jayanna

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  1. I am wondering when was the last time you used those recommends? How long since it has not been precious to her? I think her cup has run dry, and you do have a responsibility to meet her spiritual needs, so it is your business, but not in a disciplinary kind of way. I think you should approach this during a spiritual moment like FHE or family scripture study. Express your gratitude for the gospel in your life, make a list of all the good things that have come from having the gospel, and hope. I love the time I spend in the temple with my husband. We went today actually, and it was wonderful. We ate in the cafeteria, and laughed and joked with each other. We held hands and prayed in the Celestial room together. If she does get her testimony and recommend back, I think you should arrange child care (if applicable) and take your precious wife to the temple. Regardless, I think she should go to her interviews and tell them that she is struggling so they can help her as well. She must have been through a lot lately if she is questioning her testimony. If she is just putting on a good front for others, she might assume others do the same as well...but why would she bother putting on an appearance? Why bother at all? Are there sisters that she cares about that she doesn't want to affect in a bad way? Her cup is empty, help her fill it.
  2. the fauxhawk is not extreme in any way...nothing to worry about to be honest, when I am taking sacrament I'm so busy with my issues that the Priesthood could have blue hair and I wouldn't notice. but the fauxhawk, if you look at the pictures, is pretty tame really. Actually, I wouldn't mind if a missionary had one. I've given several missionaries haircuts, and I tend to make them shorter on the back and the sides, and a bit longer on top and toward the front. I wonder if I have ever inadvertently given them a cut that is not appropriate. But I do have to say on a side note, I don't get the white shirt thing. There are a lot of men in my ward who wear colored dress shirts to church on Sunday, and they are in ward leadership, so I don't really get looking down on them for wearing a color. My hubby has never worn a colored dress shirt to church, maybe it's because I'm a sister and that issue doesn't really concern me, but the symbolism is for the sacrament, right? Not for general people attending and not planning to pass the sacrament I mean? And the bishopric wear white shirts and jackets, but otherwise, I don't think anything is specified for attendees? What about conference, where no sacrament is passed? I should probably start my own thread about that. I don't know, as long as people are modest I don't care what they wear, in some cultures what I wear on a daily basis is extreme, so I would rather not treat others differently because of their apparel or appearance as long as they are modest. I just feel awkward around people who are showing off their underwear, or lack thereof. In short, Cut your hair however you want, thank you for passing the sacrament :)
  3. Oldangela, I understand your post all too well, I have a chronic illness that has affected my family in many ways. At first others told me that I just lacked faith, or that I was unrighteous and just being punished, but now I now that sometimes this is what is necessary to give my family the opportunity to learn. This is the Lord's way of making weak things strong. We are a much better family now, we cling to each other more, we hold tighter to that iron rod, and my kids have learned so much about their abilities, and have gained more confidence in themselves. There is an excellent lesson in the Family Home Evening Resource Book that I think would make all the difference for your families to share on family home evening. It is "When Illness Strikes" it helped me and my family. It includes some inspiring information about President Kimball, who as you may know endured cancer and open-heart surgery. Bishop Peterson is quoted, "I thought as I saw him seated in his chair, with the Apostles' hands on his head, 'Why? Why should a man who has been through what he has endured now have to go through open-heart surgery?' I knew the Lord could heal him in an instant if he chose to, and I wondered why he didn't. But now I understand, as I'm sure you do, that the Lord was preparing a man, and Apostle, to be his prophet. He wanted a prophet and a president who would listen to him, who could receive the promptiongs of the Spirit and would be open to them." FHE Resource Book P. 140 That is just one tiny part of that lesson, and I highly recommend it.
  4. oh, congratulations, firefly! I'm so happy for you! This experience is very important both for you and for someone you might help in the future :) I think you should put it in a journal!
  5. That is my understanding as well, Pam, I don't think an earthly divorce can have an effect on an eternal sealing...bound one earth, in heaven and all that...I'm pretty sure it would take a cancellation for the first wife to not be sealed anymore. In, which case, she would probably be getting sealed to someone else. She does not lose the blessings from being sealed even though her husband has remarried another.
  6. okay, and you could make a list of jobs that are worse than yours...you know like septic tank emptier, or giving bikini waxes to men...
  7. Sometimes, when the Lord gives us revelation about what we should do, he doesn't give any more until what He asked us to do in the previous revelation has been done. I think once you complete that job that you prayed and got an answer over, you will recieve more about what to do next. The Spirit has already answered you on it, so why do you keep asking? All these troubles and hard days shall be to your good. Remember when you get older how you feel now when others discount your contributions because of your age, so that you don't treat others badly because of their age. Look for reasons to be thankful, although I know it must be hard, do it anyway. You can start with the fact that your are healthy enough to crawl through attics, I sure wish I could be that healthy for a day :) Now make your own little list and add something to it each day....it might even be, "I'm so glad there are no raccoons in this attic!"
  8. I have been to a Stake conf. where a member of the 12 mentioned me in a talk :) Although, I do admit, I don't press forward to try to shake their hand, although at that conference the Elders came to get me and asked me to come forward b/c they said that the men who spoke that day wanted to meet me. I didn't want to be rude, and I was a little curious. The crowd was too thick though, and I had my little children with me. I didn't make it to the front. But, you know, it is nice to have people that want to meet you, I felt like I was wanted in the Lord's church. Don't get me wrong, I do appreciate the work they do to serve us...but my hubby is a priesthood holder, my home teacher is one too, and the blessings and revelation they give to me are just as good as a blessing and revelation I could get from an Apostle. I'm not sure if that came out very clearly. And besides, I figure that other people who do press forward to meet them and such, maybe they have needs that are greater than mine, and they can have my spot.
  9. South central 1. side 2. pop 3. side 4. tear it up, spoon (breakfast) 5. grits, sweet, breakfast 6. under 7. green onions, right out of the garden 8. Pecahn, also from our own back yard
  10. I like going on lds.org and reading all kids of things there. .. also there is mormon.org where you can chat with missionaries You can also go on a trip to the temple and do baptisms there. Remember that you are not alone...read your scriptures, the church magazines, and pray a Lot. For a little while I lived with my parents right after I joined the church and they were anti. It was really hard, but hang in there, the Lord is in it with you. There are no challenges that He cannot overcome for you.
  11. Sorry, Gracie, but a year seems to be the standard. giving up your baptism, confirmation, and temple ordinances (if you had any) is serious, very very serious...all the covenants you made, you ended. Not just one, which can cause excommunication, but ALL of them. IF it takes a year, so be it. Trade one year for an eternity with your Heavenly Father. Worth it. I hope it goes well for you. Let us know how it turns out.
  12. It is true, they don't remember. Other people will not remember if you do leave a bit later than you thought you would, probably not even your parents. The important thing to consider here is not worrying about what other people will think. The important thing is to make sure everything is right between you and the Lord. When you get this issue cleared up you will be on your mission with a clear conscience, knowing with confidence that you have support from the Lord. This weight will be lifted and you can move ahead focusing on those things that you need to focus on, which is scripture knowledge, and a heart full of a desire to be of service to others.
  13. I have been researching your question on lds.org in the handbook that is available there, and haven't found anything besides that the bishop decides when individuals are ready to be baptized. He is the Bishop because he was called to be the Bishop. Each bishop is reviewed and approved by the First Presidency before receiving their calling. If he is good enough for them, then he is good enough. However, if things do go against the counsel of the Lord (which has happened) the Bishop will be changed quickly...I have seen this happen myself, and rest assured this is the Lord's church, and if things aren't going His way, it will be changed. Remember that your Bishop is giving up his time with his family to be with you, and that he can recieve revelation to ensure your care. If it is a year, then there must be a reason for it. Rather than worrying about whether he is worthy, ask the Lord to help you realize why it would be serious enough to wait a year for.
  14. Maybe she is reacting instinctively to a physical condition she has. When I had my second child I asked for a tubaligation, I didn't know why at the time, I just felt like I should get one. I couldn't shake the feeling. I just knew it was the right thing to do. Later I found out about my heart problem, several cardiologists and 2 obgyn's have told me that getting pregnant would be extremely dangerous, one of us probably wouldn't make it, and I definitely would not make it through labor. She is only 24, though that may seem a bit older from your perspective, she has a long time to go before her child bearing years are over. Let her enjoy this time alone with you. Be grateful for the wonderful woman who has chosen to be with you. Give her experiences that she can look back on and smile whenever you two are going through the rough patches in your relationship. Don't pressure her, the idea of going through childbirth is extremely intimidating. I don't think it is appropriate to involve other family members from either side into this issue. Be kind and patient, and be glad for what you've got. Maybe in time she will feel comfortable opening up to you about why she is so reluctant to increase the family, until then be still and be of peace.
  15. Wait, Beefche, you eat, gasp, hamburger!?! Isn't that cannibalism? rofl, on the thread about cannabis bieng legal...I thought they were talking about cannibalism...snicker...I'm such a geek slamjet, what about me, what would I do? me next me next!
  16. Out of where? if it's your home, you can dedicate your home with a prayer...if it is you, you can't do it on yourself, like you can't baptize yourself, you can't give yourself a healing blessing, etc. In the scriptures, Satan was told to leave in the name of Jesus Christ 3 times in a row, and then he would leave...that was when he was pestering someone. I'm pretty sure they would cover this kind of thing in Priesthood. Seems like something that should be discussed to me.
  17. I have always thought of this moment being described as the moment when we will suddenly have full use of our entire brain capacity. I also think that the sins that will plague us are the sins that we do not repent of, thus creating our misery....if we have misery...or joy in knowing that those sins are no longer.
  18. I have recently had an excercise in this principle. I grew up in a home where my mother was the major breadwinner, and was very career oriented. She made all of the financial decisions, and very rarely did my dad make any decisions at all. Recently I have had an opportunity at work, a sort of promotion, with more responsibility and more pay, but twice the time away from home. I was not looking forward to being away from home and our 2 teenagers. I prayed about whether or not to accept the position. I got nothing. I prayed again and again, still nothing. I asked my Bishop what he thought about it, since his office is at my work and everyone at work was wondering what I was going to do. People were constantly asking me about it. He said that my husband would know what would be best for our family. I had some feelings about this, I felt it was my decision, and that he wouldn't take it as seriously as I did. I went to the temple with my dh and as we sat in the celestial room and prayed I had the answer to follow his counsel. This is a completely new experience for me, you must understand, a very humbling one. I asked the one presiding over our family whether or not I should take on this bigger job, and agreed to follow whatever his answer was. He said I should do it. He had prayed about it, and had received an answer. He reminded me of the benefits (college to pay for in the future) and how the job was perfect for me (it is my dream job), and that he and the kids would pick up the slack in the housework. So now, I am home when they leave for school and he is home when they come back. It isn't easy, but it will be worth it when we will be able to send them to college. I also found out that there is an amazing pension plan available to me now...we can afford to go on a mission or two if I make it to retirement.
  19. I would suggest going to gospel principles class, and you will probably get a home teacher/teachers. Welcome! It's like entering into a whole new world, take it slow and steady.
  20. Well, there aren't any classes on 'how to be a good host' or anything. Some people don't have a checklist of good hosting, some do. While I do a lot of things for my guests (drinks, etc) I don't expect it when I go to others homes, nor do I feel offended if they don't do the same. I'm there to see them, not to be entertained. If I'm thirsty, I say, "Do you have some water?" In my husband's family they bring their own drinks to functions, and it's considered rude to expect them to furnish you one. My close friends, and there are very few, can come in and serve themselves...from getting their own drinks to fixing themselves a sandwich, or some popcorn!
  21. I love doing missionary work actually. I love going with the elders to teach investigators and less active members. I love sharing the gospel and the positive changes it has made to my life. Concerning agency...not sharing the gospel is taking their agency away, not the other way around...how can they chose to live the gospel when they haven't even been given the chance to find out what it is? Agency is an educated choice. I am asked questions about God, about my church, 4,5, sometimes 6 times a day by different people. Most of the time the same people come back later and ask some more questions. They ask because they know I won't judge them, or make them feel stupid, and I'll tell them the truth. I don't challenge them to make commitments, but I do invite. I like having some church activity to invite people to, or to come to my house to have a discussion with the elders. The gospel has brought me such peace, hope, and completeness to my life. I have a purpose. My family love each other more. I am a better parent, a better wife, I know how to love others, I know how to love myself. When there are troubles, I can handle them better...how can I not share this? I know that not everyone feels this way, maybe if you aren't ready, your talents may lie elsewhere. Maybe its music, or administration, primary, genealogy, home/visit teaching, service projects or any number of different things that are important to forwarding the Lord's work on the earth.
  22. I have webroot at home and deepfreeze at work along with Vipre. Have you guys ever heard of those? The webroot seems to be working well. Also, slamjet I have to confess something...I used firefox on Amazon...it was so amazingly faster...wow
  23. I love 3 Nephi...and Ether Ether answered a lot of questions I had before I found out about the BOM...I had so many questions for so long, and here there is a book.
  24. Funnily enough my first date with my hubby was on the same day my divorce was final. Date someone that you can admire as being a really great person. Don't take baggage from your old relationship into a new one...like 'so and so did this so I'm still afraid she might do that too' Oh, and make sure your ex can't make your girlfriend miserable. That is the best thing I ever did. Protect that brave soul who dates you when you have an ex. I'm excited for you!
  25. I ran into the free services issue when I had my home daycare. Members would call me and say, "I'm gonna bring my grandkids by and drop them off." No, YOu're Not! I have to have shot records and enrollment forms filled out. I planned meals a month ahead at a time for the meals program I was on, that if they come and inspect and I have deviated or altered the amount of kids, or have extra kids that I don't tell them about...I'd get dropped from the program. If I got inspected by DHS without shot records or proper enrollment forms (which they check every time) I could be shut down. Multiple times I was called to care for children of someone needy in the ward, for an undetermined amount of time...each time I had to say no. Don't get me wrong, I feel for them, I really do, but I couldn't keep openings forever just in case someone needed some emergency childcare. I was also the nursery leader, so everyone were really comfortable with dropping their kids off and, say, I'll get them back on Sunday....I couldn't believe it. Drop off on Friday, called that night, oh by the way we will get him/her on Sunday. I finally had to close my daycare, the same month I had my 2nd heart surgery.