jayanna

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  1. There is a temple worker at the Dallas temple with a long, snowy beard. Maybe you should talk to the Temple Pres.y about it...give them a call and explain your nerve situation and ask, what could it hurt? Also, if they still say you have to be clean shaven, there are still barber shops that do shaves, and Also women sometimes use facial creams such as nair to remove their mustaches. And no, enough is not enough until you are called home...it is called enduring to the end for a reason. And I really don't understand how all of that service you spoke of (incl. your kids' missions) have anything to do with shaving to work at the temple. What does a pavillion have anything to do with it? Remember, we are unprofitable servants..no matter how much service we give we can never give more than what has been given to us.
  2. Oh, Pheonix, I feel so terrible that I did not read this thread earlier...I'm so sorry about your feelings, I think you should be sad...for as long as you need to be. It is hard to carry such a burden around. It is a big deal to have a ward change suddenly. Also, a calling change like that. When my hubby was EQP for about a year, I came to church as usual one Sunday. He was blessing the Sacrament so we weren't sitting together when they announced he was released. I was stunned. Then they announced his new calling as ward mission leader. I was stunned again. I had to grab the pew in front of me, I really thought I might pass out. I don't know why, but I started crying. I looked straight into the SP's face, and he knew he was in trouble. Did they decide it was none of my business or something? The SP leaned over and said something to his counselor and the bishop. After the meeting I found out he said, "We owe Sis. ______________ an apology." And he apologized. I don't know how ward splitting generally goes, but a word of kindness is necessary I think. Also, I think you should call and take that opportunity to be an usher at the temple! Someone with your knowledge and experience would be greatly appreciated at a temple open house! Also it is history in the making. I'll never forget when, as a new member dating a Baptist, we went on a date to a temple open house. It was amazing for me...I had never been to a temple, and it was a major stepping stone for my now husband to accept my religion and not judge it harshly. There were some questions and a little bit of fear at first, but it was handled so beautifully by those church members who were present at the temple grounds at every turn. They were so friendly and welcoming, it was wonderful, and made the trip a really inspiring one. Who knows, you could be that helpful smile, or that person that helps a little lady in a wheelchair that gives someone their first temple experience. What a wonderful chance to be a representative of Christ. I think you should take it, call them back, tell them you can do it after all. Maybe your wife can come by and see you working. I think it would be an amazing experience! One more thing, when the rains and thunder start howling, and the winds are blowing, it is not the time to let go of the iron rod...you need it now more than ever. Cling to it, as if you have a tornado bearing down on you, as if your very life and the life of your beloved wife are dependent on it. That is why it is made of iron.
  3. Don't feel too bad, lost, it is still really great advice for teens who are thinking about joining the church and might read this thread. Ratchet, I joined the church in my twenties, and I had to live with my parents for a little while because of illness. It was really hard, b/c they felt betrayed. I was up front about it, and they asked me to not pray out loud in their house and they didn't want me to read scriptures. I honored their wishes, but sang hymns whenever they weren't home to cheer myself up. I moved out when my hubby and I got married. In the long run, though, my honesty has really paid off...It has been 10 years or so and now I can invite them to some activities and they will actually come, because they know that I am up front with them and don't hide anything. sometimes I think peoples worst fear about our religion is that there are secret, hidden, ugly things that we don't tell them. Lying to them might make it worse, and yet, you wouldn't want to talk about it in every conversation...just when it is brought up, like "what did you do this weekend?" kind of stuff. Mostly, I would say to be really prayerful and love them...you will be okay.
  4. Well, as far as sex is concerned, no they will not have that in any kingdom except where we can be eternal companions. You would have to be sealed. However, the 'oneness' I described, or heard described in my memory can also not be fully achieved in this estate. I think our understanding of it will come to full flower in the celestial kingdom. I don't think we will be able to look at someone other than our companion and have 'urges'. We will be beyond temptation, having no adversary, but we will be able to feel that way about our spouse at appropriate moments, and when we choose to. Not just a physical experience between two people, but something much much more. As a sealed couple we will have no divisions, a full capacity of our brain power, we will be unified in every way...with no concern about self-esteem or insecurity.
  5. dry socket is something you should definitely look up...on webmd or something. bookkeeper is the only word with three double letters in a row.
  6. Great and get a second opinion And consider your level of current functionality before deciding on when/where/how to try medications. Also, I know this is a rubber stamp, knee jerk reaction, but consider it may be hormones. I got a hormone shot once before a surgery, and even though I was warned about the effects, on my way to bed...for some reason I was completely overwhelmed by rage. Thankfully, my hubby didn't make any quick movements, he just said, "honey, what kind of shot did you get today? and do you have to get any more of those?" It brought me back to reality pretty quick, but the wave of anger was unbelievable.
  7. you have cleaned somebody else's boogies out of their nose today.
  8. As far as I can remember, no. There was a curiosity about the 'oneness' of it as described by others, I definitely remember having heard about it and being curious...but it could not be fully understood until we came here. We also don't look the same as we did then, if that makes any difference to you in the attraction idea. We did not look anything like what we do now, really. Well, we had a bit of a shape, but not the color, or texture that we have now. We lacked definition of our finer features. Our personalities were more prevalent than our appearances, and we were much more like children...not having an understanding of some things, and knowing that we didn't understand it. Having no experience, we mostly just knew what we were told.
  9. you possess every known cure for diaper rash the only songs you can think of are geared for ages under 8
  10. you have searched for an hour for a missing Barbie shoe you have asked someone, "have you gone poopie?"
  11. 26¶And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth. Genesis 1Â*
  12. Yes, he is my everything. We have been threatened with this sort of an issue with my health on occasion. He has never been worried. I have always wanted to have children with him, but can't, and we knew it before marriage, while we were dating in fact. I asked him once when I had 'baby fever', "Doesn't it bother you that we can't have little ones?" "Don't worry about that," he said, "We'll have plenty of family later...you'll be healed" He was talking about this, taught in the Latter-Day Saint Woman: "President Brigham Young comforted those childless women who had been faithful to their temple covenants, saying: “Many of the sisters grieve because they are not blessed with offspring. You will see the time when you will have millions of children around you. If you are faithful to your covenants, you will be mothers of nations. … Be faithful, and if you are not blest with children in this time, you will be hereafter” (in Deseret News [Weekly], 28 Nov. 1860, 306). The Latter-day Saint Woman: Basic Manual for Women, Part A Lesson 14: The Latter-day Saint Woman What I do know is that we are best friends, and, yes, someday I will be healed...though I think I will still have to catch my breath when he kisses me.
  13. It does not matter what he said, or how right/wrong it is. If he is not ready to accept what you say, you will be wasting your time which could be spent on more important matters. What matters is what you do from here. Here is an article from the 2006 Ensign He Offended Me! - Ensign Jan. 2006 It explains exactly what I am trying to say.
  14. well, my hairdresser suggested ketchup once. She said that the acid in it would gently strip the hair, although that was a suggestion for blond hair. Otherwise, I guess wash it, wash it, wash it. Red fades the fastest.
  15. I understand how frustrating it is....it would be best, though, for priesthood to move on to the next lesson rather than covering disagreements on the previous one. Build on common ground, the Lord does not want divisions in your ward, there is too much work to do to get wrapped up on this issue.
  16. IT is really tempting to get wound up contending with others. The Lord has helped me with this issue, personally. He gave me a dream where there was this really big house, and a big yard with a sign out front. It was one of those signs that have a big arrow lined around the edges with lightbulbs. All of the lightbulbs in the house were out, as well as the ones on the sign outside. I was working with others to change all of the lights. There were people smiling and working together to change the lights. Everything was bluey/gray in color, and slowly became more homey/yellow. I was one of the people who were charged with the changing of the lights. As I got my materials (I'm a shorty) to change bulbs, someone started talking to me. It was a man. He had really rotten teeth, but he was so happy that I was talking with him, and he was such an interesting conversationalist that I got really wound up listening to him responding. I was so distracted by this conversation that when I looked up at the progress of the work, everything was already done. There were no more lights to change and I didn't get to help with any of it. The conversation was so trivial I don't even remember what it was about. When I woke up I promised myself that I would focus on the work and not get distracted from my purpose by things like bad conversations. In the end, they lead nowhere, people won't except advice they don't ask for...sure we are supposed to shine a light, but people have to come towards that light, we can't chase them with it, it only makes them run away.
  17. I have put a pill with applesauce, or with chocolate pudding, or swallowed with chocolate milk. Personally, I think the pudding worked best.
  18. Oh, soulsearcher, I don't feel that way as those other members do. I cannot imagine having to live every day with such a huge challenge that you are facing. I applaud your choice to stay chaste. If your church friends are 'beating you down' you should find new ones...like me :) I certainly hope you have not been denied a recommend in spite of your true chastity. I don't think my hubby would deny one on the grounds of being tempted to sin, but choosing not to act on those temptations. I haven't asked him, but I seriously don't think he would. I know it hurts when people make thoughtless, uncaring comments on a situation that they have never been in. I am afraid I might have made those kind of comments on different situations than the current one, and hope to be more like Christ in the future. I have had numerous members give their opinions on my struggle with my heart condition time and time again, in front of groups, and even taught in classes. It is like a slap in the face. Everyone knows they are talking about me, even when they are trying to be obtuse about it. I have been told I'm not faithful enough, not keeping the word of wisdom, putting my burden on others, become dependent on medication (which they evidently think is a sin) and not even worthy to be married to my spouse. More than one person has suggested that I don't deserve a recommend. While I do not believe my health issue compares with your struggle, I think the reactions I get from others can be similar. It's awful, and I have a hard time going to church sometimes. When I sit there in class and they give me another slap in the face in front of everyone, I know that my Savior sees it. You hang in there soulsearcher, don't give up.
  19. IMO Sunday worship isn't just so God can have a day where people worship Him. Sunday is for us to rest, fill our cup once again, and take a day to prepare and focus on why we work so hard the rest of the week. It is not just for Him, it is for us. One day out of seven we need to do this, for us and for our relationship with our Heavenly Father. If you have to work on Sunday, make another day of the week your Sabbath. Any relationship you have is going to require time from your schedule to maintain. Man cannot live on bread alone.
  20. I don't think I would have trouble trusting...it would be more like, it would be wrong to tempt them further. Even the temple has locks on the lockers. We lock our car doors while we are in church, why? It is not a sin to be tempted. Even Jesus was tempted. It is a sin to temp others. It would be a sin for me to make coffee when I know that someone in the proximity is trying to stop drinking it. It would be a sin for me to dress immodestly when I know I'm going to run into someone who is trying to overcome an adulterous nature. So, basically what I guess I am trying to say is that it wouldn't change how I feel about them, but I would try to be more considerate of their challenges. This reminds me of a lesson the Savior taught the apostles in Luke 7 Link: Luke 7Â
  21. You know, I can feel ya' I started out on the career track. Med. school, Dean's Honor Roll, I was doing great, I was accepted to a med. school at 18. I was so young and ready to prove myself. Then one day, I don't know, I guess I just woke up and realized I was doing it all to impress people. I wanted money and respect, and to please my parents, and to be in the local country club. When it came down to it, though, I was extremely unhappy. I hated all of it. I went to that country club, and those people hated each other! They were nasty, and greedy, and well, awful, and I didn't want to be like them any more. (though on reflection maybe it was just a bad batch) I wanted a family. I wanted the family that I now have. I love laying down next to my hubby and smelling him (yes, smelling) and listening to my kids breathing in their sleep. I love baby feet. I love my little home. There is so much that I couldn't list, it just wouldn't fit. If I wanted to go back to school, my hubby wouldn't mind at all, would pay for it in fact. He is working full time and going to school full time, (he didn't have the confidence in himself to go to college until he met me) and has a challenging calling...but he would support me in going back any time I want to. He would cook all of the dinners, and do the laundry. He would entertain the kids while I study and do homework. I could go back any time I want...but I don't want to. I'm a librarian now, and I really like it, but I only do it to help pay for our little home, and college for the kids. Family is the only reason I have a 'career'. I am happy, and it just so happens that I feel that I am doing what the Lord wants me to do. Maybe He wants you to focus on something else, that does not mean that you are any less precious to Him. That does not mean I have any less value, either. So, if my role is different from yours, that's okay, we can't all be hands, or all be feet, some of us need to be shoulders, or elbows, to make up the 'body of Christ'. We all have value to Him. To all things there is a season.
  22. Hi! Well, I think before I can give advice I need to have some background on what you have already tried/what caused you to get so confused....?
  23. I am so glad that you have chosen to repent and follow the Savior. :) You will feel much joy after you have seen your bishop, and he will have a chance to tell you how precious you are as a daughter of God. Take the next step on the road to forgiveness. Just think how wonderful it will feel to have this weight off of your shoulders! Yes, he will take into account that you did not have the gospel in your life during such a trying period. He will be so glad that you chose to return to the fold after going through so much. About dating RM's...I would say go ahead and date them if there is no danger of being tempted beyond what you are ready to bear. You should love yourself, though, and be confident that you can be sealed to a worthy priesthood holder in the House of the Lord after you have completed this repentance process. If you meet someone who is worth his salt, he will not care at all about past transgressions, he will feel honored that someone that is strong like you has chosen him.
  24. webmasterteen, did you watch conference? Well, they were talking about this very thing! As findingmyway has mentioned above...God obviously answered your question in conference this weeked, He has heard your prayers and answered your concerns through authorities He has sent, and prepared for your welfare. You have a reason to have JOY! :) The Lord has sent you so much, scriptures, prayer, a Savior, apostles, and prophets...before you read that anti stuff, if you insist on reading it...you need to put on the whole armor of God. He has offered you ways to get testimony. If you live the gospel you will find that it is true. What are these anit's telling you all this stuff for, are they wanting to improve your family life? Are they encouraging you to do good works? Are they helping you find a way to find happiness and fulfillment? Are they telling you that you have a divine purpose? Or are they angry and jealous that you have something they don't? After reading their comments/remarks how do you feel? Do you feel good? Do you feel the joy you feel when you read the scriptures and they tell you to be good to others and that you are loved? Don't sell your birthright for a bowl of food.
  25. loved conference Again!