Body maps: Where we don't like to be touched and by whom

[Guest]

There's a guy in my ward with absolutely no concept of personal space or social cues, and I'm afraid I might smack him one of these days.

[Guest]

 

 

[Palerider]

 

 

That's good. I seen the first one on Facebook.

[mordorbund]

There's a guy in my ward with absolutely no concept of personal space or social cues, and I'm afraid I might smack him one of these days.

 

I know. Children, right?! UGH!

[Bini]

I don't like being touched by strangers or anyone outside of my "comfort bubble", such as, my husband and my daughter. I accept hugs from parents and siblings but I do not like being touched other than that, or from anyone else. I didn't open the link, either.

[Bini]

And there was this big boss guy at my previous job who greeted me on my first day at work by kissing the back of my hand like an English gentleman... lips on the back of my hand... and then my direct boss gal greeted me by putting both her hands right on my stomach - yes, I was 5 months pregnant on my first day at work... But yeah, I was a bit creeped out.

 

As the "new guy" I'd probably be in too much shock to respond disapprovingly. But in my opinion, this, is extremely inappropriate! The belly touching of a pregnant woman is a big deal, people who are not pregnant or are male can argue otherwise, but it is. My midsection is not for just anyone to reach out and rub or grab, it's a part of a woman's body that most women feel conscious about anyway, let alone being pregnant and having people grope you without consent. 

[Vort]

The belly touching of a pregnant woman is a big deal

 

I'd say that's a true statement, even if you remove the word "pregnant".

[Bini]

I'd say that's a true statement, even if you remove the word "pregnant".

 

Yeh, I'd still be shocked if I wasn't prego, that's true.

[erog84]

Interestingly I married a wonderful lady that is very much into contact comfort.  Her family not only hugs but will kiss when meeting - not the pretend kind but smack on the lips stuff.  We have an agreement - I will not criticize them for how they great each other if they do not criticize me for how I great them and others.  I believe it to be one sided thought - they love trying to catch me off guard.   I do understand that not everyone is like me - I am beginning to realize that outside of the family I grew up in - there are not very many like us - except some of the few that for some reason seem to gravitate to technical (Scientific and Engineering) professions.

 

The one thing you cannot do while reading is observing how others are reacting to what you are communicating. 

 

One list thing from me - touching does make me feel uncomfortable but I do realize that touching is important to many others and I will endue it because of my love and respect for them - but it still makes me uncomfortable but sometimes my comfort is not as important as others are to me.

 

I am with you Traveler, I am very anti hugs, even with my family.  I RARELY will hug someone in my family, including my parents, they will be the person to initiate it and then I make sure it is quick.  My personal space is also alot bigger than most other people, but I do like making eye contact when I am in a serious conversation.  I don't know where I got this from, but I see no reason to change!