Marriage Likely On the Brink of Failing -- Prayer Requests

[Still_Small_Voice]

Hello.

The person I am posting this for wishes that I be as anonymous as possible.  His son was just called to serve a mission for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints.  Now here comes the opposition from the Devil. 

One of the spouses found out that the other has been having an emotional affair recently.  The affair has now resulted in meetings and kissing.  They said that this sinful relationship has not progressed to adultery yet.  Pray that they will be able to heal their marriage.  Both have been sealed together in the House of the LORD.  Pray for them. 

One of the spouses talked to me and said they are going to try to meet with their Bishop or Stake President soon.  I think one of them is in "affair fog" and has not gotten over what they have done.

Thanks.

[NeuroTypical]

Rough stuff.  It takes two to make a marriage work, but only one to destroy it.  Here's hoping both spouses can be fully dedicated to preserving and healing their marriage.  

For the injured spouse - this is a really good book.   Actually, it's a good book for both spouses, because it explains quite well what the damage done looks like, and why it can take so long to heal. 

 

[Still_Small_Voice]

Thanks for the book suggestion NeuroTypical and anyone offering prayers.  I let one of them know about the book.

I have heard of too many stories of people leaving in the adultery fog and then months or years later coming back to reality.  The horror then sets in.  What have I done?  By then, it is almost always too late and the marriage has been destroyed. 

I am hoping their relationship does not get to that point.

[Still_Small_Voice]

I just received an update recently.  Both of them are going to talk with their Bishop or Stake President within the next few days.  A thanks from me to all who are praying.  Please continue to pray for them.  I will give further updates in the future on this.

[Still_Small_Voice]

This is what I have been told in this update.  The meetings with the Bishop went well.  There appears to be just a lot of opposition against them spiritually at the present.  Pray for deliverance for them from demons.  The person said there are a lot of spiritual voices telling them to give up on their marriage and on walking the path of discipleship with Christ. 

I also feel the person getting ready to serve a mission is likely going to do good eternal things for others and the Devil does not want this.  A thanks for all who have prayed for them thus far.

[Still_Small_Voice]

When I talked to the person again they said the other spouse that kissed another person after dancing with them decided to completely cut ties.  The other person will be cut out and they are both trying to work on their marriage. 

The husband is in the military and deployed a lot.  He is tired of being deployed and wants to find work that does not send him away from his wife for months at a time.

Edit:  I do believe he has put in more than twenty years into the military so at least he should get military retirement in the future if he does decide to leave.  Maybe he can find a civilian job that does not ship him around the world.

Edited July 26, 2024 by Still_Small_Voice

[NeuroTypical]

Military and law enforcement - two professions with astoundingly high divorce rates.  Lots of temptation while deployed, and the traumas brought by the profession can be life-altering.  Lots of loneliness for the spouse left at home, and "home" may hardly be an ideal situation with supportive friends and neighbors and ties to church.

They can pull off a successful marriage.  If they come out the other side of this together, they can be odds-breaking rockstars with a marriage stronger than most.  It takes the intentional choice of both spouses to make that happen.

Fingers crossed, book recommendation given, prayers offered.  

Edited July 26, 2024 by NeuroTypical

[Still_Small_Voice]

Here is an update.  They are both still married and trying.  A thanks to all who prayed for them.  Pray for the wife.  She fell and broke her tailbone and is in major amounts of pain recently.  I hope to never break my tailbone.  I bruised it once and was in immense pain for weeks.