FriendofBrotherBear Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 I come bearing the saddest of news and with a heavy heart, my name is Mike and Sarah and I were good friends. I'm not LDS but she and I were still able to maintain a good friendship and I consider her one of my best friends and companions. Sadly, she has passed on. She and I spoke often, especially during her stay at the hospital this last week, and I tried to visit her as often as possible. She let me know about this site and how comforting it was to be surrounded by friends. She spoke very highly of this place and people like Pam and Hordak. I'm sure I'm forgetting some names so please forgive me. While the details at this point are very sketchy best I understand is that they had identified some tumor growth in her abdomen as a result of the PET scan, it was not strictly isolated to her brain like before. The performed surgery because the tumor was in an operable location. As a result she developed MRSA and a blood infection. The chemotherapy she was going through put an additional strain on her system. I may be leaving out some details, my life is hectic now and filled with sadness. I feel that I've lost a good friend and hope God takes care of her. I hope to get to see her again when I pass. Services will be held this Wednesday and any kind words or wishes will be passed on to the family. I will be personally attending the service as a pal bearer and speaker. Before she passed, the day before, she asked should anything happen to her to please let you know. Sincerely, Mike Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
john doe Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 Sorry to hear that. Do you have a link to her obituary so we can send condolences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hordak Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 (edited) Even having been through these things myself i don't have the words. Just know that here at LDS.net our hearts, thoughts and prayers go out to the friends and family,To those whom BrotherBear left behind with the sincere hope that they will find the comfort they need at this time. Edited February 8, 2010 by hordak Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maureen Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 This is so shocking and sad. My condolences go out to BrotherBear's family and friends. Thank you Friend of Sarah for letting us know. M. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WillowTheWhisp Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 My heart goes out to Sarah's family and friends at this sad time. I pray they will be comforted in the knowledge and assurance of where she has gone and that they, and you, will see her again one day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FunkyTown Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 JohnDoe is right. We're very sorry that this happened and would love to get a link to the obituary to send condolences. Or you could simply tell us the town and we'd go to their newspaper/obit sections so we can provide help in this time of need. I'm very sorry to hear this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MorningStar Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 Yes, if anyone here lives in the area, I'm sure they would love to help or attend the memorial service. What a very sad post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wisc Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 (edited) I hate to be the one to go against the grain.... esp on something as sensitive as this. However, I will refrain from offering up a broken heart until we are given a link or an Obituary or at least more detail on her memorial services. I find it strange that "Mike" is able to provide so much detail into the contributing factors of her death (which indicates he is someone who was close to her) but when it comes to the memoral services all the information he provides is "this Wednesday" No time of day...no location....and no condolences regarding her children. Perhaps Im just in denail, because I do feel a great sadness if this is truth, but Im going to cry foul until there is some follow up information. I do NOT believe BrotherBear is involved if this is some kind of deciet. I do however take into account that being in the Hospital prevents her from comming to this fourm, which might leave the oportunity for some sick prankster to pose as a friend of hers "Mike" and try to mess with everyone's emotions. Again, just saying, if I were comming to bear this bad news on behalf of someone else to friends; I would be mindful to announce Time, Location, and at a minimum the name of the Funeral Director handleing the services. And I hope very much that I am right in my suspicion! Edited February 8, 2010 by Wisc Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wingnut Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 I hate to be the one to go against the grain.... esp on something as sensitive as this. However, I will refrain from offering up a broken heart until we are given a link or an Obituary or at least more detail on her memorial services. I find it strange that "Mike" is able to provide so much detail into the contributing factors of her death (which indicates he is someone who was close to her) but when it comes to the memoral services all the information he provides is "this Wednesday" No time of day...no location....and no condolences regarding her children. Perhaps Im just in denail, because I do feel a great sadness if this is truth, but Im going to cry foul until there is some follow up information. I do NOT believe BrotherBear is involved if this is some kind of deciet. I do however take into account that being in the Hospital prevents her from comming to this fourm, which might leave the oportunity for some sick prankster to pose as a friend of hers "Mike" and try to mess with everyone's emotions. There have been other posters in this forum in the past who have come and told tragic tales of cancer or betrayal or what not, in an effort to garner sympathy when it was all a complete lie. Being that BB was here for such a short amount of time, and only recently even brought up cancer, I'm inclined to be wary myself. I am suspicious of the idea that, in the hospital on her deathbed, the thing she chose to talk about was an Internet forum.However, "fishiness" is not the only reason for not including details. How about privacy? Respect? Family's wishes? Proximity? Need-to-know?Two and two may not always equal four, but you should consider being more respectful about such declarations, in case you are wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wisc Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 I agree with what you are saying Wingnut. Having said that I would like to just reitterate that there should be no privacy issues if it was BB's "dying wish" that the LDS.net posters know of her demise. What normal person would say "I want them to know I have died...but I do not want them to know where I will be burried" I hope not to provoke conentions... Im just holding out for hope. Easier to delay sadness than to recover from a falsely broken heart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriendofBrotherBear Posted February 8, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 I am a little appalled at some of these responses. First, Sarah was unmarried and did not have children though she considered her four cats her "kids". I will be keeping these until better arrangements can be made. Please, forgive my oversight and offense for not posting an obituary while I deal with the death of a good friend. Amazing. While she may have considered the members her friends, I'm new, and at this point have no desire to post an obituary out here for the hordes of Internet users to view. I will however be more than happy to pass on good wishes to the family. I'm really trying hard not to be angry at some of the responses her. I will ABSOLUTELY NOT prove the death of my dear friend so some of you will accept it as truth. I assume I'll also need to post pictures of her lying in the casket before you accept this. You may disable my account, I will not be back, having fulfilled the wishes of Sarah by letting you know. - Mike Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Palerider Posted February 8, 2010 Report Share Posted February 8, 2010 I will lock this for now....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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