Jessie973 Posted November 12, 2008 Report Posted November 12, 2008 Hi !! I am a 29 year old single ( divorced ) female. I have a 7 year old son, and he is the light of my life. I reside in Sunset, Utah and live by myself. I found this website, and thought I would see what it has to offer. I am LDS and grew up in a very active LDS family. Since my divorce, almost 5 years ago, I have fallen from the straight and narrow and am looking to find my way back. I had a hard time with the word of wisdom, and spent many a night in the bars. I really thought that was the life I wanted and that I didnt want any restrictions. I just wanted to have fun. I have learned the hard way, that is not the kind of fun I want in my life. I have found it hard to be an active member of the church, and feel like a single outsider. If I go to church I go to the family ward, because of my son. I feel like I am looked down upon and in turn I just give up. I know everyone says you don't go to church for the people, but it makes it extremley uncomfortable for me. I want my son and I to have the gospel in our lives, and would love to see him get baptized next year. I just feel like there are missing pieces to this puzzle. I am hoping to find the support I need so badly, here. If anyone is interested in talking please don't be shy. I have a strong testimony and love the gospel, I would love to talk to people I can relate to. Have a great day !!!! Quote
Gwen Posted November 12, 2008 Report Posted November 12, 2008 i have a few pieces in my box that just don't seem to fit in my puzzle.... maybe they are yours? welcome to the site. :) Quote
john doe Posted November 12, 2008 Report Posted November 12, 2008 Welcome, I hope you find what you are looking for here. Quote
Hemidakota Posted November 12, 2008 Report Posted November 12, 2008 Yes! There are members in wards that can make you feel uncomfortable but again, who church is it? We move to new ward and my two daughters went to Young Women only to find a YW President more concern over her 100-percent participation with a young women program. This made my two daughters very uncomfortable to the point they would not go again. I had to explained to them, people are called to position for either to inspired others or learn a principle. Unfortunately, I felt for my girls since it has nothing to do with preparing my girls for the Celestial Kingdom but rather the leader need to spend time in learning in making this welcoming process genuine. This is a problem for some ward leadership in missing that mark. Again, I go to church for one purpose - building the kingdom and learning more about my Savior and not for man. Your are in great company and welcome to forum my dear sister. Quote
candyprpl Posted November 12, 2008 Report Posted November 12, 2008 Welcome. It saddens me to hear such stories. My stepson (adult) was baptized over a year ago and when he got his divorce he didn't feel welcomed in his ward either. He's disabled and can't drive and no one will pick him up for church -- even when arranged, they don't show up. He has since stopped going -- and become quite discouraged. There may well be more to the story but I know that when he came to visit his dad and I and went to our ward, he said that he felt more welcomed than he did in his own ward. I've heard others share similar cases. No, it's true, we don't go to church for other people, but....... Hang in there -- maybe talk to your Bishop or the RS President about this concern and see what counsel they may have for you. I know that's hard to do -- but you are one of Heavenly Father's daughters and He would want you to ask for guidance -- He loves you and I bet your Bishop loves you too! I don't know if this helps, but know that I care. Quote
Truegrits Posted November 12, 2008 Report Posted November 12, 2008 Hi Jessie, welcome to the site. :)I, also, was inactive with a young son when I decided I needed/wanted the Gospel back in my life. It was just me and my son going, as my husband is not LDS. We knew no one, and it was a large Ward. Some realized we were "strangers", and welcomed us. Many didn't even notice.I am, however, a "smiler" :)! There are very few people who will not automatically respond to another's smile. And that often leads to a "hello". And go from there. Don't let others determine your choices. Don't give up. Sometimes the rocky road is there to make us stronger. There are lots of friendly people here to talk to; to give you support and encouragement. Quote
RainofGold Posted November 13, 2008 Report Posted November 13, 2008 Hello Jessie,My husband is not lds, and when I went to a new ward with my two young children it was very difficult. Unlike Truegrits I'm a very shy person, so for me it was very challenging to go to church with out my family.The reason I kept going, other then my testimony of the gospel were my children. I felt a huge responsibility and I knew that my children were counting on me. I stayed in that ward for 7 years, and I made really good friends there.About 6 years ago we moved again and I had to start all over. I guess that it makes it very hard for us to go to a new ward without our husbands or any other adult family members. It wasn't easy, many times I felt like just giving up and staying home on Sundays and not go to church. I am happy to say that I now have a 17 year old daughter who is Laurel President and who is a great example to me and my husband. I also have a 14 year old son who holds the priesthood and I feel very blessed because of this. So at times when I look back and remember all those lonely days at church and the sadness that I felt for not feeling that I fit in,I thank my Heavenly Father for guiding me, and for having the holy ghost as a constant companion. Rain Quote
Palerider Posted November 13, 2008 Report Posted November 13, 2008 welcome to the site.....and I hope you do get back into the church....good luck to you.....:) Quote
Maya Posted November 14, 2008 Report Posted November 14, 2008 Hi Jessie Welcome! I been there, I done that! If you feel like talking pm me anytime! I KNOW ALL about those feelings! A piece of an advice. Have the missionaries for dinner as often as possible! (I love that expression) We had a LOT of missionaries for dinner and also family evenings, makes you feel more like IN the family. BTW I found the love of my life at 39! So you still have time dont give up! Life IS wonderfull ... what am I saying... Quote
Guest tomk Posted November 14, 2008 Report Posted November 14, 2008 Welcome. I hope things work-out for you. I can say that keeping close to your Savior is the only lasting protection you can find. Quote
candyprpl Posted November 14, 2008 Report Posted November 14, 2008 Hi Jessie Welcome! I been there, I done that! If you feel like talking pm me anytime! I KNOW ALL about those feelings! A piece of an advice. Have the missionaries for dinner as often as possible! (I love that expression) We had a LOT of missionaries for dinner and also family evenings, makes you feel more like IN the family. BTW I found the love of my life at 39! So you still have time dont give up! Life IS wonderfull ... what am I saying...Hey, I found my eternal companion when I was 50! Oh dear, that sounds kind of discouraging. Life had been tough for me and when I was baptized and turning my life around I was blessed to find a man who would be my eternal companion. (hope that sounds better). Quote
RobertP Posted November 18, 2008 Report Posted November 18, 2008 Your subject line caught my eye. Someone I know said that to me recently. Welcome to the forum. Quote
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