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  1. Wait, no, back up. I believe that God called Joseph Smith as a prophet. I also believe that, while in that office, Joseph did and taught things which were wrong (incorrect, immoral, misguided, sometimes all of the above). Agency is one of the foundational principles of the Gospel, and I absolutely don't believe that God strips men of their agency just because they're in a position of authority in the Church. I honestly don't know enough about the BoA issue to profess an opinion, but I'm open to the idea that Joseph simply got carried away. Should I hand in my temple recommend for this? I'm not an active poster, but I have been a member of the website for years now, so hopefully I won't be accused of trolldom for this post.
  2. This thread makes me want to cry.
  3. Yes, it is. In fact, they don't make military garments for women unless the woman bothers to put in a special order; they just tell women to wear the men's military garments. I've worn my husband's tops before, but I can't imagine wearing men's bottoms. But I've heard of women who did, mostly because they prefer the thicker elastic.
  4. I'm pretty sure I've heard that the Adam and Eve couples are married too. I always assumed that the current films are from 1990, but I wasn't endowed until 2008, so I can't say for certain.
  5. Not according to Doctrine and Covenants section 42: 18And now, behold, I speak unto the church. Thou shalt not kill; and he that kills shall not have forgiveness in this world, nor in the world to come. D&C 42:18 is speaking to people in the Church, who have already made covenants with God. If you look at the scriptures cross-referenced, they're even more specific in addressing only members of the covenant. We have a higher level of accountability, and I don't think that scripture applies to people outside the Church. To answer the original question, yes, I believe the sin must be confessed to be forgiven. But I don't think refusing to confess it at one point stops you confessing it later.
  6. My bishop once counselled me to build a career in education and to put off having kids for the first four or five years of my marriage. I didn't do either, and I didn't even feel the need to pray for permission to dismiss his counsel. Those are areas where my husband and I retain full stewardship; the bishop can make suggestions, just like any other family friend, but the stewardship rests with individuals. You can support your bishop in his calling as the father of the ward while still retaining stewardship over your own life choices. I know he doesn't have to raise his hand to sustain you in that stewardship, but it exists all the same. Exercising it isn't disrespectful or subversive, even if your bishop disagrees with those choices. "Girls" purusing careers . . . I'm cringing for you. You're being much more humble about this than I would be -- clearly I'm not ready for this sort of trial yet.
  7. I know you say the Spirit told you to take this job, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's the only job you're allowed to have. It might mean that it's one of the possible jobs that would be fine. If I were you, I'd look around Vancouver for vacancies in fast food, retail, other minimum-wage-monkey jobs, and put in some applications. Then if you were offered a job, you could pray and see if that might also be one of the acceptable jobs. If the answer is no, you can turn down the job offer. Easy-peasy, no harm done. But, you are eighteen, so let me gently break it to you -- sometimes job satisfaction isn't in the game plan. I've worked as a cleaner for McDonald's for two years. I have some physical problems which mean it's excruciatingly painful to stand for more than a few hours. At some points, I was taking three full doses of Tylenol in my eight- or nine-hour shifts, and it didn't even touch the pain; giving birth was less traumatic. Do I dread going to work? Oh yes indeedy, but it puts food on the table. You do what you have to, sometimes. But if my job didn't provide enough money, which you say yours doesn't, you can bet I'd be out looking for something, anything else. Looking at other job options isn't a sign of faithlessness; maybe you've already learned the lessons you needed to learn.
  8. Well, first things first, you're not polygamous. You're polyamorous, which is much more socially acceptable. Welcome to the alternative-lifestyles movement! Second, you're not looking at 'core doctrine'. You're looking at out-of-date Church policies which have been explicitly overruled by more recent policy. Third, if you want to cling to superseded scripture, I suppose I can't stop you. But you aren't allowed to complain if someone decides to implement the core doctrinal penalty for adultery -- death by stoning is way traditional, you know. As society changes, God changes the rules we're expected to live by. And that's certainly lucky for you. Fourth, I must ask -- seriously?
  9. To register with my first NHS GP, I took in my passport and filled out a one-page form. I've never had to submit any kind of proof or verification (not sure what you actually mean by that?), and I've always had appointments within three days, urgent appointments were always same-day. I love the NHS, and I'm proud to pay into National Insurance. I've just taken a look at North Carolina's Medicaid program, and I don't think Verone is eligable under any category. What a sad story.
  10. I have two names I use online; one I've used for many, many years on blogging websites, fan websites, that sort of thing. When I started joining religious websites, I wanted a new name; I happened to have 'Sense and Sensibility' sitting by my computer at the time, and the website in question had 'andsensibility' available. So I've used variations of that ever since. At the time, I didn't realise that it would seem egotistical. However, many people have kindly and gently pointed out that it does. Oh well, it's all spilt milk now.
  11. It would only make sense if a human body existed in stasis, in a vacuum, with no external influences. Since we don't, it doesn't make any sense whatsoever.
  12. Haha, I don't think you're the first person I've confused with that. I don't like the word 'lesbian', and 'gay' can apply either way, so that's where I default. In some circles I might identify as queer, but on, I'm just plain gay.
  13. I am gay. Ruthiechan is right. The fact that he likes pretty glittery things doesn't mean he'll want to sleep with boys when he grows up; more, the fact that somebody doesn't want to crossdress doesn't mean they'll be straight. I never dressed like a boy (it took years for my mom to convince me to wear trousers at all), and look what happened to me. Homosexuality isn't about wanting to be the opposite gender, it's just about who you're attracted to. To the OP, I've been on both sides of this -- I've been the gay child (though I never turned my back on the Church), and I also have a loved one who's living a lifestyle completely incompatible with Church teachings -- this person never was a member, but my husband and I still wobble on the line between endorsing a lifestyle and loving a person. I really feel for you. The advice in this thread is pretty fantastic. Your son still needs your love, he still needs your company, and he certainly still needs your prayers. You don't have to approve of what he's doing to spend time with him, to have conversations with him, to smile and laugh and joke with him. He's still your son. Will he come back to the Church in this life? Who knows? It's certainly possible. But whether or not he does, he still needs his mom's love.
  14. Well, here's my take. I spend plenty of time evaluating actions for their appropriateness, helpfulness, godliness. But I do it for my own sake, or because I'm specifically advising someone. I don't -- for instance -- go to Church and take notes on whether other women are wearing modest clothes. I think about modesty, and I often think in pretty hard absolutes, but the thoughts occur when I'm standing in front of the clothes rack at the store. Do some lovely sisters in my ward wear clothes I wouldn't? Well, probably. I'm trying to remember and I honestly can't, because I just don't have enough time to think about it. If I were teaching about modesty, I would teach my understanding without apology, but I don't look around to make sure everyone else is adhering. Basically, I think that other people's specks of sawdust can be a very pretty distraction from my own giant 2x4s, and I try (with varying degrees of success!) to guard against that. The Pharisees saw Christ healing on the Sabbath -- and focused so hard on the perceived transgression that they missed their own Messiah. I don't for a moment think I can't fall into the same trap. But at the same time, my understanding of 'the pure love of Christ' is that Christ's love is wholly focused on perfecting us and bringing us home. I believe the call to charity is also a call to aid in that work of perfecting each other. If I see a situation where I think I can genuinely help some one be closer to Christ, I try to be brave enough to speak up. When I know my words will bounce off with no effect at all, though, then instead I dedicate my energy to repenting of my own sins. Because, indeed, they are many. Oh, and something like the bully situation goes into a completely different box for me – that's protecting the vulnerable, and calls for immediate action.
  15. Truly speechless. How much time did you spend compiling this little beauty? I could have probably done an entire day's worth of housework in the time it would have taken me.