what you are looking for.

I was going to rent my house out, but the market is smoking hot right now in my area and I can ask top dollar for the house. So that is what I am going to do. Sell. Been there for 21 years and I have the stuff to show for it. I will be spending the next 4 weeks packing and tossing stuff out. Along with painting and fixing things around the house that need fixing. Make a plan and work the plan.... right...

I might just do that. May be awhile.. In the process of moving to a new home and doing the prep work for that has me crazy busy.

Do you feel love? Or do you just love? Is it an action? You can feel God's love, but do you feel love for God... Or do you just love God? To me, it isn't a feeling. However, when I love someone, I have many different feelings, happiness, hope, excitement, etc. What are your thoughts?

Someone wanting to play Zork???

This is what I would be more inclined to do. Invest it in a diversified bunch of funds. Mortgage rates are around 4% here. I have over the past 10 years averaged 18% on market investments. Even if I only do 10%, that is a whole lot better than 4%. I hear a lot of horror stories of people investing in one or two companies and then losing it all. That seems like a crazy way of doing things. Get a good portfolio and keep it diverse. There is still the chance that all could go south.... lose the job, the market drops, housing market goes to crap, etc. But I would think it is worth the risk. But the real question is.... would you sit on the money expecting the market to go south? And of course once it goes South, you put it all in the market... Or do you just put it in right now?

Say $200k landed in your lap tax free and tithing has already been paid on it... Also, you have a $200k mortgage, however, you also have a decent job that you can afford the mortgage payments. You are also 20 years from retirement. What would you do with that money?