I don't have much to add with regards to my amazing ability to cultivate charity (catch the sarcasm?), but I do recall a quote I read in Visiting Teaching message from June of 06. It was given by Marvin J. Ashton. The whole article is awesome but this is my favorite part: "Perhaps the greatest charity comes when we are kind to each other, when we don’t judge or categorize someone else, when we simply give each other the benefit of the doubt or remain quiet. Charity is accepting someone’s differences, weaknesses, and shortcomings; having patience with someone who has let us down; or resisting the impulse to become offended. … Charity is refusing to take advantage of another’s weakness and being willing to forgive someone who has hurt us. Charity is expecting the best of each other” (“The Tongue Can Be a Sharp Sword,” Ensign, May 1992, 18–19) I had a bishop in Las Vegas that was the most amazing example of this. My father in law (who happened to live in our ward at the time) tends to be an attention hog and has problems with lying and exaggerating to no end. Watching our bishop around him was amazing. EVERYTHING that he ever said to my father in law was with love. It's not like he was blinded by the lies he told, but he just knew better and still showed him love anyway. I struggle with these same things too Trish - from listening to a testimony meeting and wanting to roll my eyes to not cutting people enough slack. I need be better at assuming that everyone is doing the best they can under their own circumstances - about which I may or may not have any clue. So if nothing else, just know that you're not alone and that as long as you're trying, you're not failing. And I totally agree with Wanderer about laughter. Some of the best friends I've made have been found through moments when we could laugh together. It's hard to stay depressed around someone who seems like they're not. They bring you up to their level. Goodness knows that you have a gift for making people laugh Trish. You're awesome! Here's the link to Elder Ashton's talk: http://www.lds.org/ldsorg/v/index.jsp?vgnextoid=2354fccf2b7db010VgnVCM1000004d82620aRCRD&locale=0&sourceId=5ad094bf3938b010VgnVCM1000004d82620a____&hideNav=1