StrawberryFields

I agree that is discrimination.

Good Advice Jason :) "I feel that i really need to get mine done so i will have a will to continue to follow the gosple in order to have those great blessings patriarchal blessings tell you." This is an interesting comment. Although the Patriarchal Blessing is good and wonderful I have always considered living gospel it's own reward. Of course there are many thing available to tempt us everyday so we must choose to live righteously because of the peace we get from within.

No. I don't know what an "intellegent" reply is. But then, a further question might be: Why would anyone bother hoping anything from an idiot such as I? Interesting...

I do understand what you are saying and it will be fun. Life is all about change and I like the way she treats my son. What is going to be interesting to see is how much he really learned at home and how he will incorporate those things into his family. The other day when we went to see is new place he made the announcement that it would need to be cleaned first and my DIL to be said it looks fine. He has not been one to ever even load a dish without being told. Grandbabies are not "planned " for a couple of years. :)

My last daughter is going through today - which is the same day. About 30 family members are gathering to go with her on her first session and welcome her and her husband to be in the Celestial room. She has always been Daddy little girl and one of my best river guides. Talk about empty - our 7 bedroom home is left to just my wife and I. The Traveler Traveler, I am honored that you replies to my post. I have read your words of wisdom in the past and you make me think. :) Today was BEAUTIFUL! We also have many friends and family member whom gathered for support for the sweet couple. It was pure joy to spend the time with them in them temple today. My FIL is a temple worker and he was able to do his job and still be with us. I even got to hug my son in the Celestial Room with some encouragement from his father of course. It's amazing how fast time goes with our children. We feel think we have had him our whole lives but when we bunch it all together it seem like only 6 years and we have been robbed.

I am on my way in just a bit. Thanks Lindy for your support.

I am sorry. You are not alone and Lindy is right we are here to help or just listen if you need us. :)

No Strawberry, you're all screwed up. Seek prophesional help. Okay... When Can U See Me?

Tomorrow my son is going through the temple for the first time and then he will be getting married to his sweetheart of two years. I couldn't be happier of the choices he is making and I adore my new daughter in law to be. The problem is I Have Butterflies in MY stomach. I don't know if it is just the emotions that I am feeling with him getting married and moving on or something else. I do know that I miss my mom desperately and I wish that I could be sharing this time with her. I know how proud she would be of my son, they were very close. I think about seeing him in the temple as I can remember so clearly how I felt my very first time through. I worry about being able to keep my emotions in check because I am so very proud of him I am afraid that I will just burst. So many thoughts... my life with my cute little family will forever be changed. These next few weeks are going to be such an exciting, happy, and emotional time. I need to just breathe and take each day as it comes... right?

Hi Winnie! I had my gallbladder taken out two years ago. I miss the days when they had you wait in the hall on a gurney, under a warm blanket, while the anesthesiologist came there and got you "starting to feel like a marshmallow". They did this before you entered the operating room. I think that they are just in such a hurry to get you done and on to the next. Actually, it probably didn't take any longer and it just made a more comfortable experience for me, the patient. For one of my surgeries I even had to walk into the operating room with all of the bright lights and cold temperature. I did have a funny thing happen after my gallbladder surgery though. When I was a kid and got my tonsils taken out they gave them to me in a bottle. I asked my surgeon if I could have a few of my gallstones and he said, "sure I don't know why not". I was in surgery longer then they had expected and when he came out he handed my mom this jar full of stones and told her that it wasn't even half of them! My mom gave them to me and I took them home in a plastic cup with a blue lid. They were really weird to look at... they had many facets to them like a gem and they had yellow slime all over them. I couldn't help but think how these looked like something out of a prehistoric time. When people came to visit I would ask them if they wanted to see my stones. Several weeks after the surgery my friend from CO. came to see me. She is really into homeopathic medicine and how the body works. She wanted to see my stones so I went and got them but they had changed. The yellow slime had dried and worked as an adhesive... the stones were stuck together. I shook the bottle and the stones went spilling onto the floor and my two shitzu's went to see what I had dropped. We both started screaming because they were so gross and now on the floor where my dogs could get to them! Maybe you just had to be there to find this funny. I can see why they cause so much pain...some are really quite large. Good luck in the healing process. :)

I asked my daughter if she knew what the different colors meant and she said yes. I asked her to tell me and her eyes got big and she said "No! I can't you're OLD!" That makes me think that she knows exactly what they mean..

You can edit this if it is too much.Here's a common breakdown, from what teens told NBC 10: Yellow: hugging Purple: kissing Red: lap dance Blue: oral sex Black: the full monty. In a game called Snap, if a boy breaks a jelly bracelet off a girls wrist, he basically gets a sexual coupon for that act. It's become such a problem in some middle schools in Florida, districts started banning the bracelets. If your daughter is wearing one of these bracelets, it certainly doesn't mean she's having sex, following through on the Snap game, or even knows about the code,. But experts say it's a good opportunity for you to have that all important conversation about sex, what you think is acceptable, and best for your family.

I was watching one of the morning news channels and they were talking about Sex Bracelets. It caught my attention because I have a 14-year-old daughter and I thought I should share it with you. Apparently those jelly stretchy bracelets are for more then just a colorful accessory. Each color represents an "act" and if a boy snaps it off your wrist he "wins that favor". If you are interested on learning more just do a search on Sex Bracelets and you will find plenty to read. This isn't new news but it is the first time I have heard of it and it is very troubling to me.

Caffine is colorless, oderless and tasteless. I said that.Ask any Diet Coke Lover if they can taste the difference between the leaded (caffeine) and the unleaded (caffeine free) versions and I bet they say yes. Now that you say that I may sound a bit crazy but that is how I feel. :) SF

I think that is was tea or maybe it was coke... When I was in high school somebody put a screw into a glass of one of them (coke or tea) and within a week it was eating through the screw.

I like my caffeine in moderation. I was at one time (years ago) addicted to diet coke and I know that wasn't good. I would get really "hard to be around” without drinking it in the morning, noon, and at night. Now I only have it when I eat Mexican food and I like it with lime. I can even tolerate the caffeine free stuff with lime. I think that everybody needs to be accountable for what they do in there own lives. For me diet coke occasionally is my vice. I won't touch alcohol because I am afraid with my family’s history I would become addicted

Oh My Heck Winnie! I have not had that good of a laugh in a very long time! Thanks, I NEEDED THAT! SF

To me it doesn't matter who wrote it just that it is written and IT IS INSPIREING!!!!!!! Thank Strasky for sharing that story. SF

So many kind words... Serapha, I don't think that we have "met" but I want to thank you for your insight. I did do to the link and I can appreciate what it says. :) I also know what you mean about not knowing that you have lost your best friend when you have lost your mom. Blessed, I have also been following your story and I am sorry that you are also having to go thru this pain. Please pm me if I can help you in anyway. I wished that I wouldn't have wanted that day to be any different then another. I set myself up for failure. I think next year I will handle the day on a more personal level and try not to try so hard if that makes sense.

Curvette,While my dad has been in Mexico with a vulture of a woman for 6 weeks I have been doing something like that. I went to his house a gathered all of the family photos which have never been put together. I have done 8 books and I plan to present them to him when he returns. These are our memories and are very special to me. My children spoke at my moms furneral and they have some wonderful memories of my mom. I believe in keeping my mom's memory alive. I think that I am freaking out about this is because after a year everything is suppost to be all better. My dad said that if he was to get married to this vulture that he would wait until after a year. He has been with her for 6 weeks in a motor home and I am hoping that she has messed up in a very big way with him. Time will only tell...

These are some things that I needed to hear because I feel very touched. Thank you all for your kind words. SF

This Sat March 2oth will mark the one year anniversary that my mom died. It seems that she has been gone so much longer. I am not sure what I can do to place "the right marker" on this day. I don't want it to be just another day but I am not sure what I want. Any Ideas?

Anti-depressants are a really interesting thing.... People don't really advertise that they are taking them.I think that they are so overused in Utah because of the high standards that are placed on Mormon women. They need to BE perfect, have the perfect family, keep the perfect home, and give the perfect lesson in church. I have a friend who needed to be tested for heart problems after being on the Phen-Fen diet. When she went in for the test she explained to the technician that she had breast implants that might interfere with the test. The tech said that she had become very skilled in working around the implants because since she had been in Utah for four months already about 1/3 of the woman who needed the test done also had implants. She further told her that Utah is number one for anti-depressants and in the top 3 for plastic surgery and diet pills. It isn't easy being a Mormon woman living in Utah. You feel as if others are always judging you for every aspect of your life and the life that your family leads. I think that that is why doctors are so willing to give you "happy pills" it makes life easier on everyone including the doctor. I think that the women need a different kind of "medication", one for the reality of life. This is the lesson: 1. Bring up your children in righteousness but it is not your fault if they make wrong choices. 2. Have a neighborhood fire drill at 9:30 in the morning and see that not everyone is beautiful and dressed as nice as they are on Sunday. 3. Go to the neighbors house to the left unannounced and see if they don't have dishes in the sink and dust on their tables. 4. Listen to your neighbors to the right as they are getting ready for 9:00 sac. Meeting and see if they don't have a little disorder in their homes too. What really bugs me about living in Utah is that we can witness each other every day but when we go to church we put on a completely different face. The face that I am referring to is the Sunday Face, the one that say’s that everything IS perfect IN MY WORLD. Right across the street from me lives a family who has had their share of family struggles. A few years back the father was in the bishopric as a councilor. At church he was just as nice and friendly as he could be but when we would see him in his yard we would barely speak to us. At the time my husband was the exec. Sec. and our bishop called his clerks and the members of the bishopric together along with their spouses and asked what we could do to bring our ward closer. I said that we needed to serve each other and not be so prideful that we didn't let others into our lives and see our heartaches. This councilor spoke up and said that just because we live close to one another and that we are in a "Ward" together that we didn't necessarily need to be friends. He went on the further explain that when we buy a home in Utah we are also buying a ward in which we don't have much control of. I thought that to be quite ODD of him to say but it explain his view. The bishop asked me if what I meant by my comment is that we don't let each other see our "warts" and I said yes. I do believe this to be true especially here in the ward in which I have lived for the last 8 years. There are alot of prideful people who live in this area. I often have real dreams of moving back into our home in Layton. It was small but the people there were wonderful. When you went to church you went also to see your friends. Here you go to see if your neighbors are there.

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Lindy and Bat~ Having friends like you enrich my life. Thanks for everything you continue to teach me. :)