Gretchen Posted February 28, 2009 Report Posted February 28, 2009 Ok, yesterday, I found out that my brother touched a girl's leg very close to her private area in gym because "there was nothing else to do" (his words, not mine). Dad was told that my brother needs OCD meds, and if it happens again, he's going to be suspended. I should also add that he's autistic, and he's had several behavioral problems in the past. Also, he's 13 years old. He should know better. It's almost to the point where I want to send him to an institution. Any and all advice on what to do with him greatly appreciated. Quote
RachelleDrew Posted February 28, 2009 Report Posted February 28, 2009 I'm not sure how old you are, but this is not your cross to bear. This is something that is up to your parents to handle, not you. The only thing you can do is be kind to your brother, and show him that he can trust you. That way if he has anything he ever needs anything to confess or ask of you, then he knows he can be confident in your love for him. If he ever displays any concerning behavior in front of you, or discusses something with you that makes you worry then go to your parents immediately. Again, this is not something that you as his sister should be dealing with. Seeing as this is such a delicate subject regarding sexual harassment (which is exactly what it is) then your father and mother need to make decisions regarding your brother's situation, not you. *EDIT* On another note, if he ever touches YOU like that then you need to go to a parent, teacher, police or your bishop PRONTO. Just sayin'. Quote
Dr T Posted February 28, 2009 Report Posted February 28, 2009 OCD meds? Who said that? Has he been to see a child/adol. psychiatrist, is he getting behavioral interventions? Quote
Book_of_Mormon_Warrior Posted February 28, 2009 Report Posted February 28, 2009 Ok, yesterday, I found out that my brother touched a girl's leg very close to her private area in gym because "there was nothing else to do" (his words, not mine). Dad was told that my brother needs OCD meds, and if it happens again, he's going to be suspended. I should also add that he's autistic, and he's had several behavioral problems in the past. Also, he's 13 years old. He should know better. It's almost to the point where I want to send him to an institution. Any and all advice on what to do with him greatly appreciated.Contact LDS Social Services and get him with a psychologist. Quote
jolee65 Posted February 28, 2009 Report Posted February 28, 2009 I have to agree with RD its up to the parents to worry about the brother, but keeping your eye on him is a helpful thing to do. Quote
AELK Posted March 1, 2009 Report Posted March 1, 2009 Is your brother on an IEP? Keep in mind his world is much different from ours. The way the world is... the way he thinks... and acts are governed by a different set of rules. When asked why he does things, he just gives whatever answer comes to mind.. which explains what he said. Because he can't give the real answer which is "My brain is different from yours, and therefore the stimulus in my environment causes me to do things differently and respond differently to that stimulus. My motives are not the same as a typically developing person." I do have a lot of experience with PDD and autism both professionally and personally,as I have a son with a PDD-spectrum disorder. Please send me a message if you would like more insight. Quote
Islander Posted March 1, 2009 Report Posted March 1, 2009 Adolescent boys have ALL kinds of sexual anxiety that under normal circumstances is channeled appropriately. Also, most normal boys have a clear sense of physical boundaries and private vs social space. Autistic or cognitively challenged people have difficulties discerning such boundaries. It is after all part of the dysfunction. The professionals treating him should know what to do. Beyond that, it seems this is something that falls within the purview of your parents. Your brother has a mental disability and although you do not have to excuse his behavior, you should let your parents deal with it. Quote
Guest missingsomething Posted March 1, 2009 Report Posted March 1, 2009 Is your brother on an IEP? Keep in mind his world is much different from ours. The way the world is... the way he thinks... and acts are governed by a different set of rules. When asked why he does things, he just gives whatever answer comes to mind.. which explains what he said. Because he can't give the real answer which is "My brain is different from yours, and therefore the stimulus in my environment causes me to do things differently and respond differently to that stimulus. My motives are not the same as a typically developing person." I do have a lot of experience with PDD and autism both professionally and personally,as I have a son with a PDD-spectrum disorder. Please send me a message if you would like more insight.It is very wise and true that autistic children often do inappropriate behavior. It needs to be corrected, but as long as your parents are getting him professional help as well as help themselves for dealing with him - then it is really out of your hands. While I understand that if you are in school still -the kids may not recognize this and it maybe very hard on you, it really is their place to raise him. You may want to ask for a blessing of strength for yourself. Quote
Gretchen Posted March 1, 2009 Author Report Posted March 1, 2009 My brother is on an IEP. This is not the first sex related problem he's had. He also obsesses on fireing his bus driver, and half the staff at his school. Quote
Dr T Posted March 1, 2009 Report Posted March 1, 2009 It sounds like he and the school staff have an adversarial relationship. What state are u in? Quote
Gretchen Posted March 2, 2009 Author Report Posted March 2, 2009 Dr T, seeing as my brother and I are underage, I don't think I should tell anyone that. Sorry. wish I could tell you more. Quote
Gretchen Posted March 2, 2009 Author Report Posted March 2, 2009 He did it again, dad's trying to get him in a mental hospital. Quote
RachelleDrew Posted March 3, 2009 Report Posted March 3, 2009 Dr T, seeing as my brother and I are underage, I don't think I should tell anyone that. Sorry. wish I could tell you more. This is smart. Quote
ruthiechan Posted March 3, 2009 Report Posted March 3, 2009 He did it again, dad's trying to get him in a mental hospital.Just know that if he's not getting continuous care afterwards he'll very likely regress after he gets out of the mental hospital. This is something you could encourage your parents to do for your brother. Quote
applepansy Posted March 3, 2009 Report Posted March 3, 2009 Someone suffering from autism needs behavioral intervention. I hope whatever institution your parents are looking at will have a program for autistic teens. Your family is in my prayers. I have an adolescent, autistic nephew. applepansy Quote
Gretchen Posted March 22, 2009 Author Report Posted March 22, 2009 Just a quick update, my brother's apparently been dared to do the bad stuff. How do we tell him that it's not appropriate? Quote
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