husband addict

[momofseven]

I know it's so not new...but my DH is a porn addict. recently learned he has acted out..ugh, with *himself* but not other women, he says. my question is, what will the bishop do with him? He's been to a bishop before, but lied about the *helping himself* part. I'm half hoping they do nothing, and half hoping they run him over with a truck. Any thoughts? specifically, disfellowship? take away his recommend? etc?

[Jennarator]

HAte to say this, but the answers to what is going to happen vary so much, that his bishop is the only one that can say. Chances are good that he will most likely get his recommend taken at the least. But who knows. Perhaps more, perhaps less. Suppot him in hwatever happens. Good luck!

[AGStacker]

Wait, I am not trying to be crude but are you saying that he masturbated? If that is the case they definitely won't disfellowship him but quite possibly and most likely take his recommend away.

[momofseven]

I AM trying to say he masturbated, without having to SAY he masturbated. I think it comes from being distraught...or deranged...or in denial...hard to say. The whole thing is a mess. I want to be supportive...without be co-something (dependant, addict, etc). still trying to decide how to get through this, with the marriage intact, our testimonies intact, and my sanity intact. Suggestions?

[AGStacker]

Here is a start. Place No More for the Enemy of My Soul - general-conference

Click "Watch" at the right.

[Jennarator]

Yes, it can be easy to slip into being co-dependant. There are groups that can help with this. Also a bishop can be very helpful.

[pam]

At first I thought this was a thread about being addicted to husbands. :)

[Rimmer]

I was introduced to this when I was 10 years old. I have been until a few years ago when Pres GBH drilled it into me after many many talks at the Priesthood sessions of GC. I finally came clean and lost my recommend for a while and couldn't take Sacrament for awhile either. It was very difficult. Now a few years later, my marriage is over because of what I did and how I treated my wife and kids. Even now I am acting out stupidly and digging deeper. My addiction did not go away for over 20 years. I've spent several weeks in a mental hospital over the break up of my marriage, because I feel lower than low. I've let satan rule my life.

I have been still choosing bad things by being so needy of my wife and posting on facebook things about her affair. Now she's really mad. But she told me there is no chance, so what do I have to lose? This man is running for City Counsel after telling my wife he will divorce after the elections. She is determined on divorce. On my thread, I'm beginning to side with Juan_P.