ctr123

I'm just curious how a thread goes from helping someone or giving oppinons to this. Is this a joke that I'm to new to recognize? If not sorry for you slamjet you didn't deserve that. If so well you got me. Just wanting to know.

I didn't really want baby showers because I don't like to be the center of attention, but I absoultly love throwing baby showers. I love it even more when they are first time moms. Bini you should reconsider Pam's offer if she really wants to and is able. I don't know you but I would so throw you one if I lived by you. (don't know where you live). What is not fun about celeberating a gift from God. I hope you get a surpised one. And they don't have to be expensive at all. A few fun games steamers and ballons. Get your husband on board ask him to throw you one. Haha I only laugh because I can not even imagine my husband being able to do that. Maybe yours can. Good Luck!

me too seeking peace haha

LOL I understand and wasn't meaning to pry.

I live about an hour and half to two hours east of joplin (I think geography is not my subject). I have heard so many stories and heard so many reasons. There are many many sad and painful stories as well as some good. It can make a person ask the question why would God allow this to happen? Then yesterday I was reading a book Our search for happiness by Russell Ballard and I came across this: "If there is a God," the empathetic observer might wonder,"how could He allow such things to happen?" The answer Isn't easy, but it isn't that complicated, either. God has put His plan into motion. It proceeds through natural laws-which are, in fact, God's laws. And because they are His, He is bound by them, as are we. In this imperfect world, bad things sometimes happen. The earth's rocky underpinnings occasionally slip and slide, and earthquakes result. Certain weather patterns turn into hurricanes, tornadoes, floods, and drought. That is the nature of our existence on this planet. Dealing with adversity is one of the chief ways in which we are tested and tutored. Maybe the Joplin tornado was just the weather doing its thing. My heart goes out to the victims and their familes. Slamjet I must live close to your ex-wife and kids.

oops sorry satan not satin lol

Heres my thoughts. I believe that we have good clean thoughts as well as bad thoughts. Sometimes our good thoughts come from someone else ie. general authorites, chruch leaders, teachers, visiting teachers, home teachers. I have always believed that Heavenly Father has sent these people to us, to give us that good message. So in reality Heavenly Father gave us that good thought, regardless of the messager. I feel that it can be the same with Satin regardless of the messenger he has put that bad thought into our head. Good thoughts are from Heavenly Father and bad thoughts are from Satin. I do believe that satin knows our weakness and if he can't actually take a thought and plant it into our mind than he can put something in our way to make us think of the bad thought. Regardless he's responsible for that thought entering our mind, and that's where we have choices to make. Replace it with something from Heavenly Father or to act upon it.

I love this thread I have been curious about some usernames as well. When I came to lds.net I was in a world of hurt. Because of someones wrong choices I was in a very bad place. I couldn't understand how this person did what they did. So my username ctr123 came because I thought that Choosing the Right should be as easy as 123. Before any one says it I know that I'm not perfect and have had my own trouble ctr in my life time.

There is a group that has been a great blessing for me called surviving infildelity. I think that the creator has not been on the lds.net site in so long and new members have not been able to join. The more that I read in the fourms I see so many people that could really benifit from the group. So I started another one surviving infildelity II. So if anyone who could use support or can offer support please look for and ask for an invite. I really feel that it offered those of us in the first group alot of help. best wishes

The longer you wait the more it will hurt your wife. Finding out any other way than from you will hurt more. Maybe your marriage will be over maybe with time it will be even stronger. If you truly repent than Heavenly Father will guide you and your family where you should be. I would suggest praying and fasting for your wife before you tell her. Pray that she will have the strength to listen to His counsel and be able to follow His word. Pray that she will have the Holy Ghost to comfort her and ease her pain. Don't give excueses and reasons they won't help her at this time. Be an open book from this point on. You had stated that you didn't put any thought into the act of the sin, well why are you now putting so much thought into what is right. Your debating the repentance part when maybe it was the cheating part that you should have debated. I don't mean that mean or anything it just always amazes me that people myself included puts so little thought into the terrible things that we do but we struggle for long periods of time with doing what is right. Maybe there is a bishop that feels that people don't need to confess and maybe technically we don't have to confront the person we have wronged but when your time comes to face our loving Heavenly Father it would be so much better to say yes I faced my sin to the fullest of my ability and didn't hide behind technicallities. I wish you the best. I pray that you will have the strenght and patience that you will need to face the hell that you will go through for yourself and your wife.

There is a group called surving infildelity that can be very helpful for you.

Dear somewife I just wanted to say I'm so happy you didn't just run to the first lawyer and start the divorce papers going. A marriage is not an easy thing but it is a worthwile thing if two people will work at it. Even if at first only one person is willing. It sounds like things are good right now and I truly hope they stay that way, but be prepared that one or both of you may have a relaspe. A marriage is not a 50/50 investment. It must be a 200/200 investment atleast. Alot of times people seem so ready to deem someone not worth our time, b/c of a mistake they may make. Heavenly Father would never deem one of his children not worth his time. Its not an easy task to forgive the mistakes that a spouse does and will make thoughout the course of a marriage, but in the end it can makes a marriage wonderful. When we forgive mistakes especially big ones we can grow closer to our spouse and to the Savior. The decision of divorce should only come from our Heavenly Father through humble pray and scripture reading b/c only Heavenly Father knows when a person will not change. I'm no expert or counselor I'm just a wife who has been married for 17 years and have been on the edge of divorce. My husband and I have hurt each other in ways I didn't think possible to forgive or be forgiven, but have somehow returned to each other and are working hard to communicate and to love. I also wanted to recommend a couple of books one is "The Peacegiver" How Christ offers to heal our hearts and homes By: James L. Ferrell and also "The Love Dare" by Stephen and Alex Kendrick It is a thrity day challenge to understanding love. It goes with the movie Fireproof. I recomend watching the movie with your husband than starting the dare. The movie is a low budget movie but if you can get thru the cheesy acting it has a great message and gives a great since of hope. It is christian based but not LDS. I found the Peacegiver book and the fireproof movie on ebay used very cheap, but the love dare book I got at walmart 9.99 each(i bought one for myself and one for my husband) b/c you write your thoughts in them I didn't want to buy a used one that may have been written in already. Continue to trust in your Heavenly Father and lean on him when things are tough he will guide you and your husband to fulfulling the plan he has for you.