Melissa569

You might wanna read "Jonathan Livingston Seagul", written by a pilot and author named Richard Bach. Very short story, but AMAZING!! And a best seller. Its a metaphor story about a seagul named Jonathan who pretty much represents any human who is capable of "thinking outside the box" or at a deeper level. Jonathan, unlike other seaguls, eats only enough to survive. But his true love and main interest in life is "perfecting his flying techniques". He practices day and night. Not only for the joy, or for breaking records-- but the higher you fly, the deeper into the water you can dive, thus catching bigger fish and eating more richly, instead of barely surviving off the scraps from the docks and fishing boats... But the other birds ( known as the "Breakfast Flock") cannot understand his logic. They shun him, because they strictly believe that life is only about fighting over little scraps of food, and anyone who tries to go outside that frame of mind is wasting their time, and breaking sacred gul laws. Eventually Jonathan is cast out of the flock, in shame. While he is living alone, far away on the high cliffs, Jonathan continues to study flight until he grows old and passes away, in mid-flight... But he's not really aware that he's dead-- until another gul shows up, who is glowing bright-white, flying right by his side, matching him move for move with perfect ease, and is just as skilled at flying as he is-- if not better! The other gull tells him that the reason he was so misunderstood on earth, is because he was beyond the spiritual level of most Earth birds. There was nothing wrong with him at all, he was actually on a much higher spiritual plane! And that ALL the birds in this new, higher world were capable of the same things he is. They think the way he thinks. There were also many higher levels to reach, and many new discoveries to make, even still! Jonathan is intrigued, and takes on the challenge of mastering everything, and moving all the way to the top, achieving ultimate glory! Its a great story, because of the way his soul matures, and how every new level brings new glorified abilities, until eventually, he can do anything, and go anywhere, simply by willing it in his mind. He can visit lower levels too, even earth, and he enjoys it because he likes to reach out to other birds like himself, and teach / coach them on how to move up, just like he has. I think this is similar to how our lives on earth are... How we are ridiculed by others for being too spiritual (or maybe for spending a lot of time working on a big project, or developing/perfecting a tallent?). Other people say we are wasting out lives, and the real point of living is just to earn a paycheck. Sure, you do that to feed your family and keep your home... But that's not why we are here. In fact, if your really put your natural talents to work, you can end up earning a bigger paycheck than most! And as for spiritual development, you can achieve higher glory in heaven. Until you learn this, you will remain like the "breaksfast flock", and be stuck at the bottom.

The brain is a really wierd and random thing. Any dream will prove that. Some times crazy, off-the-wall things just pop in there without warning. Can't do too much about that. What you can do is decide what to do with that thought. Do you linger in it and allow it to take over your entire mind, or do you focus on something else? I suffered from VERY severe clinical depression and panic attacks a few years ago, after a traumatic event. I had ensomnia like crazy, and I saw that "Attacking Anxiety And Depression" thing (the for Midwest Center, in those infomercials with that Lucinda Basset lady). I ordered that on ebay (it was wayyyyyy cheaper there). The program also helps with agoraphobia too, and self confidence problems. Its a 6-month program and its home-based, so you just do it yourself, you follow the workbook and listen to the CD's. That basically taught me how to calm down panic attacks and get my mind off bad or scary thoughts. If it werent for that, I probably never would have learned how. They teach you that when you're having a panick attack, you tell yourself: "Look, I won't die from a silly old panic/anxiety attack, and its perfectly natural to have these thoughts / feelings about upsetting or bad subjects. It will go away, and I'll be fine. No biggie." Or "Being bombarded with bad thoughts is really just your brain's way of distracting you from something that's bothering you. So ask yourself-- What happened today that upset me? What was I thinking about right before these thoughts began? Is there anything I can do to remedy the situation? If not, then to heck with it! Who cares?? Go find something fun to do. There is NOTHING wrong or selfish about cheering yourself up, especially when your health depends on it. And to heck with people who think I "don't care about THEIR problems". Its people's constant guilt trips they love to pile on me that's got me thinking I have to say yes to every single favor all the time, and let people take advantage of me. And that needs to stop. The ocasional favor is fine, but I can't be everybody's little step-and-fetch-it all the time. I have a life and my own responsibilities too." If you tell yourself that EVERY time, it really helps. And all of a sudden, you start having fewer and fewer "bad thought" bombardings. Eventually, none at all.

Hey, I'm not perfect, I've done plenty of things that are against christianity in general, and particularly moromonism. But just because I've done SOME wrong things, doesn't mean I'm supposed to just cut loose and allow absolutely everything. Devine law cannot be changed simply by marching in protests, or making verbal statements, or by altering the nations laws, or by changing your own personal beliefs. It doesn't work that way. God's rules are God's rules, exactly as they have always been written. Just because someone disagrees with the rules or is miserable because of them, doesn't mean the rules are wrong or bad. It doesn't matter what laws and rules are laid out-- someone out there is always going to disagree, and think they are "unfair". Its just like with our country-- If we revoked every law, just because somebody thought it was unfair, we would have no solid foundations anywhere. Yes, its sucks that some rules are a painful struggle on a daly basis. But if homosexuals think they are they only ones who's earthly bliss is disrupted by the rules, they are wrong. Heck, join the club, we've got jackets! lol. Its just something we all have to tough out, and do our best with.

I agree that having things on hand is a good thing no matter where you live, as every area has some kind of natural disaster possibility, as well as other emergencies. But, storing all your supplies IN YOUR HOME... Obviously you would have easy access to them, since we usually run home in emergencies. So in that sense, it would be a good thing. But that's assuming your home is still ok after a disaster, or that your storage room is unharmed and accessable. If not, you are in the same boat as an unprepared family. I mean in a blackout, or simple social unrest, sure you would be off to a great start. But there are so many other disasters, that could prove to be a challenge, when you depend on years of storage saved up in your home. Does anyone prepare for these situations? If so, how? For example: * A flood (tsunami, seasonal/river)-- If you store your supplies in a basement or even on the first floor, much of it could be ruined. * A tornado, Earthquake, or hurricane-- Weather you store up high in an attic, or in a basement, these disasters have the potential to flatten a home, cutting off your access to your storage room/supply. * Fire-- If your house burns down, so does your storage room and all its supplies. * Evacuation-- If there were ever a terrorist threat to a city (bomb, biological warfare/release of a deadly desease), or a fire threatening to burn nearby homes, and you had very little time to grab some things and leave-- how much do you think you would be able to take with you? Would it be enough? * Being away from home when disaster strikes (at work, school, at the store, out of town, etc.) -- that would probably be the most likely scenario, actually. Think blocked or congested roads, etc. Just interesting to think about these things... :)

I'm not sure how I feel about this... I do know I just want something that makes regular doctor vosits more affordable for the poor. I have financial problems. My husband and I are struggling quite badly right now, barely paying our rent with only a few dollars left afterward. My big recent drama-- I caught a HORRIBLE flu this month (while at a church activity, no less, lol). For nearly 3 WEEKS, I was suffering with fever, achy body, sore throat, painful ear infection, sinus infection, congestion, and the world's most PAINFUL mucussy cough! Man, I could hardly breath half the time! Couldn't go anywhere, couldn't do anything, couldn't clean my house... I was just lucky I'm currently out of work, other wise I would have been even worse, going out in the cold and working all day instead of resting... I've been applying online for jobs left and right (most places do it online now, not on paper), but there is just nothing around here! lol. Even when you do find something, you've got competition from 10 other people with more education, training, and experience than you do. So THEY get offered the interview. Anyway, the cough got REALLY bad... So bad my throat literally got blood-raw from all the constant caughing. Then the mucus began to harden, and I couldn't even cough it up anymore... I was using up bottle after bottle of "NyQuil and DayQuil cold and flu" and Halls Cough drops, just so I could be halfway functional in the daytime, and sleep halfway decent during the night. I was getting worse and worse... Sicker than I had EVER been! Heck, it could have been Swine Flu for all I know! I have finally recovered now, but only because my neighbor had half a bottle of antibiotics leftover from when she had a similar virus... She gave them to me, and I took them as the bottle instructed (while eating plain white yogurt with live active cultures and a low sugar diet to prevent possible intestinal/bodily candida issues, which antibiotics can cause). Been taking them for 5 days now, and I have FINALLY completely recovered! Wow, I feel great! But I'm sure I was THIS close to developing pneumonia. And what if my neighbor hadn't been there? What if she weren't my neighbor? How would I have gotten better? What would have happened to me then? I will never know if it was Swine Flu, because there was no way I could have seen a doctor, unless I felt like racking up thousands of dollars in E.R. bills. I'm only 28, I shoudln't be comming that close to an end. What they need to do is figure something out to where people like me can get help at a reasonable price, when we need it.

Wow! Interesting answers :) Thanks everyone! I don't know if we are lucky or what, because I never did see very many of the older couple missionaries, but in addition to our regular missionaries, we also just had 2 older couples show up at our ward last Sunday... They seemed really cheery, like they were having a lot of fun with their calling :)

Ah, I see. So basically, the teachings have always been there, but I likely didn't notice it as a child for the same reason it seems like there are more bad stories on the news broadcasts as you get older-- its not that there's actually more, its just that you pay more attention as an adult. Hmmmm, makes sense.

As I’ve said before, I attended church until I was 12, and then was inactive until a couple months ago (age 28). Now I’ve been married for 5 years (to a Catholic), and there is just a lot about LDS I never got to learn over the years, so I’m curious. I have questions about missionaries. Around here, we have both elders and sister missionaries. I spoke to our sister missionaries from a different ward a few times… There are some things I have always wondered about, but was too shy or unsure of to ask, lol. So I’ll just ask them here, if that’s ok. Its not for me, I don’t want to go on a mission or anything (pretty sure I can‘t anyway, at least not until I‘m older, as some older couples do it). These are just silly thoughts that pop into my mind from time to time. Questions for anyone who has served a mission, or knows a lot about serving a mission, especially recently: 1-- Do ALL missionaries have to have a temple recommend? 2-- Not to be crude, but I heard you HAVE to be a virgin to go on a mission, but… What if someone just made a big mistake as a teenager or something, and they know it was stupid, and they’re really sorry, and REALLY want to serve a mission? Could they repent in a way that allowed them to go? I know members (not missionaries) who still went to the temple later on, even after they were with someone outside of marriage. So I wondered about that. 3-- A lot of the women in my ward wear pants to church on Sunday. Do you think pants will ever be allowed for female missionaries? 4-- Are missionaries allowed to film/document their mission? I’ve seen some missionaries on YouTube doing weekly or monthly video logs about their life on the mission, etc., and sending the disk/chip home in letters, and their families posting them every week. For example, this guy: YouTube - arthgallo's Channel But is that technically allowed? 5-- Missionaries have cell phones now??? Or at least I think ours do, because they call me from their car, to ask me to open the gate outside my apartment complex… Great new development for emergencies, of course. But I thought they couldn’t call their families except only on certain days. However, with a cell phone, what would stop them? Also, I figured maybe they would have to turn it in to their leader at the end of the day or something, but I’ve gotten calls from them as late as 9:00pm, so it sounds like they get to keep it at home with them. They could just call their family, and delete the number later. Or send a text to family, and delete it, especially with all these cheaper “unlimited” plans all the companies have now. 6-- Do missionaries live on church food (like the stuff people get in food orders)? Or do they actually have to shop for groceries? Can they go to any store, or just discount stores? 7-- Do they have to have a driver’s license to go on a mission, in case the church car is rotated to them? In our area, sometimes they share and trade the cars/bikes. 8-- What if a prospective missionary’s family is too poor to finance their mission? Can they get assistance, if they REALLY wanna go? 9-- Are missionaries allowed to use the internet? I mean can they email their family, or visit LDS websites or anything? 10-- What’s the cut-off age for the younger missionaries (as in the non-senior-couple ones)? Thanks in advance for bearing with my child-like questioning, lol.

I'll second what others have said, I'm American (caucasian), but my husband is from India. I spoke to my bishop a few times about some cultural differences we have, and also religious (my husband is a Catholic). And my bishop simply said, "Well, that's why when people are young and single, we encourage dating inside your own culture and religion. Its got nothing to do with race, we are all humans. But a marriage is hard enough without extra differences to deal with." While I agree and it sounds perfectly reasonable, sometimes you just can't help who you have that special bond with.

I attended the church up to age 12. Then not again until just a couple months ago. I'm finding there is sooooooooo much about the church I had no idea about as a child. When I was a kid, nobody ever talked about preparedness, at least not to me. But now being in church as an adult... Its almost SCARY the way people talk about it. I mean, sure, any family should always have an emergency kit in the house, blankets, water, food, candles, supplies, etc. And know the basics of fire, hurricane, tornado and earth quake safety (depending on where they live). But the church acts as if its expecting something nation-wide (or even world-wide), and catastrophic, FOR CERTAIN, very, very soon. Is that the case, and I've missed out on it because I've been away? lol. Or is preparedness just something the church has always strongly encouraged, even from decades back, "just in case"? I've been too embarrassed to ask the people in my ward, lol.

Iggy-- That's what I was thinking earlier today! The Ace hardware 2 blocks away sells really low cost locks/door knobs, with keys included. I'm thinking of walking down there and getting one.

I said a prayer the other day that the whole "room mate moving out" situation would go smoothly as possible--- and it did! My husband delayed going to work for a while, so he could stay home with me while our roommate packed. Actually, hubby and I just stayed asleep together, and when woke up, all our room mate's stuff was totally gone. He had a friend come and help him move out. WOW! Wasn't expecting that. I figured we would have to hold on to his stuff for a couple weeks, while he slept on someone's couch, waiting for his paycheck or something. At least, that's what he was hinting at... But this is the best possible way things could have turned out. I just cleaned up the huge mess left behind, and put all my furniture back the way it was before he came. Thank the lord for a peaceful ending to a difficult situation. It feels so good to have our space back now, and no more feeling unsafe or afraid. For the first time in 5 months, I can finally relax in peace, in my living room. I'm kind of excited too, because now I can invite my church friends over, without being worried about how my home looks or that guy's "substances" laying about. Also, I can sign up to host one of the missionary dinners, like all the other ladies in Relief Society do. :)

I would just like to ask for advice and prayers from everyone about the best way to handle this situation, and that it goes more peacefully. Some of you might remember how I mentioned before that my husband and I have a really creepy, domineering, bullying room mate. Well, we finally got rid of him! Woohoo! Only thing was, it hasn’t been pretty. Our room mate came back from his vacation in South America, saying that he was burping up blood, and that he was also bleeding from… Well, lets just say a very private area for a man… We were worried he had some kind of strange disease. Or that it was some pathetic plea not to be kicked out. And since he miraculously recovered, I have pretty much chalked it up to that... So when the semi-annual apartment inspection happened 2 days ago, my father (and I) were both worried that the manager would see our room mate’s full-frame bed set up in our living room, and know that we were allowing him to live with us. So we figured it was better to just come clean. We told the manager the whole story, how our room mate begged us to let him stay with us, for a few weeks. He promised to find a job, and then get his own place after that point. But then he started moving more and more of his stuff in while we weren’t home, and demanding we upgrade to a 2 bedroom. He was just getting really creepy, and he wouldn’t leave. So the manager agreed to post a notice on our door that our room mate must leave within 3 days. Tomorrow (March 5th, 2010) is the 3rd day, so he has to be out by then. We might have to hang on to his bed and his TV, because he will be sleeping on a friend’s couch until he gets his pay check and can pay the deposit for his new place. Unfortunately though, he has chosen to be extremely nasty about this. Today, I was cooking spaghetti in the kitchen, and he came in there. He dumped his bottled drink out in the sink, keeping a few tablespoons of it in the bottle. Then he made like he was gonna throw it away, but let the remaining liquid spill all over the kitchen floor. It made this loud splash noise when it hit the linoleum, very distinctive. I said, “Could you clean that up?” He was like, “Oh, ooops…. Did it spill?” I was like….. “Yes. It did.” So he wiped it up. Then he told me, “I hope you’re ready for a divorce… Because you know darn well you haven’t been the most interesting wife over the past 5 years, and your husband’s been telling me that he wants to get the heck away from you as soon as possible. He says your relationship is over, and there is nothing you can do to fix it, because you’re just not what he wants.” I just blew him off, and he left for work. Then I called my husband and repeated those words. My husband told me the guy was just angry for being kicked out, and don’t listen to him. So I sent our room mate a text message, saying, “Did you really think I wouldn’t ask my husband about what you said?? He says you only told me that because you’re being kicked out. And I agree!” Anyway, I’m just worried that he’s going to try some more shenanigans tomorrow… And I’ll be alone here. I don’t’ want to leave the house, because I don’t want him going through our personal things for revenge, or doing something to my dog and cat, maybe. Do you think I should ask some ladies from the church to come over and hang with me, until that guy leaves??

Actually, its really good you clarified that... In some places, the law still does frown on married people sleeping with someone other than their spouse. I guess I was just generalizing about the western world, or more about singles. But even in the west, adultry is still not really ok.. Its just like you said, the law doesn't do too much about it, especially not without proof.

I think it boils down to drawing a line between a legal infraction, and a spiritual sin. Because there is a big difference. For example-- its against the law to drive a car if your license has expired. But you won't go to hell for it. And vise-versa, its a sin for 2 adults to have sex outside of marriage... But the law doesn't care if you do. The point is, God and the law do not always go hand in hand. As far as legal matters go, in a lot of places, the law will greatly favor the spouse who got "cheated on", and legally, dating before the divorce is (legally) final is (again legally)considered cheating. I don't know if you have kids, or posessions in/around the home that you and your spouse are struggling to divy up. But if your ex can prove you were with someone else before the divorce was legally final (and they decide to be mean), they can get most of it. The only reason divorce takes so long, is because of legal paper work. But that has absolutely no place in heaven. There never were and never will paper documents there. Those are not "devine mandate", they are just records with which the government keeps track of you. How did they do marriage and divorce before they had paper??? All they had were witnesses. And the old "Let it be said, let it be heard, let it be final" was the main practice. As it would be in heaven. The ceremony and the vocal / emotional commitment you made is what has meaning in heaven. But if you have publically/religiously renounced and abandoned those, and you are no longer married in your heart or soul, then... Really you are not. If you want to argue about adultry and religion.... Hehe, well the bible says that if you get a divorce, and then re-marry while your first spouse is still alive, that second marriage is ADULTRY. Seriously, the bible pretty much expects you to either patch it up with your spouse, or stay single for the rest of your life. So from a religious standpoint, it doesn't matter when you fell into the arms of a different lover. It just matters that you did. If that's true, and you're really going to be in trouble no matter what, then I suppose it doesn't really matter. The reason the law takes their time with this, is to give people a chance to patch it up. Also because the system is backed up and slow. But if you're sure that's not going to happen, then the extra time they insist on is useless. Its your choice to date or not date, nobody here can choose for you. And because of the above bible reference, I really do think at this point, it would be more of a legal infraction, than and a matter of sin. As I said, that's all about time and paperwork. However, if you do decide to date, you should probably keep it under the table, at least for the law's sake. EDDIT: Felt kind of bad, so I had to add this-- I know most people feel that suggesting to another member that they date under the table is probably not the most... Uh... LDS thing to say. And righfully so, its not. I think the time it takes to complete the divorce its not too long to wait, and you may do a lot more healing and growing during that time. On a funadental level, I personally think you should wait. But again, its up to you. Of course, that doesn't mean you can't simply make friends with other people, just as a fellow adult. And after the divorce is over, your new friend might decide they really like you. Or if you already really like each other, say so. But tell them "I want to wait until my divorce is over. Then we can date." If they really like you, the will wait. But make sure they are aware of what's going on in your life.

Maybe... I wonder if a deep shampoo would help.

A lot of moms come in here, so I'm sure you've dealt with carpet cleaning issues, and I wanted to ask people who were more likely to have figured out a few tricks... Ok, here's the problem-- Incredibly, this week, my husband had three "spilled drink" mishaps with the carpet next to our bed. He would put a drink on the bed-side table, and someone moving around (or the cat) would knock it over. Seriously, 3 times just this week, but never before. haha. It would spill all over the carpet, in the same spot. I would do my best to dab/dry it up, but naturally I ccouldn't get it all. By the way, no more drinks are allowed there anymore... lol. Anyway, the carpet is still slightly damp. It looks clean, but... Now, there is this HORRIBLE smell comming from that spot! And when I say horrible, I mean horrible. Basically, its like dirty socks, and a dead animal. Bleh!!! I tried Febreeze, no luck. It would work for like an hour, then the smell would come back. If I didn't know better, I would think somebody sold that patch of carpet to the devil, lol. Any suggestions for getting that icky smell to go away?

I'll see if I can find the book on rapidshare :)

LOL, hey he probably could, and still get away with it... He's really good friends with the store owner :)

Hahaha :) Ok, I take it back... I probably would trade the hand-made card for that! Woohoo! But that's a good idea, I probably will film that when it happens and make the background song the ever famous "Haaaaa-llelujah!"

I made sure to get shots of what my husband gave me when he came home from work last night, for Valentine's Day. This was sooooo sweet! I honestly wouldn't trade this for any other gesture, because it was meaningful, and it took extra effort besides just purchasing a card... Further proof that TRUE romance doesn't have to be expensive, lol. Anyway, take a look at this: YouTube - Valentines Day 2010

I like to think that children still have a close connection with god. Its been a very long time since I have shared this story with anyone (probably more than 20 years). But I figure this is the place to do it... When I was 5 years old, my mother worked as a visiting in-home care assistant for the elderly. There was one particularly nice old lady named Mona. She never had kids of her own, but she really loved them! She always let me and the other neighborhood kids play in her yard while my mom cleaned her house. She made us cookies and everything. I liked her a lot! Sadly, one day, Mona died. I was still only 5, I had known her less than a year. But she was like a second grandma to me. My mother took me to see Mona's grave, and as we stood there, she tried her best to explain death to me. She said our bodies are like a glove, and our souls are like the hand inside that can make it move. But if our soul (or the hand) goes out, the glove just lays there, with no life in it. I tried my best to understand, and I asked if Mona was burried there in the grave. If she was trapped. My mom said only her body is burried. But her life and soul are free to go anywhere they want. Then my mom started crying, and looking up at the sky, saying, "Mona, where are you? Please come and see me, I miss you so much." My mom never really got a long with her own mother, so Mona was sort of like the nice, loving mother she never had. She really loved Mona too, like I did. Well, the grave was on a small hill. As we stood there, suddenly I heard Mona's voice say, "I'm right here... Hold on, I'm comming." I looked down the hill, and Mona was there!!! She was walking toward us very slowly. I was so excited, because while mom was explaining death, she also said that we would never see Mona again, until after we got really old and "went to heaven". When I saw Mona, I pointed at her, then turned to my mother and said, "Look! There's Mona, right there!" My mom turned to look... I could see Mona clear as day, but mom said, "Where? What are you talking about?" I kept insisting Mona was right there, and pointing, but my mom just looked at me kind of wierd... I didn't understand why she couldn't see her. Finally, I looked again, and Mona was gone. To this day, I'm not sure if it was my child-like creative imagination, or if I REALLY saw something. But all I can say is, it was VERY real to me. And the memory is as clear as any other I have. Maybe some day I'll know.

Well.... Sometimes looks are an indication of how a person lives their life. But their are also issues with looks that have nothing to do with weather a person takes care of themselves. Like if they are overweight because of a thyroid condition, or because they have started taking a certain medication (yes, some medications will cause weight gain). Even birth control causes it. On the flip side, I know tons of people who are really vain; they spend an hour getting dressed up, and walk around all day looking like a million bucks--- but its just to cover up the fact that they are a disgusting, lazy slob in private! In fact, our room mate's ex-girlfriend is like that! She has the face of an angel, bright blue eyes, natural platinum-blond hair, perfect slim (but well endowed) body, dresses like a model, goes to professional salons (her father is a doctor and spoils her)... BUT, she parties in bars every night, cheats on every guy she dates, leaves cluttered messes and dishes with moldy food on them all over her apartment, can't cook to save her soul, buys new clothes instead of doing laundry, and she's had 5 abortions beacuse she HATES children! And to top it off, she bounces from job to job, and is the biggest shrew you could ever meet. Sure she's really sweet when you first meet her, and pretty much has everybody fooled. But when you really get to know her, you're like... DANG! Could a person be any more ugly on the inside?? So yeah, clean-cut attractive looks aren't always a sign of being responsible, or healthy in the heart / mind.

Exactly, I mean people usually falsly accuse you of things when they themselves are doing it, or at least thinking about it. And actually, that's a good point about the script not even being real. He never did show it to us... Heck, even with just the magic mushrooms, he's putting us in dagner. You get ten years to life for posession of that. I mean, I'm sure that after the police tested us, and saw that it was only amongst HIS posessions, we could be let off. But still, just being accused of that can mess up yoru reputation. I'm thinking we probably should have someone on standby like you guys sais, just in case he gets loony... I was kinda thinking maybe we could word it in a way that keeps him calm, but I really don't think there is a sweet way to say "get out". lol

I know, right? lol