How to deal with gossip?

[Fether]

Just an extension of a previous thread.

What is the best way to deal with gossip? In this particular situation, the people gossiping are close friends and are truly good people… though are prone to gossip about others, particularly  a co-worker struggling with emotional trauma and depression that has, on a few occasions, done some inappropriate things to try and deal with their depression.

So far, the only strategies I have found are (1) start saying nice things about the person, (2) try to change the subject, which doesn’t solve the overall problem, and (3) call them out on it and tell them to stop gossiping, which I find leads to everyone denying they are gossiping and starts a battle of who is right and who is wrong.

[Fether]

Just found another technique. When someone starts gossiping, ask “why are you telling me this?”

Edited September 13, 2021 by Fether

[NeuroTypical]

(4), become known as the guy who doesn't like to be around gossip.  Like, get up and leave, and politely let it be known why.  I like this one because it isn't trying to manipulate change out of other people.  They get to pick if they want you around or not.

Edited September 13, 2021 by NeuroTypical

[Still_Small_Voice]

Yes, I have heard some dirty, digging, deep dark secrets about Fether.  Send me a personal message and I will tell you all the good stuff.

😁

[Fether]

1 hour ago, Still_Small_Voice said:

Yes, I have heard some dirty, digging, deep dark secrets about Fether.  Send me a personal message and I will tell you all the good stuff.

😁

I’m actually curious to hear this too! You have my permission to post it on the thread