Facebook Deletes Breast Photo

[Bini]

Facebook deletes an image that appears to be a breast. Story here.

Side thought. What do y'all think about Facebook forbidding women sharing images of themselves breastfeeding? Is Facebook in the right? Are women in the right because breastfeeding is not pornography?

Edited December 1, 2012 by skippy740
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[Dravin]

Facebook owns the web servers hosting the images, I say they get to pick what it is they choose to host. You can't even take the, "I'm a paying customer!" approach, because you aren't.

[Bini]

Facebook owns the web servers hosting the images, I say they get to pick what it is they choose to host. You can't even take the, "I'm a paying customer!" approach, because you aren't.

I agree with you.

[annewandering]

On the other hand did they delete the photo going around of body painting a breast with holly and berries? Apparently that was ok even though it was sexual not feeding a baby.

Facebook says their policy is that if it shows a nipple it goes. They say the nursing is not the reason for deleting photos. It is only that a portion of a nipple shows. In that case if the woman paints the nipple it must be ok.

[Bini]

On the other hand did they delete the photo going around of body painting a breast with holly and berries? Apparently that was ok even though it was sexual not feeding a baby.

Facebook says their policy is that if it shows a nipple it goes. They say the nursing is not the reason for deleting photos. It is only that a portion of a nipple shows. In that case if the woman paints the nipple it must be ok.

This sounds like a double whammy standard.

[annewandering]

This sounds like a double whammy standard.

Sounds like it to me too. It is their site but they ought to live up to their own stated standard.

[Wingnut]

That photo is hilarious. IF that was a breast, it looks like it would be incredibly uncomfortable.

[Guest]

I believe women should feed their babies whenever and wherever they're hungry. I also believe they should use one of the many cover-ups available for the purpose when they're in mixed company or public as a show of modesty and common courtesy. I know my opinion is very unpopular with lactivists, because I married into a family of rabid ones, but there it is. People have the right to be comfortable in public, and exposed nipples of someone who is not one's wife make most people uncomfortable (as they should).

[annewandering]

I believe women should feed their babies whenever and wherever they're hungry. I also believe they should use one of the many cover-ups available for the purpose when they're in mixed company or public as a show of modesty and common courtesy. I know my opinion is very unpopular with lactivists, because I married into a family of rabid ones, but there it is. People have the right to be comfortable in public, and exposed nipples of someone who is not one's wife make most people uncomfortable (as they should).

I mostly covered up but some of my babies would not allow it. Because of that I learned to expose the baby and not the breast. It was tricky but it isnt that hard. A little practice and anyone can do it. If the baby is too wiggly you can cup your hand over the parts the baby exposes.

A little give and take on everyones part and we can all be happy.

[Backroads]

I figure Facebook can do what it wants.

I agree there is a double whammy standard.

[Bini]

I never covered up when breast feeding but I understand how many people may be uncomfortable with it. I found that most men just avoided me while I publicly nursed, whether that be out of courtesy or embarrassment, I don't know. Mothers on the other hand, many minded their own business but I suspect, from some looks, that a few disliked it.

At the end of the day, regardless of who is right or who is wrong - it doesn't matter - the world would be a much more pleasant place with a little more tolerance and courtesy to others.

[pam]

Actually covering up when breast feeding in public would be a courtesy to me. Just saying....

[annewandering]

Actually covering up when breast feeding in public would be a courtesy to me. Just saying....

Some babies just wont allow it. For me seeing moms feeding the babies I might have a twinge of embarrassment but its just not as important as the fact she is doing a good thing for her baby. The twinge is more a condemnation of our society not the woman feeding her baby. We really ought to just get over it.

[pam]

Sorry but it's just not something I'm comfortable with. I don't mind when a woman is covered. So please don't say I must just get over it. I'm just voicing my opinion in how I personally feel about it.

Edited December 2, 2012 by pam

[Guest]

There are so many coverups now, and many of them don't even really touch the baby. I get that nursing with a blanket isn't doable for some moms, especially when the baby is really tiny, but there are too many options now. When a mom isn't willing to cover up these days it's because she's not willing, not because she can't.

[Backroads]

I will try to cover up as a best I can. While I support public breast feeding and really don't give it a second thought when I noticed a mother with or without a cover, but I think I'd feel more secure with it all covered.

[annewandering]

Sorry but it's just not something I'm comfortable with. I don't mind when a woman is covered. So please don't say I must just get over it. I'm just voicing my opinion in how I personally feel about it.

Pam, I am sorry, I didnt mean you had to get over it. I am thinking it is something society needs to get over. Me included. Logically it makes no sense so I consciously ignore my twitches. I always breastfed my kids but tried to be modest about it but I am not going to criticize others who dont feel its necessary. The problem is in me not them.

Have you seen early pictures of conferences in SL? There are women in the front of the congregations breastfeeding openly in at least several of them. Right in front of the speakers and no one pays it any attention. They caught me by surprise to be honest.

[annewandering]

There are so many coverups now, and many of them don't even really touch the baby. I get that nursing with a blanket isn't doable for some moms, especially when the baby is really tiny, but there are too many options now. When a mom isn't willing to cover up these days it's because she's not willing, not because she can't.

The problem was not the coverups. It was the baby. Some are just wandering eyes nursers. lol. They no doubt grow up to be multitaskers!

[Guest]

Right, and there are coverups that don't even really touch the baby, at least not around the face, and there's no way the baby can rip them off. You can even nurse in a sling and use the excess fabric to cover up, and the baby can't push that away. Like I said, there are so many things out there now that if a mom really wanted to find a cover that works for her and her baby, she could. There's also the option of going into a quiet corner or another room. An active, curious baby usually eats better that way, anyway. I always did that for my dad out of respect for him, because nursing makes him uncomfortable and I'm not on a mission to change 60+ years of those feelings. I just want to feed my baby. lol

[Guest]

A loose T-shirt is all you need. No cover-ups necessary. And it doesn't even have to be a nursing t-shirt. Just pull the T-shirt forward, put the baby under the t-shirt. Roll the bottom of the t-shirt to land around the baby's head. The baby covers your exposed belly, the t-shirt covers your breast. If the baby turns his head unlatching himself, then the shirt just falls automagically to cover the nipple. Practice makes perfect.

This would probably get deleted out of facebook too!

[selek]

To get back to the OP, trolling is trolling.

There is a vast difference between innocently posting something that can be misinterpreted and hitting people for reactions.

The article admits that the picture was posted specifically to provoke a reaction from Facebook.

Despite having agreed to the FB rules of conduct, the poster and his friends were engaging in a bit of infantile and peurile "you're not the boss of me" tantrum throwing.

I didn't tolerate that nonsense from my two-year-old. Facebook (which tries to bill itself as family-friendly) should not tolerate it from (presumably) "thinking" adults.

The photo should be removed and the poster's account closed.

If you don't want to follow the rules, find another sandbox.

You don't get to pee in mine.

Edited December 3, 2012 by selek

[Bini]

A loose T-shirt is all you need. No cover-ups necessary. And it doesn't even have to be a nursing t-shirt. Just pull the T-shirt forward, put the baby under the t-shirt. Roll the bottom of the t-shirt to land around the baby's head. The baby covers your exposed belly, the t-shirt covers your breast. If the baby turns his head unlatching himself, then the shirt just falls automagically to cover the nipple. Practice makes perfect.

This would probably get deleted out of facebook too!

Relief Society arms?

Don't get mad at me! Someone else on this forum had referred to wobbly arms as Relief Society arms - I've never heard that term before - nor had I actually ever seen a RS lady with such arms. Good thing for modesty :)

[talisyn]

I have some breastfeeding-friendly pages in my Facebook feed, and while the vast majority don't show more than a bikini top would, there are a few that I just can't look at lol. But what I noticed was a page would have some pictures and a random person would go on and report every single one as spam or whatever and Facebook automatically takes them off, leaving the admin to protest to get them back up. That is a level of determined weird that I just can't grasp.

About babies...Gwendolyn absolutely refused any sort of covering. Sheer, windowed, soft, firm, she hated it all. It didn't have to touch her face, the mere fact that she couldn't pop off and look around at her blurry newborn world would send her off. I got very good at wearing baggy shirts that I could wrap around her body while leaving her head free. I also found really neat nursing tanks. I discovered that when nursing Gwen my brother thought my little roll of tummy chunkiness was my breast, and the nursing tanks took care of that issue. But now that my toddler is 2 she's decided that the Taliban are right about burkas. She loves blankets over her head, loves crawling under my tshirts, and loves nursing in bathrooms. Children are so odd.

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