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My Name Is Jethco... Online.
Jethco posted a topic in Introduce YourselfHello! My name pretty much everywhere on the internet is Jethco. I don't know why I hadn't found this forum earlier but better late than never, eh? I found it due to an older thread from 2009 that was full of chit-chat and speculation about what curemoms and cumoms could possibly be identified as today. We read Ether 9 tonight in family scripture study and I was interested to see what the world had come up with for curremoms and cumoms. My interests include furthering my doctrinal knowledge through healthy conversation with other people. In the real world I'm studying to be a commercial pilot, I served a full-time mission in the Guatemala Guatemala City Central mission; the best mission in the world , I married a beautiful Colombian woman in 2013 who is now 11 weeks pregnant with our first baby, and life is getting pretty interesting all of a sudden. Lol. I'm pretty much an open book. Like most people, I like to share my opinion with people and tell my story. I also love to hear about other people and compare how life's experiences can sculpt each one of us differently. On that note I'm a little bit of an anthropologist at heart and a super-novice linguist having learned Spanish on my mission. I would love to learn more languages. I find the differences and similarities fascinating! I'm currently living in Bakersfield, CA but being raised an Air Force brat I've seen my fair share of moving trucks and we haven't planted firm roots quite yet.
Muttley56 posted a topic in Introduce YourselfHi! I am a 58 year old man looking to make friends on this Website. I'm warm, thoughtful and humorous and I am not ever going to change. I have a lot of fun lovingness to offer and I love all people. Sincerely Yours, Dave Olsen
Need Advice About Sinning Friend
abm7 posted a topic in Advice BoardLet me first start off by saying that I've prayed a lot about this. Unfortunately, I haven't received a clear answer, which is why I'm here asking for advice. This is a long one, so please bare with me. I'll try not to leave anything pertinent out. My name is Alison--feel free to use any variation of it that you'd like (Alison, Alis, Alice, Ali, etc), or just call me by my user name. I'm not picky about what name you use. My best friend (I'll call her Suzie here--I don't want this to be too identifiable) and I have been close since middle school, when I moved to the US from the UK. We went to the same ward, had the same classes in school, her family thinks of me as an "adopted" daughter, and my family thinks of Suzie the same way. When we were 17, Suzie set me up on a date with "Adam", now my husband. As you can tell, we're extremely close. We even got married just a couple of weeks apart. I was sealed to my husband, followed by a small ceremony for my non-member friends and extended family. Suzie was married civilly in a last-minute wedding planned in just a few days. Her now-husband "James" was kicked out of his parent's house several months before their original wedding date and Suzie decided he should move into her apartment, where she lived alone. She tried keeping it a secret from everyone, but her parents found out and they ended up planning a quick civil wedding so that Suzie "would stop acting like a wh***" (censored quote from Suzie's mom). Now here is where I need the advice: Living with James before being married wasn't the worst thing she's done. To say this nicely, she went "all the way" (and then some) with him long before moving in together, and she seriously violated the Law of Chastity with 4 prior boyfriends, and she had multiple miscarriages and pregnancy scares with 2 of the boyfriends. Some of the pregnancy scares happened because she was drunk and didn't remember how far she'd gone. Her husband doesn't know about all of that. Neither does her bishop. A few of our non-LDS mutual friends know about the miscarriages, but I'm the one who was told the details. I've always felt uncomfortable hearing about and knowing all of this, but I always pushed it to the back of my mind and tried to love her and help her the best I could. She's due to be sealed to her husband in a few weeks, on the anniversary of her civil wedding. She's told me that she doesn't tell any of this to her bishop, that she lies and says the right answers. She told me this while we were having lunch recently, and she had just ordered an alcoholic drink she likes (I think it was called a "Strawberry Lemon Drop"...but I suppose that's irrelevant). When she told me that, I felt seriously nauseous. She's been cleared to receive her endowments and get sealed, and she's keeping almost everything a secret. Ever since she told me that, I haven't been spending as much time with her, because this is all I can think about. I want her to have all the blessings that going to the temple brings and has brought to me and my husband, but she doesn't want to own up to her past mistakes, or her current ones. She (thankfully) has cut back to one drink occasionally instead of drinking until she passes out, but it's still a problem. I don't know what to do about this. I don't know if it's my place to "tattle" on her to her bishop, but can I--should I stand by and say nothing? I've never told my bishop about any of this before, because I didn't want Suzie to find out that I spilled all her secrets (although our mutual friends might know more than I thought--I doubt they'd seek out her bishop about it), but sometimes telling the truth is worth risking a friendship--right? Or wrong? Please, I'm really struggling with this. If there's anything anyone can say to help me figure out what to do, please say it.
My friend told me he's petting, help!
thrawn_84109 posted a topic in Advice BoardSo my best friend told me a couple of days ago that him and his girlfriend are regularly petting in his car. I would have never imagined that he would go this far! He says they're in love. He hasn't been to church for a few years but he always essentially lived a mormon lifestyle. What can I do to help him? Him and I are super close, we know everything about each other and do just about everything together, or at least that was true until all of this started happening. Now I feel like I don't know him anymore. I've heard him say things in support of chastity before, but now he says there's no doubt in his mind that this stuff he's been doing is the best thing that's ever happened to him. He won't talk about his beliefs about sex, and I don't think he knows what he thinks. He just likes this girl and is excited about what he's doing. I'm not married and can't relate with his experiences in this way. It was just last year that we were talking about our expectations for our first kisses. I feel alienated because of this. He's 21 and living on his own, and so I don't think it would make sense to tell his parents and betray his trust, and telling the bishop wouldn't help since he doesn't go to church (or should I anyway?). It's nice to at least get this off my chest. Any advice or similar stories would be much appreciated. The world outside of religion just wouldn't see this as a problem and hasn't been very helpful.
Seeking for the friend.
urrus posted a topic in General DiscussionHi folks, I'm from Russian Novosibirsk. My neighbors were two missioners Jason and Majorov. It was at may-June of this year. I lost contact with them. Jason from California USA, Majorov from St-Petersburg Russia. Don't you know them? Help me to repair the contact with them. WBR P.S. I add incorrect name for this theme. It's better to say Searching for THE friend. Anyway I hope this will not be a problem :)
I feel rejected...
trulykiwi posted a topic in Advice BoardI just wanted to post here because I'm feeling pretty down right now. I have (what I thought was) a very good friend and whilst we catch up every now and then, we mostly keep in touch via Facebook. Well today he had something in his status about 'the dark side' etc and how he was heading there... so I said "but light is knowledge, my friend"... I think it was pretty light hearted, I wasn't getting all religious and heavy on him... I'm not into pushing my faith onto anyone else. But then he replied back implying that the light side is for goody goody boring people and he'd "rather be on the dark side as there's people he wants to meet there and what is the point of knowledge when you're dead anyway". So I kinda took offence to that and told him so - and consequently he deleted me!! I'm just shocked - mainly at his lack of respect for my thoughts and feelings. I believe everyone is entitled to their own opinion ... and shouldn't be judged for it. But, gosh i just feel totally belittled and made fun of and considered "boring" and "a goody goody" because of what I am!! I'm sorry to go on... I just feel really sad right now. I try not to judge people and I don't like to be judged - I get enough of that from my family (who are anti-mormon!), but my husband and I are doing really well in the church now... I'm finally where I want to be... and striving hard to be better.... but I'm happy, we are happy. It's just hard now that it seems I have lost a friendship because of my faith. I wish I could show people like that what the truth is. I wish they could just understand a little of the truth. I wish I could show them that there is life after death.... that by doing good and striving to be like Jesus Christ will make you a whole lot happier and be much more fulfilling than striving for worldly things......