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I"m sorry, but this feels totally wrong. People with depression get into victim mode and all they can see is how unliked they are. They also interpret others banter as being malicious talk about them when it just may well not be. You need to get professional help, fast. You need to talk to your Bishop, fast. You have a martyrdom complex that's only going to get worse. It's going to turn into an "I'll show them" action that will be irreversible. So please, talk to someone who can help you. You need it desperately.

BeefChe, been tipped lately?

I couldn't watch the whole thing. It's so, so, so, dang. The word I want to say is borderline inappropriate for this forum. In any case, I need to take a shower to get that slimy feeling off.

Oh my GOODNESS!!! You're laughing at the sufferings of others! How HEARTLESS! How COLD!!! Ok, It's funny as heck!

To open up a discussion. Normal conversation wanders around a subject as a way to explore all aspects of it. Topics and threads are the same way. So we go from favorite movie to historical accuracy. It's all the same subject matter expanded to a complete exploration of it. It's an organic method that's intellectually healthy. Be patient and go with the flow. It's what makes this place fun.

So, there once was a man from Nantucket...

Never seen them.

I would dare say to not try to analyze addictive behavior with any sense of logic such as "he want's this type of woman because that's who he cheated on me with." Sex addicts are a complex, manipulative beast with so many things that contributed to their warped decision making. Also, don't expect this to be a short term therapy thing. The answer is very complicated to a very simple question: Why did he do it? In my experience, and quite frankly I'm pretty much the norm, when it comes to SA, it will take years of therapy and counseling for him to figure out why he chose the way he did. It took me about two years to figure out why I did what I did, longer to forgive others in my past, and about six years to come to come to some semblance of forgiveness of myself. The road is hard and a huge emotional mine field. He will need you to touch him, and at the same time, leave him alone. He needs you to not mother him, but to listen and accept that there will be many things he will not tell you (nor is it wise for him to do so). You both will need to understand that the trust you had in him will never be the same. You both will need to learn that boundaries will have to be reset; he will need to finally learn to have them. He will need to learn to talk about his feelings. You will need to learn to let him. You will have to bear with him as he goes through the traumatic times of his life. You will find most of this will be the same for yourself. It will be an excruciating road. But I can tell you that, without a doubt, it is so worth it. I can tell you unequivocally that when I look back, I see a dark, dark cavern that I feel I walked out of. In my minds eye, it's a dark hole that I've left behind. I'm much more comfortable with myself. I learned to live inside my skin. There is so much of me that needs help but I'm finally starting to feel like a normal person, not a monster. He's going to go through most of what I've said himself. I suggest you hold on because it's going to be a bumpy ride. But he is extremely lucky that he has a wife who is going to give him a chance. That, for now, you will stick with him. Who knows if you will still be there with him a few years down the line. But for now, you're there, and he's darn lucky to have you.

What man in their right mind would want to take on more than one wife when about 50% of us can't even keep one marriage together?

And not a Python among them :)

I'm not worried about cross platform. Windows will be the only thing my target will be running. So I'm leaning more towards VB.Net. I downloaded and tried NetBeans and found that there's been a lot of water under the bridge in my knowledge and remembrance of Java. Even VB.Net has changes a lot since the VB 6 days. So I'm going to tinker around with VB for a bit and see how it feels.

I have a project that I'm going to get started on even though I haven't programmed for a decade (yes, I've programmed in FORTRAN and still know my DOS commands). With all the new stuff out there, I've confused myself as to which is the best route. I'm going to make a computer app that may need to work on a server in the future. It will run in the Windows environment and needs to read/write/append a database (my weakest point of knowledge). Possibly three relational databases. I was thinking VB because I can use Access as the database, easy enough. SQL scares me. But I'm looking at Java because there are more classes in the local community colleges. As for databases, should I look at mySQL, PostgreSQL, XML, Access or something different or simpler? Any ideas or advice?

As an X'd member of the church, I'm trying not to get offended nor hot under the collar in the wording of this question. It's tone presupposes that there a person must have a good, quantifiable reason to return into the fold. It shows an animosity for someone who want's to return. You may as well be saying "You are a bad person who doesn't deserve this church because of your actions so think again about coming back." I'd ask that you please rephrase or clarify the question.

An interesting thing about a person who has been X'd is that when they really work at, and come back into the fold, they learn that position in the church is irrelevant. Not that they are happy to be anything in the church, but that it doesn't matter.

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My best site. The other side is too horrific to show, even for the internet.

Gentlemen? Whatever. Dude.

aw DUDE! I'm SOOOOO Loved

Thank goodness 2010 is gone. What a roller coaster of a year! It's a year where I can't say it was good or bad. Because it was BOTH!

You banned me twice already

It is just so sad as to how true every one of those cartoons are.

Let's put this in the most likely order of things I've always been under the opinion that if a person want's to be active, they have to do it first before I go chasing after them. The formula is very, very simple: start reading your scriptures daily, pray twice daily, attend church. Then you will feel it all come back to you. If you're concerned about what people think of you, well, as we say, Christ was the ultimate example of this. There are plenty of stories of people giving up families, work, etc because of their belief in the church. Go read Lehi's account of the Tree of Life and Nephi's explanation of it and decide where you are and where you want to be. Be honest with yourself on if you truly want to give up whatever you need to for the sake of the Gospel. Then be ready to deal with the consequences, either good or bad, of your decision. It's so easy to say we will die for something. But to say we'll live for a cause, that's hard.

Lizzy, wait till you get to BYU-I. They have severe restrictions and filters on their internet. So much so, even the hotels in the area are heavily filtered. You won't be able to use social sights after a certain time of night. It's draconian. My geeky side is appalled.

You're kids should be banned for this alone

HAPPY B-DAY!!!